Ya know I feel ya, youre right, 100% right my friend.. Thats very scandalous of your wife not to "share the wealth" just a little.. Ive been married for 14 years (im 33, my wife is 2 years younger then me, yes we got married young blahblah thats another story) at 14 my wife got in an car accident, at 21 she got the settlement 17 grand.. I ask her for not a dime i actually wanted nothing to do with the money but guess what, for a alomost 22 year old wife she still put 7 grand of HER money in my sock drawer in a bulova watch case she bought me (ive always a thing for bulova watches) she bought me a watch and gave me 7 grand to fuck off with or this and that.. I put that money well 5 grand of it anyhow into a buddies business that did quite well and i tripled it nearly.. to this day i still have that 7 grand + some, shes never asked for it back or brought up a "i gave you 7 grand waaahhhwahhha i fucking hate you cocksucker motherfucker" type thing.. what Im trying to say is this.... Sounds like your wife is a greedy cunt that will snatch up anything she can get her grubby little crumb snatchers on.. 4k is NOT alot of money today and asking for a measly 400 to buy some fun shit that interest you is not out of line.. thats my take.... also, whens the last time she put your dick in her mouth? may wanna start re-evaluating you situation long as young kids arent involved.. sorry for the abrasion but lets be honest here... good luck buddy..