This is a serious question, and glad that it was asked in a forum where honest adult males could answer. In other words, asking this here was a smart idea in getting the response you're looking for. Personally, I've been with a wide variety of women, with various ideas on what in 'normal' sexually, and what it typical. There's more to the equation than the simple question of "should I, or shouldn't I". It depends on a very expansive set of other parameters of your sex life. Do you have an open relationship sexually? Does your husband take sexual favors for granted?, is the act of oral sex reciprocal? A demanding man in the bedroom can be a real turnoff. I say this as a young man who's been experimental since I was very young. The short answer is.. "maybe". You have to not look at the situation as a psychological experience, and let it be more natural. You have to be able to 'use' the acts you perform as incentive in using the blowback next time. ALL ADULT RELATIONSHIPS ARE FUNDAMENTALLY PSYCHOLOGICAL WARWARE. but that doesn't mean they are designed to function this way. In short, I would advise to perform well sometimes, and other times to ignore all advances all together. The power is yours, and in a human sexual relationship, you, the female must remain in control, unless you want to lose the war, and become something else to your husbad. I say this lightly... Just remember not to make it routine. Because men will take advantage of that immediately.