How Do You Know Who Your True Friends Are/Aren't?

He/She might be busy, ill, on the road or whatever.

They're not. They've been playing scrabble on Facebook. Someone close to me died. They clearly don't care.

Maybe you're just a horrible person.

Excuse me?

HISTORY PROVES WHO MY FRIENDS ARE AND AREN'T.

THEY'RE THE ONES WHO HELPED ME WHEN EVERYONE ELSE WAS BUSY ROBBING AND TRYING TO KILL ME.

If you DEMAND "my sincere condolences" from someone, I think something is wrong with you.

Maybe they didn't get your email. Try the old fashioned way - calling.

Don't be a baby and end a friendship over an email. Act like an adult and talk to the person. If they legitimately don't give a crap, then tell them to f*** off. But then again, maybe they didn't think the same thing of the friendship as you did/do.

Maybe you're just a horrible person.

Or your relative is. Was, sorry.

I don't demand them. However, I can't help but notice that they haven't said anything. If things had been the other way around, and someone in their family died, I would have dropped what I was doing to talk to them.

This, OP is an ass

You dumb fuck, not everyone wants to play the Facebook, email game when someone dies.

Wow. You would THINK your friends would want to be there for you when you were grieving!

We all grieve different. Who are you to judge anyone on how things are supposed to be done. Maybe they are quietly celebrating the death as a new beginning. Facebook, oh what did people do in the billion years prior to Facebook. U r an idiot.

If they don't like Facebook, then they wouldn't have a Facebook account! They wouldn't be talking to people on Facebook, while ignoring me.

You sound like a self centered prick of some sort. :) very dislikeable

Was your relative as horrible of a person as you OP? Maybe that's why? Just a guess.

You're a young huh....

I hope someone dies, and your friends don't give a crap that you're hurting!

If it was a great aunt or someone who wasn't immediate family maybe they didn't feel condolences were warranted. I was close to all my great aunts and uncles and 2nd cousins but some people don't even know extended family and may feel phony saying something to you if they don't think you'll miss them.

I wouldn't end a friendship over it but friends should be able to talk about it. Maybe if you wrote that you were close or this was a special relative or whatever, it may help. It could be they really don't know what to say and think they may sound phony. Seriously, you don't realize how nice it is to hear "I'm sorry about your...." until someone you love dies. It's because you're emotionally drained and are trying to still do your daily activities and it's nice for others who are also doing those activities to stop and acknowledge it, it's like they realize your brain isn't all on the same page or team at the moment with them and it's okay but until it happens some people don't realize it's important.

I don't think you should worry about how others are doing and feeling and just worry about your self

if that person didn't reply let it go... why sit around and worry about it...

you are grieving..

You just discovered one of the MANY ways you determine who your true friends are.

You are right.....dump this person like yesterday's news.

There are 2 times in life when you find out who your true friends are, moving day & when you're in the hospital

I think you should be disappointed at most. But giving up a friendship like that is over-reacting on your part.

I certainly understand that you are in pain and perhaps over-emotional right now due to the death of a family member, but I want you to be rational.

Please accept my condolences.

Then your thinking of only yourself, focus on helping others not criticizing them.

I should talk eh? lol

OP on a scale of 10-10, how terrible of a person are you?

Also ... When you get divorced..you know who your friends are

Facebook is so awful... I get what you're saying, OP, and I'd be hurt too, if I KNEW that the other person was deliberately ignoring me. Here's the thing, though. ALWAYS try to imagine the worst-case scenario from their POV until u can gather all the facts. Perhaps your email to them went to their spam folder? Highly unlikely, but it's a possibility. If they did indeed get your email and aren't sympathizing with you, MOVE ON!!! There's no reason why you need to put yourself in an abusive relationship. I say "abusive" because when you are at your lowest, you find out who your true friends are. Not just the merry-time friends but the friends that will stick with you through the worst. THOSE type of friends, the ones that stick, are the ones you want to keep around. The others, not so much.

I just found out a guy I have known for almost a decade and been romantically involved said on FB that he was moving out of state in eight days. Talk about being shocked and hurt to find this news out on FB!!! This was a guy that said not a year ago that we should get married.

Long and short, though, gather all the facts u can before coming to a rash judgment. After u have gathered all those facts, then make your decision and be done with it.

Exactly! That's very well-said. It's like he went on with his merry little life, not even looking back to see if I was OK, and that is very selfish, considering he considers me one of his "best friends".