Sick of stay at home moms whining about how 'hard' they have it.

My kids dad died when they were both in diapers one was two months old, I did not ask to be a single mother, other fathers left by choice, I have empathy for single mothers and took care of their kids for free because as a widow I got SS, most single mothers do not even get child support and work full time. I was a stay at home mom for us all and worked when I could and had to

I am over my religious bull shit, but when you attack a widow the bible says your kids will be left fatherles

Job well done! You deserve some applause!

I left out the fact that as a widowed mother on SS I took on single mothers kids to our farm, I took care of my kids and half a dozen others because I could for free and taught them to fix thier houses when I could no longer do it all for all of us

You can fuck up a job, but you can't fuck up parenting. It is so important for a child to have a parents guiding influence.

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thank you grandma needed that, thank yuu thank thank you

germany ID I had to do it. I was an orphan the state locked up as a kid and stuck needles in my arms as a kid in some remote metal hospital and could not let that happen to them and had to make sure they knew how to run away to live free in the woods like i had too

so to say I deserve an applase makes it ok for them to do what they did to me because it made me better?

Ok OP you seem upset. With my first child I had to work to provide as my ex and I did not make it. After meeting my new husband and 7 yrs later having my second child my husband asked me to stay home. I am not one to complain about it as I really do love it. My children do as well. But it is challenging not hard. As one response went on to explain there is so much more that goes into it that daycares don't have to deal with.

I understand you have a career that is challenging and requires skills stay at home moms don't have but it is just a different kind of challenge and skill set. So with cooking and the constant cleanup as well as teaching them to be responsible little people so that they can one day enter the world without being a waste it can become "hard". I think stay at home moms explain it that way because it is easier to say its hard then to have to explain it all.

I respect your position none the less. But to say its easy as hell is a little off. Furthermore you would be wise to recognize good Mothers as they are the ones for the most part who have the children that become the lawyers and doctors. Behind every good responsible person is usually a good mother. Anyway much love to you OP. Take care.

my kids hate me today because I taught them to live like that

You are an ass, and I hope don't have kids, people with some intelligence understand the fact that kids who lack in the love and security, being raised by their own parent, end up often times as the hoodlums of tomorrow. Why even have kids if you don't want to raise them yourself??? What is the point exactly? To have a weekend playmate? I have a degree and my husband and I CHOSE to have one of us stay home with the kids, I just wanted to do it more so I won. Try not to be so jealous that some people in this world don't look at dollar signs as the be-all-end-all that you do to trade your own child's well being for. I'm sure it's hard to look in the mirror sometimes, but don't blame it us.

they wanted a normal family, not a dead dad and a mom who learned to survive in the woods and ran away from orphange/menatal experimenatal house

I gave them the best I could, but I was not born with a normal family to give them that, and that was not good enough

I did my best and could not give them the christmas dream, so they over look all I did with what I could and hat me because I am not could not give them so fake hype dream of christmas

Bingo! It's about time people recognize that motherhood is a career.

But sadly, there are SAH mothers who are lazy, apathetic, and do little to nothing.

Those who DO work hard and are responsible, who are there for their kids, especially homeschooling moms, are to be commended for jobs well done!

Part of the societal decline in America began when females bought into the false idea that they could not be fulfilled or productive staying at home.

The point I was trying to make here, is that we all make choices and should own those choices, good, bad or otherwise and not whine and complain about it unless we are willing to change our situation. Every one of us made choices-some women want to work, some women need to work, some have husbands to support the family and want to raise kids. Some choose not to have kids. Fine! But very few of us happen to have it easy. Everyone has tough tasks everyday. We all struggle and things get hard. Whining never solved anything. If it sucks that bad, then change it. That's all I'm saying.

Before anybody starts whining they should always consider the lives of those they are whining to. You never know how bad their lives are. Maybe you are whining about how hard it is to be a stay at home mom and I want nothing more than to have a chld but am medically unable (which is the truth). Someone always has it worse than you do. People don't know humility anymore.

I wasn't attacking you; I am attacking whining.

it would be a chritmas dream if the two girls and I could get together but one girl is not talking

how do we reach the one that is not talking; buy internet service; me first, I like dial up, no one can reach me by phone, hire a PI to send an email to say hi, she does not want the rich family she left with after graduation to know how she beyrayed her mother you know the way I raised, how does she tell that to the new normal family she left us for?

gee..I raised my kids and managed to work as a nurse the whole time...they turned out great. Of course...my husband also worked full time.

I think most of us are doing just that. We balance working and raising our children. It's not either or...working moms do not equal bad children.

EXACTLY OP!!! You took the words right out of my mouth - and we are in different situations.

I am a driven business guy - own my own company and am entirely driven towards my goals - but my "wife" whom we have 2 children under 2 years old with acts like she has the hardest job in the world! To me it is beyond pathetic. She has no idea what I have to endure and accomplish during a day. She has no idea what i sacrifice to make sure both the company and our home life has a financial future.

She sits at home alone with the kids - and gets infuriated with me that i'm out of the house "living it up" - thinking im just "playing business".

She just has to sit at home with 2 children. I know they can be tough. I know they can drive you insane at times. But she IS NOT HOLDING THE WORLD ON HER SHOULDERS!! I strive so hard to make sure we have a future - she instead see's everything i do for the company as my self serving fix. As if i only work for me and my own ego. I work for my family and my future. But this dumb bitch only thinks within her small still small highschool framed like mind that i'm depriving her of her true life!! I pay for everything. I provide everything she needs! She blames me for holding her back while her insecurities get the best of her! I am sick if it!

Sorry for the rant

I've been both a stay-at-home mom and a working mom. It's my opinion you don't know what the heck you are talking about, perhaps jealous of them. People with attitudes like yours are the problem - you tell moms that what they do isn't important and that they aren't important.

When I was a stay-at-home mom I kept busy watching the kids and when they were sleeping or busy, I also renovated the house and did yard work. I was called on by church and school to do those things which working parents are always "too busy" to do. I was a officer on the PTO. I took working parents' kids to programs and practices along with my own because you were, again, too busy.

As a stay-at-home mom, I cooked from-scratch meals which were more nutritious than the prepackaged crap served by so many working parents. I kept the house clean and drinks and snacks available so that my husband could bring home co-workers, bosses, and clients at any time during the day in order to help his career. It worked - he became a vice president.

As a stay-at-home mom, I made sure my kids learned what they needed to learn in school and took them on additional trips to have experiences other kids weren't getting. I taught them the proper behavior in public places (while so many of the other kids were misbehaving). I paid attention to their friends and opened my home up to them so that I could ensure neither my kids nor their latch-key friends were getting into trouble. Today, my kids are working on engineering degrees (one on a PhD and the other is finishing undergrad work). Many of my working friends' kids ended up dabbling in drugs, drinking, and if in college, are attending a low-tier school.

As a stay-at-home mom, I put everyone's needs above my own - which is why I ended up going back to work. Motherhood and home-making is not honored in our country as it should be. No matter how hard you work and how successful you are at it everyone who works thinks you are sitting on your lazy ass eating bon bons.

i will never understand why people bother breeding

Do yourself a favor - don't have kids.

You clearly don't appreciate all the work that goes into a raising a family. Once you have kids, you don't get a goods night sleep again even if they are sleeping thru the night.

Just stay in your selfish little world.

OP and I never said that you shouldn't stay home with your kids. Just stop whining about it as if you have some sort of difficult career in nose-wiping.

HELLO!! At least at the daycare you were getting PAID


If I asked you if you wanted to work for free would you do it? Noooo


Maybe you should complain about the wealthy stay at home moms who shop all day and not the ones who are on a budget working for free.
If you try ANY job for long enough it wear on you, ANY job- if you had to watch movies all day for free I guarantee by 6 months you would be sick of it... it's human nature.

Meanwhile there's a woman in the US who thinks the government needs to pay for her 15 children and her.

WEll stated. This is exactly what it is to be a mom. Having snacks on hand because when my kids come home, it is rarely just them- they have friends with them whose parents aren't home and otherwise would sit home alone. So, I have a house full of my kids and other people's kids every day after school until 5 or 6 when parents start wanting them home.

But, I love that. I get to know each kid's friends and am able to help them with stuff. Not only do I get to be 'the cool mom', I am also the mom that the kids choose to talk to when they have a problem- and, I help them talk to their own parents or the school counselor, or police or whomever.

The responsibility of being a full-time parent is intense, if you are doing it correctly. However, if you don't love it, you probably shouldn't do it because you will end up slacking and give a bad reputation to mothers that do do it.

Well if Paul Ryan is really your neighbor, then yes- you have nothing to complain about. I'm sure your neighborhood is $$$ .....Just sayin'