broken hearted over divorce I never wanted

Women are ruthless and they're even more greedy than vampires. They'll suck up your wealth and vigor cuz it's written in their genes. A female mantis eats her mate alive after getting done fucking him. bitches are venomous in various forms, but there's one thing in common for all female animals, which is that they're the source of all evils and sins

OP, I would get a DNA test on your son to check if he is biologically yours.
You treated her like a princess, put the pussy on a pedestal, and no woman respects that, thus turning you into a cuckold as she fucks some other guy (maybe even other men). Kinda sick she moved on to her supposed "friend's" man after she died, but women will stoop to anything to get what they can't have. OP, how long were you aware of this affair between then? And don't say she didn't cheat or hasn't done anything and that the "feelings" for him just magically appeared. You would be a damn fool to believe she wasn't fucking him behind your back. I'm sure she's come home home a few times with oxidized sperm on her lips from the other guy and kissed you on the mouth. Maybe his nasty seed was festering in her dirty gash while she "let you" give her oral.

OP, dump that bitch and don't ever date single mothers again. cuz they've already made one mistake and you don't wanna be the one who takes on her mistakes. Too much baggage. Don't fall in love or get into any committed relationships with these whores. Treat them how they really want to treated and use them like human urinals then dump their ass in the trash can when you're done with them

Thank you, folks.

I'm at the lowest point in my life, and am just trying to get over the shock.

Thanks again.:}

I met my love back in 93....we were married in 97. I helped raise two of her children from a previous marriage and treated her like a princess.

In 1999 she gave me the greatest blessing I could ever hope for...a son.

About a year ago, she lost a girlfriend to breastcancer and now has 'feeling' for her husband. She has asked for a divorce and I can't help but feel that she has kicked me to the curb for no good reason.

It hurts like hell, and I do not know if I can ever trust a relationship again.

thoughts?

I met my love back in 93....we were married in 97. I helped raise two of her children from a previous marriage and treated her like a princess.

In 1999 she gave me the greatest blessing I could ever hope for...a son.

About a year ago, she lost a girlfriend to breastcancer and now has 'feeling' for her husband. She has asked for a divorce and I can't help but feel that she has kicked me to the curb for no good reason.

It hurts like hell, and I do not know if I can ever trust a relationship again.

thoughts?

sit tight.

if all is as you say, you are a good person.

you picked a good woman, but one who sounds like she is confusing pity with passion.

As a woman, it can be very important to know you are needed.
This guy needs a lot, but it may NOT be what your wife thinks. He needs time to heal.

So wait, at least a bit.

the world may return, not to what it was, but to a place where your wife realizes she is mistaking grief on his part for passion.

Let your wife know YOU need her.

And best of luck to you.

Thank you, folks.

I'm at the lowest point in my life, and am just trying to get over the shock.

Thanks again.:}

Thank you, folks.

I'm at the lowest point in my life, and am just trying to get over the shock.

Thanks again.:}

Ironically, those are the guys the Lifetime women watchers oogle at

That's taking it to the extreme.

You sound like a woman writer that's writing a 'bad guy' for a Lifetime Women's movie of the week.

That sucks. She's responding to his pain and has caretaker feelings for him, and she's mistaking that possibly for love.

It doesn't matter what is going on with her. This is the time to focus on yourself. That means doing everything you can to make yourself and your life better in every way. Put constant energy into it. It doesn't matter if all you can do is clean and organize your sock drawer. Do it. Take your old stuff to donation centers. Read a book or ten. Keep your car looking like you plan to sell it the next hour.

Just keep your energy on yourself, and making yourself better. At some point, you can expand that and maybe do much more for yourself.

Believe me, this is the only way. If she can see her way to coming back, she'll come back to a better man. If she cannot, you will be a better man. Your children will see this.

Best of everything to you.

That sucks. She's responding to his pain and has caretaker feelings for him, and she's mistaking that possibly for love.

It doesn't matter what is going on with her. This is the time to focus on yourself. That means doing everything you can to make yourself and your life better in every way. Put constant energy into it. It doesn't matter if all you can do is clean and organize your sock drawer. Do it. Take your old stuff to donation centers. Read a book or ten. Keep your car looking like you plan to sell it the next hour.

Just keep your energy on yourself, and making yourself better. At some point, you can expand that and maybe do much more for yourself.

Believe me, this is the only way. If she can see her way to coming back, she'll come back to a better man. If she cannot, you will be a better man. Your children will see this.

Best of everything to you.

That sucks. She's responding to his pain and has caretaker feelings for him, and she's mistaking that possibly for love.
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Your story is uncannily like mine. Met in 93, married in 96. Raised her two sisters when her mom died. Had two kids together. Then she got "bored", found an old "friend" on FB and the rest is history. Did everything in the world for this woman only to be betrayed.

Let me encourage you, or at least try. Take time to heal. Three years on I feel MUCH better. Focus on your child. They are the real victim here.

The temptation to have a rebound relationship needs to be ignored. Figure out what went wrong, why, and how to make sure it never happens again. This will require you to be painfully honest with yourself. You'll be a better man for it.

Pick up a Bible if you haven't. Even though I have strong faith this shook me to the core. I'm closer to God than I ever have been, and the peace I have is truly amazing.

For me, I've accepted the single life for now. I'm able to do things I never could before. Volunteer, get in shape, make new friends. I'm happier than I've been in a LONG time. It made me realize what's really important.

Things will get better. Resolve to be the best dad in the world.

Never give up.

Kick his ass for playing your ol' lady.

Beat the living tard out of him, so every time

he looks in the mirror, he will be reminded

of the pain that you had inflicted upon him.

&
Move On....

Agree with this.
Focus on seeking God with all of your heart.
Don't give her an easy divorce - some people do this in the interest of moving on but you may really regret it.
Tell her you think it's important that both of you go to counseling - find a good Christian counselor that can help her work through her feelings of grief for her friend and confusion about her ex.
Even if she remains dead set on divorce and wants reconciliation with her ex, you will both have talked through a lot of the heart issues, so you will both be a lot healthier to make better decisions.
Also gives her some time to process the grief from the death of a friend.
Don't assent to her current grief and confusion - affirm and acknowledge it and comfort her, but don't let her emotions dominate YOUR relationship.
She needs a cool head and emotionally strong friend - You.
Give her some space if she needs it and some time to heal.
But don't quickly throw in the towel; humbly request that she go to counseling with you - many courts almost require it before proceeding with any divorce action, especially if it involves a child.
Trust God.

Women are ruthless and they're even more greedy than vampires. They'll suck up your wealth and vigor cuz it's written in their genes. A female mantis eats her mate alive after getting done fucking him. bitches are venomous in various forms, but there's one thing in common for all female animals, which is that they're the source of all evils and sins

OP, I would get a DNA test on your son to check if he is biologically yours.
You treated her like a princess, put the pussy on a pedestal, and no woman respects that, thus turning you into a cuckold as she fucks some other guy (maybe even other men). Kinda sick she moved on to her supposed "friend's" man after she died, but women will stoop to anything to get what they can't have. OP, how long were you aware of this affair between then? And don't say she didn't cheat or hasn't done anything and that the "feelings" for him just magically appeared. You would be a damn fool to believe she wasn't fucking him behind your back. I'm sure she's come home home a few times with oxidized sperm on her lips from the other guy and kissed you on the mouth. Maybe his nasty seed was festering in her dirty gash while she "let you" give her oral.

OP, dump that bitch and don't ever date single mothers again. cuz they've already made one mistake and you don't wanna be the one who takes on her mistakes. Too much baggage. Don't fall in love or get into any committed relationships with these whores. Treat them how they really want to treated and use them like human urinals then dump their ass in the trash can when you're done with them

Why would a woman write like that? Because she knows what women are like perhaps. Why do women hate other women, why are their "friendships" so devoid of trust? Because they know what women are like. They know themselves, they know each other.

That said, Incel seems to me like a guy who's just report truth from what men have figured out about women. He's posted in other threads. What he writes is the truth.

But if your son is really yours, you should try to get custody. Don't throw away your son over disillusionment with a woman.

In fact, women have caused so much trouble, it's best not to react to them.

I am married 15 years raising 2 kids (ours, not from another man.) For what it's worth. I am not bitter due to failure, though I am bitter sometimes due to the nature of my wife, who has shown many or all these female weaknesses herself to varying degrees.

start fuckin all of her friends and her mother. take lots of pics. you'll feel better.

Meh...Target the 'string pullers' that cause men and women to run around like chickens with their heads cut off...not knowing their nature or role in life.

Seems counter productive to blame the modern day society on a woman's nature...The TPTB know how to get that out of women(and men)...

Women tend to be enticed by romanticism and popular culture trends more than men...They are social 'animals' and can be influenced by mass media brainwashing easier than men.

I don't think it means that they are inherently scumbag-disloyal-whores....Rather there is more of the scumbag-devious-whore type out running around now...thanks to the social programming bombardment in the past 40 years.


Most men are complete retards and deserve everything they get when they marry a "hot" and shallow chicken head...Men are dumb animals and would marry any selfish-high maintenance-dimwit that is attractive.

You get what you paid for pal.

As someone who has lived long enough to see such things before - I would advise you to allow a trial separation if need be. But do NOT, in so far as you can stop such things - DO NOT ALLOW A DIVORCE TO TAKE PLACE just yet.

She needs some time to come to her senses. She is confused. Horribly confused. And this needy and hurting man is grieving over his loss and she was there like a life-preserver in a storm. So he grabbed on. Those two (the widower and your wife) share a powerful emotional storm with the shared grief and loss of her friend and his spouse. She thinks this pity and extreme desire to nurture and care for him is "love" and it is. But not the same sort of love she should have and share with her husband. This is a love based on shared grief and loss and grieving and pity and pain. There is no joy here. Only the pain of their shared loss. In time, he will wake up to what he has done. But will he be strong enough to say "NO" to someone who has helped him thru the pain? Or will he marry her and seal their fate and yours and your sons in the process?

I do not know. I only know you need to delay, drag your feet, and continue to love if you can. Get ready to forgive her - whether she comes home to you, or does not. Either way you do not want to be hating her for the rest of your days. That kind of hate has the frightening potential to destroy your very soul if you allow it to grow and flourish.

Pray. Talk to GOD. Get your heart and mind in tune with what he wants you to do as a husband who's been abandoned. Take your time. Go slow. Do not react out of your pain and angst and anger... your wife has gotten caught in a trap as old as time and has no one there to tell her what she is doing is based on mistaking one kind of love for another.

When and if she comes back to herself, she may be horribly embarrassed by what she has done. If you want her back, you will have to choose to forgive her. Not just the words, but to really forgive her mistake and the pain she's caused you in this mess. It's not easy to do. Do not take her back unless you truly can forgive her deep down in your heart. Usually this will require your asking for help from GOD to do it. Most men cannot manage that level of forgiveness without divine intervention and help.

You have my prayers. I hope that regardless of the final outcome, you will be given the right partner and happiness in your life. Whether with your present wife or later, with someone that GOD has put in your path... I do not know. But it will work out if you trust and try to do what is right and honorable - in spite of what anyone else may have done to you in this mistaken and misplaced love affair that should NEVER have existed.

Go with GOD and all the best...