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What Is The Biggest Problem YOU Have Going On In Your Life Right Now That You Need Help With?
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i have a fairly asimmetric face, so girls just dont look at me and if they do they look with hate in his eyes, dont know why. Also i am very skinny so the thing is im 25 years old and only had a girlfind when i was 20 years old for one month.
im a 4th year psycolohist student and work in an insurance company. Every day i feel more hopeless, more dissapointed at myself.
So i want someone to hug me. I want someone to kiss.
im such a loser.
bye.
Quoting: Anonymous Coward 14111443
I mentioned to someone else that loneliness and a sense of disconnect is one of the leading causes of depression and a by product of our society nowaday which does not encourage a sense of community anymore. So many lonely people looking for love now and thinking that they must be inadequate in some way because they haven't found it; and that is just not true.
You are obviously smart but just reading your post I sense your disatisfaction with yourself and this lack of love for yourself is projected hon, making it even more difficult to find someone because of the lack of confidence that follows.
Think of this time right now, without a partner, as your chance to learn to appreciate yourself. The strangest things happen when people stop being so critical of themselves. When people decide to focus on their strengths and learn to like who they are, the need for someone else actually subsides and yet... others become attracted to you.
This might seem like a bad egs to many but it makes the point I want to make. People like Napoleon and Hitler were not goodlooking men perse. Certainly not great in stature, but even men like these, with great defects in their personalities, attracted others to them because of their overwhelming confidence and self assurance. For someone like you who is nice and smart and who doesn't feel the need to dominate and rule the world (hopefully lol!)this type of self assurance will most certainly attract others to you.
It isn't easy to turn your feelings of self loathing around but forcing yourself to talk to people and go out more is where I started.
Also, know that you are wonderful. We all are, and you do have a mate out there but she is likely somewhat shy too and also working on herself right now.
This time is not proof you do not have what it takes to find a soulmate, it is actually your time to grow as a person, so when you meet her you both will be happier and not be carryiihng the excess baggage you would have if you met her right now with all your insecurities in tow.
Good luck!
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