tough one.must be devastating both for you and your husband.are you sure he is your husband though, i mean how did you marry a man you aren't close enough with to have an orgasm in the first place? maybe there is a better husband for you out there, and you aren't looking coz you have one right now.you are torturing your current husband too, coz of course he minds he can't get his lady to climax, what kind of a man would not be crushed. he probably cheats on you, you know.he needs to make sure it really is you and not him, so he finds other women....one of you should be brave enough to end that torture of a marriage...sorry, if i sound cold, i'm giving my honest two cents.