You just hit the 7 year itch. Your previous boyfriend was not the one for you, you didnt feel the best friend connection that you did with your now husband....hence why you stuck with your best mate. You are placing crap on the now husband of doing your best girlfriend because its a way to explain your disaffection.

You love your children, that much is clear and you dont want to stuff that up BUT....you dont want to stay married.....that is fine...divorce for freedom is fine.

I think that you have forgotten that te world is full of men. You dont have to use your ex as a catalyst for change. In fact...you dont need a man at all to be happy.

Were you ever single? Could you be single with kids? Yes you could and they dont need a replacement father! String it along if you must but divorce doesnt mean having to go for a friend to protect your arse. In fact you should make it your aim to be single.....no exes, just you and the kids and visitation rights...so you can go out and date new people occassionally.

If you toss the hubby and start dating the ex.....you are just going back to square one. You need to find yourself....new spirit that doesnt include old baggage. PS the kids arent baggage....only the men are.