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| Be organised User ID: 71016174  Australia02/05/2016 01:14 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | |
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Bugabooboo  User ID: 67093869  United States02/05/2016 01:26 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Let's see. You mentioned kids in number 2 and 4. Seems that most of your time is spent doing chores by that list. When do you actually spend time with the kids? I don't mean to sound like i am criticizing you. I think you are wonderful and I wish that I was as organized as you. Some of what you say is true. I spend too much time in front of the TV. I like my R&R. I was a singled mom. I spent a lot of my time off doing things my child enjoyed to make up for the time i didnt get to spend with him. Cleaning up made me grouchy. I am sorry for your illness but I hope you see the ways in which you are blessed! |
| Anonymous Coward User ID: 71385615 United States02/05/2016 01:30 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Im a sick stay at home father with 2 small children... Quoting: Be organised 71016174 I have 2 smashed vertebrae liver disease which makes me very tired and major deppression... In 2 hours i can scrub my home cook very good meals and take care off my kids... The rest off the day im bored stiff... So my question is to all woman... you think its hard to be a stay at home mum and you think a man should come home and work after a long day??? The reason you think this is hard is because you are unorganized and lazy and either spend your time on tv or gossiping with your friends or going to the shopping centre having coffee ect... Im a very sick man but i can still keep a home beautiful and cook yummy meals and do the shopping take care off my kids and im still bored... and i do all this with pain... my house is spotless my food is yummy my kids are always praised for there obedience and kindness... I want to give you woman some advice turn tv off put the phone down and be organised... the greatest advise i can give is be organised... 1. get out off bed 2. feed kids 30min 3. put washing on 5min 4. put kids in front tv or playtime 5. wash dishes clean kitchen 20min 6. prepare the dinner to put on later in the day 20min 7. vacuum mop 30min 8. get kids go shop 1 hour no sit have coffee gossiping 9. pack shopping away 20 min 10. put aside 1 hour for minor jobs cleaning 11. hang washing 15 minutes 12. sit on your ass bored stiff for 3 or 4 hours the lesson is organisation and cleanliness i often watch other mothers and they are either lazy or unorganized and stuff around all day doing not much... if your home is organised and clean and simple then your days work is so much less and easy... my advise simplify organised and clean... chuck out half the crap in your house... this does not apply to stay at home mums with babys thats s whole different thing that requires fulltime care babys dont get breaks but from 3 years and older its very easy to do all your jobs for the day and still be bored... so every wife at home should have a beer in there hand for their husbands and maybe just maybe he might be thankful and do a few off the end off day jobs for you but considering you been bored for 4 hours i think it only fair you do the end off day work... More to taking care of/loving your children than what your ranting about...give a few years. |
| Anonymous Coward User ID: 70060673 United States02/05/2016 01:31 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | children aren't boring. If you think they are, you're parenting wrong. The same can be said about the difficulty of it. It's not difficult to raise a child. Sitting children in front of a TV won't help them develop as human beings though. |
| Anonymous Coward (OP) User ID: 71016174 Australia02/05/2016 01:33 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Let's see. You mentioned kids in number 2 and 4. Seems that most of your time is spent doing chores by that list. When do you actually spend time with the kids? Quoting: Bugabooboo I don't mean to sound like i am criticizing you. I think you are wonderful and I wish that I was as organized as you. Some of what you say is true. I spend too much time in front of the TV. I like my R&R. I was a singled mom. I spent a lot of my time off doing things my child enjoyed to make up for the time i didnt get to spend with him. Cleaning up made me grouchy. I am sorry for your illness but I hope you see the ways in which you are blessed! i keep them occupied but i could play with them more i know that is were i need to improve but i do teach them very well how to be a good person but i really do not play with them much after after my jobs i just rest a bit while they watch tv ect im not a perfect dad but i try my best |
| Anonymous Coward User ID: 48699113  Puerto Rico02/05/2016 01:42 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | |
| Anonymous Coward (OP) User ID: 71016174 Australia02/05/2016 01:43 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | children aren't boring. If you think they are, you're parenting wrong. The same can be said about the difficulty of it. It's not difficult to raise a child. Quoting: Anonymous Coward 70060673 Sitting children in front of a TV won't help them develop as human beings though. your absolutely correct but its all about how you train them i see mothers playing with their kids all day and there kids are ratbags hitting their parants overweight spoilt brats... mothers are always asking why are my kids always so behaved so kind... i talk to my kids maybe i dont play a lot but i talk and train them... my kids dint just say thankyou once they say it many times... my daughter wipes the sweat from my face when im in agony from my sickness... and my daughter will allways think off me when she goes out she always says to her mother we must bring daddy cake ect... when im not around they asking there mother were i am... im not the best father but considering my sickness im pretty dam good |
| Anonymous Coward User ID: 71385615 United States02/05/2016 01:44 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Let's see. You mentioned kids in number 2 and 4. Seems that most of your time is spent doing chores by that list. When do you actually spend time with the kids? Quoting: Bugabooboo I don't mean to sound like i am criticizing you. I think you are wonderful and I wish that I was as organized as you. Some of what you say is true. I spend too much time in front of the TV. I like my R&R. I was a singled mom. I spent a lot of my time off doing things my child enjoyed to make up for the time i didnt get to spend with him. Cleaning up made me grouchy. I am sorry for your illness but I hope you see the ways in which you are blessed! i keep them occupied but i could play with them more i know that is were i need to improve but i do teach them very well how to be a good person but i really do not play with them much after after my jobs i just rest a bit while they watch tv ect im not a perfect dad but i try my best Get off your high horse dude calling women LAZY...LOL Staying at home raising children is the hardest job you could ever do. Look...im 53 and raised my children and raised one grand child till 10 yO. and half raised/helped out with 2 more. Day in day out 7 days a week with no vacations or breaks hun...after all that im friggin tired...I started at 24 first child and ended my full time child care just 2 years ago. Yes some females are Lazy but your throwing all us under the bus. |
| Tim's Rabbit User ID: 70360309 United States02/05/2016 01:44 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | I have 3, but my schedule is a bit different. 1. wake up kids, get them dressed. 2. make them & me breakfast. 3. help them brush their teeth. 4. occupy baby's attention on something. 5. spend 3 hours letting daughter watch educational shows/doing puzzles while teaching son alphabet and how to write. 6. fun activity or show while I start laundry/do chores. 7. fix lunch 8. help brush teeth 9. outside playtime in summer or have neighbor's kids over to play for a couple hours. 10. more puzzle time/ education for an hour or so 11. another fun show while i prep and cook supper 12. suppertime 13. bathtime for all 3/brush again 14. family game/pretend time 15. let them help clean up toys 16. change into pjs 17. story/book time 18. time for bed and add into that mix many random diapers + potty training + baby bottles, and up until 3 in the morning with the baby. 5 hours sleep, then start all over. don't get me wrong, though..I love every minute of it...just drink a lot of coffee. =-) |
| Anonymous Coward (OP) User ID: 71016174 Australia02/05/2016 01:51 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Let's see. You mentioned kids in number 2 and 4. Seems that most of your time is spent doing chores by that list. When do you actually spend time with the kids? Quoting: Bugabooboo I don't mean to sound like i am criticizing you. I think you are wonderful and I wish that I was as organized as you. Some of what you say is true. I spend too much time in front of the TV. I like my R&R. I was a singled mom. I spent a lot of my time off doing things my child enjoyed to make up for the time i didnt get to spend with him. Cleaning up made me grouchy. I am sorry for your illness but I hope you see the ways in which you are blessed! i keep them occupied but i could play with them more i know that is were i need to improve but i do teach them very well how to be a good person but i really do not play with them much after after my jobs i just rest a bit while they watch tv ect im not a perfect dad but i try my best Get off your high horse dude calling women LAZY...LOL Staying at home raising children is the hardest job you could ever do. Look...im 53 and raised my children and raised one grand child till 10 yO. and half raised/helped out with 2 more. Day in day out 7 days a week with no vacations or breaks hun...after all that im friggin tired...I started at 24 first child and ended my full time child care just 2 years ago. Yes some females are Lazy but your throwing all us under the bus. [/quote hard pfffft are you organised???? is your home filled with unessasary crap???? i have watched mothers spend their whole day cleaning unessasary crap thats not needed!!! make your home clean neat simple and clean and ORGANISED and then you might change your mind about hard... |
| Anonymous Coward User ID: 71385615 United States02/05/2016 01:59 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Let's see. You mentioned kids in number 2 and 4. Seems that most of your time is spent doing chores by that list. When do you actually spend time with the kids? Quoting: Bugabooboo I don't mean to sound like i am criticizing you. I think you are wonderful and I wish that I was as organized as you. Some of what you say is true. I spend too much time in front of the TV. I like my R&R. I was a singled mom. I spent a lot of my time off doing things my child enjoyed to make up for the time i didnt get to spend with him. Cleaning up made me grouchy. I am sorry for your illness but I hope you see the ways in which you are blessed! i keep them occupied but i could play with them more i know that is were i need to improve but i do teach them very well how to be a good person but i really do not play with them much after after my jobs i just rest a bit while they watch tv ect im not a perfect dad but i try my best Get off your high horse dude calling women LAZY...LOL Staying at home raising children is the hardest job you could ever do. Look...im 53 and raised my children and raised one grand child till 10 yO. and half raised/helped out with 2 more. Day in day out 7 days a week with no vacations or breaks hun...after all that im friggin tired...I started at 24 first child and ended my full time child care just 2 years ago. Yes some females are Lazy but your throwing all us under the bus. [/quote hard pfffft are you organised???? is your home filled with unessasary crap???? i have watched mothers spend their whole day cleaning unessasary crap thats not needed!!! make your home clean neat simple and clean and ORGANISED and then you might change your mind about hard... Hun... Clean.organised...everything has a purpose or it get tossed and also forgot ta mention I run a mini farm on 10 acres and my husband drives a truck so he is only home 3 days a month. I have a garden,i can food...also raised goats and chickens and also bake my own breads and can shoot any gun put in my face. So pffft back at ya...  |
| Anonymous Coward User ID: 69428372  Canada02/05/2016 02:02 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | |
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| Anonymous Coward User ID: 69995350 Australia02/05/2016 02:30 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | women who go on and on about how hard it is Quoting: Anonymous Coward 71399938  are just justifying their own selfish laziness. it's NOT hard to stay home and look after kids.Its their, or was their, only job, so they had to complain to make themselves seem valuable. Truth is, bring on the sexbots and kick those cunce to the curb once and for all. |
| Anonymous Coward User ID: 71349509 Australia02/05/2016 02:32 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | |
| Holly Merry User ID: 24952768 United States02/05/2016 03:06 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | You are bored with your kids? You got boring kids? Wow. Therw was always something going on at my house. I agree. Housekeeping can be done in an hour a day if you book. But raising children? Just teaching them to play poker can take all afternoon for weeks. Or teaching them to shoot pool. Or write the multiplication table and find square roots. And then there is homework and piano and karate and scouts and baseball and ballet and whatwver else they do. Rocketry and hare krishnas and whatever. Thwn there are the surprises. The telephone call from teacher. The telephone call from the dojo. The skunk. The snake. The broken bone. Head lice. The more you care, the more time you spend on them. I dont believe a stay at home dad is bored with his children. Wasting away again in bodhichittaville... |
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| Anonymous Coward User ID: 71374690 United States02/05/2016 08:13 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Women have a hard time taking care of children and working, do all that and work a full time job. No help. Secondly, 'homemakers' have husband's, too. They stay at home with the children, take care of the husband, garden, home, bills, appointments, social arrangements, extra curricular activities etc. Then some dufus comes along and tries to convince the world that they have it easy and homemaker gets a bad rep. They do all this without monetary compensation, slaves were housed and fed, too, you know. Just because you do the minimal to get by doesn't mean it's easy. Raising a strong family is hard work. In an optimal arrangement, everyone is happy with their share of the work. I applaud your efforts as a single father but you do not work and you seem to do the least to get by. 20 minutes to prepare dinner? What about cooking it later, serving it, cleaning up after it? I am a homemaker, I work part time, I have a garden, I can, I dehydrate, I cook from scratch. I spend at least a few hours a week cutting coupons and matching sales to spend our hard earned household income wisely. I wash and iron our bed sheets every week, damn, I only got a washer this past year I have been washing by hand for years. I even find time to do volunteer work, cleaning apartments for the elderly. I do it all without complaint, serving others is the highest calling. |
| Anonymous Coward User ID: 54513945 United States02/05/2016 08:21 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | |
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| Anonymous Coward User ID: 37819089 United States02/05/2016 08:28 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Im a sick stay at home father with 2 small children... Quoting: Be organised 71016174 I have 2 smashed vertebrae liver disease which makes me very tired and major deppression... In 2 hours i can scrub my home cook very good meals and take care off my kids... The rest off the day im bored stiff... So my question is to all woman... you think its hard to be a stay at home mum and you think a man should come home and work after a long day??? The reason you think this is hard is because you are unorganized and lazy and either spend your time on tv or gossiping with your friends or going to the shopping centre having coffee ect... Im a very sick man but i can still keep a home beautiful and cook yummy meals and do the shopping take care off my kids and im still bored... and i do all this with pain... my house is spotless my food is yummy my kids are always praised for there obedience and kindness... I want to give you woman some advice turn tv off put the phone down and be organised... the greatest advise i can give is be organised... 1. get out off bed 2. feed kids 30min 3. put washing on 5min 4. put kids in front tv or playtime 5. wash dishes clean kitchen 20min 6. prepare the dinner to put on later in the day 20min 7. vacuum mop 30min 8. get kids go shop 1 hour no sit have coffee gossiping 9. pack shopping away 20 min 10. put aside 1 hour for minor jobs cleaning 11. hang washing 15 minutes 12. sit on your ass bored stiff for 3 or 4 hours the lesson is organisation and cleanliness i often watch other mothers and they are either lazy or unorganized and stuff around all day doing not much... if your home is organised and clean and simple then your days work is so much less and easy... my advise simplify organised and clean... chuck out half the crap in your house... this does not apply to stay at home mums with babys thats s whole different thing that requires fulltime care babys dont get breaks but from 3 years and older its very easy to do all your jobs for the day and still be bored... so every wife at home should have a beer in there hand for their husbands and maybe just maybe he might be thankful and do a few off the end off day jobs for you but considering you been bored for 4 hours i think it only fair you do the end off day work... I did not see any spending time with your kids ..No playing no teaching ...taking care of kids and cleaning is not hard when you love it.. and there should be no tv time for kids its all crap. Kids need there Mom and Dad! |
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| Shustah User ID: 71196635 United States02/05/2016 08:56 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Well OP, with those hours spent being bored, try teaching your children. I'm blessed to have a home Montessori School, and I'll tell you that teaching children instead of putting them in front of the TV is much better. Now the trick to teaching is organizing many many educational materials on shelves, organized. After over 10 years of doing this all my students test at 2nd grade level going into kindergarten. Reading, writing (cursive), subtraction, addition, multiplication. All manipulative materials that teach hands on. Good luck with your rant, and now go teach.  |
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| Anonymous Coward User ID: 69650036 United States02/05/2016 09:36 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Let's see. You mentioned kids in number 2 and 4. Seems that most of your time is spent doing chores by that list. When do you actually spend time with the kids? Quoting: Bugabooboo I don't mean to sound like i am criticizing you. I think you are wonderful and I wish that I was as organized as you. Some of what you say is true. I spend too much time in front of the TV. I like my R&R. I was a singled mom. I spent a lot of my time off doing things my child enjoyed to make up for the time i didnt get to spend with him. Cleaning up made me grouchy. I am sorry for your illness but I hope you see the ways in which you are blessed! i keep them occupied but i could play with them more i know that is were i need to improve but i do teach them very well how to be a good person but i really do not play with them much after after my jobs i just rest a bit while they watch tv ect im not a perfect dad but i try my best Get off your high horse dude calling women LAZY...LOL Staying at home raising children is the hardest job you could ever do. Look...im 53 and raised my children and raised one grand child till 10 yO. and half raised/helped out with 2 more. Day in day out 7 days a week with no vacations or breaks hun...after all that im friggin tired...I started at 24 first child and ended my full time child care just 2 years ago. Yes some females are Lazy but your throwing all us under the bus. I used to work 63 hours a week in a factory producing heat exchangers. I would pick up all the units I needed and put them by my station. They weigh about 40 lbs. I would then put them on my table, grab parts out of bins and screw them all into place. About 24 screws and 12 parts each. I had to do all that in less than 2 minutes per unit. All while I had to wear pants, protective arm gear, gloves and boots... in a 100 or more degree building. 9 hours a day. Please tell me how cleaning and watching children is hard... I would do that any day just for the joy of it. Seeing the smile on their faces as they play in the yard or at the park. |
| Anonymous Coward User ID: 70679955 Canada02/05/2016 09:45 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | I think its just a universal reality that women complain too much. I provide all the income for my family. My wife works only part-time. We have two young kinds under 4. We also have my wife's mom living with us doing much of the cleaning and caring for the kids. Yet, my wife STILL whines about being over-worked. |
| Anonymous Coward User ID: 70829423 Netherlands02/05/2016 09:48 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | I think its just a universal reality that women complain too much. Quoting: Anonymous Coward 70679955 I provide all the income for my family. My wife works only part-time. We have two young kinds under 4. We also have my wife's mom living with us doing much of the cleaning and caring for the kids. Yet, my wife STILL whines about being over-worked. stop complaining |
| Anonymous Coward User ID: 70679955 Canada02/05/2016 09:49 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | I think its just a universal reality that women complain too much. Quoting: Anonymous Coward 70679955 I provide all the income for my family. My wife works only part-time. We have two young kinds under 4. We also have my wife's mom living with us doing much of the cleaning and caring for the kids. Yet, my wife STILL whines about being over-worked. stop complaining Oh look! We have a smartass! |
| Anonymous Coward User ID: 70829423 Netherlands02/05/2016 09:54 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | I think its just a universal reality that women complain too much. Quoting: Anonymous Coward 70679955 I provide all the income for my family. My wife works only part-time. We have two young kinds under 4. We also have my wife's mom living with us doing much of the cleaning and caring for the kids. Yet, my wife STILL whines about being over-worked. stop complaining Oh look! We have a smartass! you sound like my wife |
| Holly Merry User ID: 24952768 United States02/05/2016 12:37 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Let's see. You mentioned kids in number 2 and 4. Seems that most of your time is spent doing chores by that list. When do you actually spend time with the kids? Quoting: Bugabooboo I don't mean to sound like i am criticizing you. I think you are wonderful and I wish that I was as organized as you. Some of what you say is true. I spend too much time in front of the TV. I like my R&R. I was a singled mom. I spent a lot of my time off doing things my child enjoyed to make up for the time i didnt get to spend with him. Cleaning up made me grouchy. I am sorry for your illness but I hope you see the ways in which you are blessed! i keep them occupied but i could play with them more i know that is were i need to improve but i do teach them very well how to be a good person but i really do not play with them much after after my jobs i just rest a bit while they watch tv ect im not a perfect dad but i try my best Get off your high horse dude calling women LAZY...LOL Staying at home raising children is the hardest job you could ever do. Look...im 53 and raised my children and raised one grand child till 10 yO. and half raised/helped out with 2 more. Day in day out 7 days a week with no vacations or breaks hun...after all that im friggin tired...I started at 24 first child and ended my full time child care just 2 years ago. Yes some females are Lazy but your throwing all us under the bus. I used to work 63 hours a week in a factory producing heat exchangers. I would pick up all the units I needed and put them by my station. They weigh about 40 lbs. I would then put them on my table, grab parts out of bins and screw them all into place. About 24 screws and 12 parts each. I had to do all that in less than 2 minutes per unit. All while I had to wear pants, protective arm gear, gloves and boots... in a 100 or more degree building. 9 hours a day. Please tell me how cleaning and watching children is hard... I would do that any day just for the joy of it. Seeing the smile on their faces as they play in the yard or at the park. Beautifully said. Wasting away again in bodhichittaville... |
