"Why it's hell to be 48, alone, and desperate:" Are women waiting too long to marry?

From the link:

"Just when I'm desperate for a relationship, the chances are fading. When I was in my 30s, I had a brilliant social life. A partner would have cramped my style. Now I don't want to be out dating. All I want is to snuggle up on the sofa with someone. And that someone is impossible to find."

You made your bed lady, now you're lying in it. You had better things to do than being a wife and a mother, and now you don't have a husband who loves you over all things on this Earth, and who looks at your decomposing flesh suit with eyes that still see the sparkling young woman he married.

You will NEVER have that husband. Because a man needs to be "imprinted" on a woman at a young age to develop the kind of ability to see past the wrinkles you need now.

I am 46, my wife is 48 just like you. We've been together since I was 17. I love my wife over all things, and still see the girl in her when I look at her. She is ageless to me! I stop what I'm doing several times a day and just think of how huch I love her! She turns me on soo much, and our sex life is better than ever! I can't wait for menopause, then I'll fuck her every single night of the month! And when our adult children finally get off their asses and leave the nest, and she can stop worrying about making noises in bed, ho boy, that's when life begins anew!

But the objective truth is of course that her face is starting to look old and sexually unattractive. If I weren't married to her and imprinted on her scents and habits, I'd look past her completely. I'd go shopping for a good-looking woman about 15 to 20 years younger than her, and I'd fucking get one, don't you doubt it for a second!

This is the way things work here on planet Earth. You thought you could change the laws of Nature, and it turns out you couldn't. Bummer. I really am sorry for you.

Nailed it

This lady - in the article - needs to learn to be herself and forget about men. There is SO much more to life.

I think the hard part is realizing their will be a branch on your family tree with your name on it and nothing else branching out of it. In the end you still have to ask...who cares? My brother and sisters children are pieces of shit losers. So much for branching the tree.

Be happy with who you are and stop obsessing over your body. Maybe this lady needs to work on her soul.

Contradicting it is the following article from NY Times

The Declining Demand for Husbands

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If everything you say is true, I find it extremely odd you even clicked on this thread. Did you come here to tell everyone you look great and your happily married? Cuz...that shows you have a problem that you are hiding. Real people who are confident in their appearance, really look well and have a great marriage don't go around telling everyone. Just sayin'.

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You thought you could change the laws of Nature, and it turns out you couldn't. Bummer.

This, in a nutshell, is the central problem of feminism and beyond that, leftism in general.

Now, I don't mean to turn this into a left/right paradigm thread -- the right has its problems and delusions too. But in this particular case, the screwball nature of feminist/leftist logic stands out very clearly.

If you study the so-called "Juche" philosophy of north Korea, the first and centra tennent is "Man is the master of all things." Uh, no he isnt. There are forces of nature that cannot be willed away. Thus we see North Korea locked in perpetual famine and poverty because they think their socialist ways will triumph over the cold hard realities of nature. So instead of studying farming, they study ideology and fuck up all their crops.

Go back even further you have Stalin's similar crackpot theory of "Lysenkoism:" They didn't like the idea that "nature is competitive" because that ran counter to communist ideology. So Stalin ordered some bullshit artist named Lysenko to whip up a theory that "nature/biology is cooperative and not competitive". Well the result was the same: farmers were taught to farm according to Lysenko's bullshit theories, and they had a string of poor harvests and horrific famines.

In modern feminism we see exactly the same dynamic exemplified with this woman: She thought her ideology that a woman can behave however she wants would trump nature, but nature had the last laught. This is always what brings down the leftists: pie-in-the sky thinking and a refusal to acknowledge the uncomfortable limits that nature imposes on us all.

I've ben saddled with men the bulk of my adult life, being free to do as one pleases without the distraction or responsibilities associated with a relationship is a gift in your forties and hardly a curse. Do you know what you like? Do you know how to make yourself happy? A man will just get in the way of what you need and want and expect you to put his desires in front of your own. Thank your lucky stars your free, it's the best thing that can happen to us women as we age.

Choices, consequences. Action, reaction.

Sex and the city girls get to have their cake and eat it too, welcome to the real world where men are waking up in large numbers to the horrible nightmare that feminism has created for us all.

Sadly women would rather die the lonesome single cat lady than admit that things are not how nature intended. Oh we'll... Better to stay single and spend money on toys and hot women at this point for most men. Less headache and baggage to deal with.

Btw "40 is the new 30" is bullshit that future cat ladies try to comvince themselves is true. Ask a man that isn't trying to get into your pants and he will tell you the truth.

Oh, but they are so happy that they have to write articles in rags whining about their predicament.

I agree.

If you truly feel this way then I am happy for you. As I opined earlier, to each their own. I have no problem believing women can be happy alone...as long as they can support themselves.

Many women are not like you and they cannot live in "the style to which they are accustomed" if they dont have a male provider bringing home some or all of the bacon. Others are happier with simple companionship, beyond economics. In fact most people -- men and women both -- are happier with some love in their lives. Maybe you are an exception and that's fine, but this is not about you. It's about this woman, and many others like her.

I suppose in America and some other countries, the economy has changed to the extent that women no longer need males for providing, at least not as much. And the economy has made it difficult for most men to even afford to be providers. As for companionship and love, social indoctrination has turned the sexes against each other to the extent that it is hard for either sex to be happy and loving of the other. If you ask me this is a tragedy not progress. Many women may be happier alone than with a broke, lazy man, that is logical. But the ideal situation would be to at least have the option of building a loving nuclear family. Sadly the door is closing on this for millions of people.

Most of the women in this thread are happily married and they don't need life advice from bitter spinsters like you.

She didn't sound bitter to me. she sounds like she has what she wants finally and is grateful for it.
The most important thing is that people are happy. To each his/her own.

Tattos are for low-lives and my woman is never going be a scumbag. The mother of my children and my partner has got to be a lady. If she wants a low life, there is plenty, nowadays.

It looks to me like she is giving life advice that she has no business giving, but whatever.

I'm 45, don't look it, and men hit on me a lot online, mostly strange looking, creepy foreigners who didn't bother to read my profile and see we are definitely NOT compatible in many ways, or guys who are, say 19-22 years old. Not interested in being your Cougar candy, ack! Men my age? Well, I don't even think they type in women their own age when they do a search on a dating site, seriously, they are looking like 10 years younger or more. Whatever.

It's not your age. You simply look like a dude in drag!
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LOL...

Hell,that 48 year old looks better than me(im 48)i have a husband(when he is home)(bout one week outta the month)If he wasnt around i wouldnt be feeling all alone about it.

I like our system,if he was around more we prob. be splitting up....almost 50ish folks are kinda set in their ways is what im saying.

Precisely, I am far from bitter and it's a choice, I love my freedom and if I wanted a man it would be no problem. I am mid forties and get hit on all the time and find it annoying. I like men don't get me wrong, they have just gotten in the way of my desires and happiness for too long and I want my focus to be on me and my offspring, not on some man for the rest of my days. Marriage sucks, I don't know of one that doesn't. I like to do as I please when I please without having to consult some dominant male force, eewwwww

I clicked on this thread before there was even the first comment and almost made your exact same post but I figured I would get bitched at by all the people that thinks she's "beautiful"

I'm a guy who's almost 59 and I can tell you that if she's 48 she had one helluva tough paper route when she was a kid.

Here here!

Alone & loving it.
Wouldnt be able to make all the posts, paint all those paintings, read all those books if I was married. :)




NLP research has discovered what is known as the 'yogurt effect'. You take a bowl of yogurt divide it into half, and monitor one half. Into the other half you pour milk. It was discovered that the other half which was not fed (for yoghurt, milk = food) immediately reacted, although it was not connected to the other half.

What it means is , people react to you according to your dominant feeling. If you are depressed and frustrated all the time, the kind of reactions you receive will match the mood you are experiencing. Its like other people are the other half of the yogurt bowl. They immediatly sense your aura and emotions, and mirror it automatically.

So, in order to make someone happy, YOU should first be happy. And if YOU want to be happy, you should learn the art of happiness.

Its not difficult to be happy alone. Detach yourself from physical objects, places, physical needs. I know its tough, but with time you will learn.

It's mainly liberal feminism that have trick these women thinking that they don't need a man when they are still at an reproductive age, than they get to a point in their 40's and understand they want kids and man in their life, but its all most to late for them.

Men look in the mirror and think they age like wine but more like an old swine. Men coast maybe a few years more in the 40s but once the 50-55 age range hits forget it. They look like pasty bloated sacks of wrinkles.

At that point they need to not be selfish, step up and adopt if they cant give birth anymore. No it doesn't add new people to the country but if whats done is done there is still a noble way to make up for it. The adoption system is still overloaded while these childless older couples sit around being unhappy they never had kids. Deal with whats happened and adopt some of these poor children.

This how a just got my broken dirty teeth replaced at the taxpayers expense trailer trash talks. All set to hop back on the baby mamma hog hunting safari wagon are ya now ? Cause your breath no longer smells like the unwashed chum buckets on a lobster boat.

"Just when I'm desperate for a relationship, the chances are fading. When I was in my 30s, I had a brilliant social life. A partner would have cramped my style. Now I don't want to be out dating. All I want is to snuggle up on the sofa with someone. And that someone is impossible to find."


Brilliant social life ?

Meaning she was often found passed out on the floor at home, after a long weekend of binge drinking n whorepigging ?

As in she dun want no man around telling her to sober up and stop being a ho slag.

This bitch pig doesn't want a "man" she wants a codependent enabler daddy figure

I used to work with a woman like this. The older they get, the more bitter they get, and yet they only did it to themselves. In her case, she put off dating and family to further her "career", then of course that "career" bottomed out when she got laid off due to the changes in the telecommunications market. So then she ended up moving back closer to her family and trying to rebuild her life, plus the old biological clock started ticking and she started wanting kids. But now the men around her aren't good enough, or are married.

They just don't understand that feminism is a lie, you can't have it all, there has to be a sacrifice one way or the other.

That woman looks like June Cleavers clone.Not that that matters or anything but concidering the year is 2013,a lil trip to reality might be in order.
Plus,all she had to do was make the sandwich.Is that so hard to figure out???