When you have kids, you give up your life for them or you get in the "scumbag line" - You choose and then your kids live with that choice for the rest of their lives.

Go seek marriage counseling and try to fix your family for your kids.

And for Goodness sake, don't go listening to the people on here telling you to dump your husband. Be aware that this advice has a better than even chance of coming from a mother's basement, from a 30 something, no-family of their own, dysfunctional hermit.

My wife and I have been married for 28 years and have 2 grown kids who are now living on their own.

Marriage is tough but if you brought kids into this world, it's worth fighting to keep it together because it's more than just 2 people involved.