it is neither, its the truth and its a warning. would you rather me lie or keep silent or play it off like its eh whatever so nothing is done proactively and she actually does end up in the lake of fire? i believe whole heartedly in hell; it would be insane for me not to warn of it so that she may escape it. by pointing this out it just shows how serious salvation is. if you deny Christ; the only mediator between God and man for the atonement of your sins; for the wages of sin is death...you will be lost to the lake of fire