I've been dealing with my grandsons mom for 7 years - on and off outbursts of anger. Tonight was the worst. I try to stay out of their business but stepped in tonight because my 4 year grandson was in the middle of their argument (she got mad and broke a flatscreen TV) My son was trying to leave with my GS and after they left she flipped out on me accusing me of letting him leave with my son (it was dads visitation day) She kicked my jeep, mad, busted my light and then spit in my face. I am beyond upset. My neighbor called the police because she was screaming outside. The ambulance came for me because they were afraid I was having a heart attack. My EKG was all over the place. I denied going to the hospital because I was afraid if she came back and my 4 year GS would be in the middle again and get hurt. I'm torn of what to do - I've tried my best and can't do this anymore. My GS and I are best buddies. It broke my heart he was hiding in my room huddled in a corner scared when they were arguing.
What to do? What to do?
Quoting: Upset Grandma 844118 I understand your trying to stay out of their business. This situation involved you tho, the minute she began busting up your jeep and then spit in your face, she pulled you into the situation. You now need to stand up for your rights, because if you do nothing, she gets away with it, and will likely figure she can do anything she wants, next time. And if you don't do anything about this, there will be a next time.
I suggest charging her with assault, and charge her for damages to your jeep. Start collecting a paper trail with this. Add to it anything you can remember from what she's done/said in the past, to you/your GS/your son/anyone, along with approx dates, if you can remember.
Thank God for your neighbor, who was willing to get involved and come to your aid. I wish you had gone to the hospital when the ambulance came for you. You still can go get yourself checked out tho, and keep the doc's report for a paper trail. Doc reports are VERY important to have, especially if it comes to getting a restraining order against her. At the very least, try getting a copy of the EMT's report. You'll want a copy of the police report too. And perhaps a written statement from your neighbor on what they heard/saw/did.
The next thing I'd do is try to convince your son to go to court with all this, and try to get 'supervised' drop-offs for visitation. Not that HE needs to be supervised, SHE does... when it comes to the actual visitation exchange. The paper trail you collect will be able to be used in court to explain to the judge how UNSTABLE she is when it comes to your son trying to pick your GS up for visitation. The court will likely assign a social worker to pick your GS up from his moms place, and drive him to visitation with your son. Then sons gf cannot have her temper fits, which could result in someone getting hurt.
Please do not wait before taking action, thinking maybe it won't happen again. These things usually DO happen again, and maybe next time it might be much much worse.
Take action now! If you cannot do it for yourself, or your son, do it for your grandson.
I'll keep you in my thoughts and prayers....
