How do I get divorced? What are the very first steps?

Lawyer up.
Hit the gym.
Delete Facebook.

If you married your father you can probably just call the police. I'm pretty sure that's illegal throughout all 50 states.

Can't say I know about Puerto Rico's laws though.

You know what I mean. Patterns. Being interested in ragaholics because that's what you're familiar with.

Do you really have to have a lawyer? Can't I just file myself. There is nothing to divide really.

First off, Kids?

What, no getting a lawyer to screw the guy over as hard as you can as a parting gift? You're just going to go separate ways and that's that?

You are a beautiful human being! Please accept a virtual hug!

Are there kids involved?

Joking aside, 100% see a lawyer. Not to be used to screw your spouse over, but you should protect yourself. There is plenty surrounding divorce that you just don't even know.

No kids.

Thank you. That was unexpected lol

That's what they all say- there s nothing to divide- taking for granted he gets all his tools and you get the littl diff and pussycats.

When someone is unhappy they like to spread it around- and married to a rage person- well it will be a roller coaster unless you have all your ducks in a row as the saying goes.

#1) get your own checking account and don't tell him - and put one or more credit cards in your name only. Get some cash he can't get too. You will need it for a deposit on a rental and first months rent.

#2) do some research. Make sure everything from YOUR family is written down. I had a family heirloom piano! Do you have jewelry photos antiques or furniture from your family- put it in storage bin. (He can put a lien on it if his la yer finds it - so think)

#3) whatever you love- that's what he will keep. My my ex came over one day I wasn't home and stole the dog. Sigh.

#4) make a list - one side what you will keep the other what he gets and have h SIGN it. This will be basis for lawyer of troubles. Lawyers are expensive but eventually you will get one so have all agreements signed.

#5) get an address where important legal docents can be sent- and change your address- a PO box is good- he won't give you your mail.

#6) no matter what do good at work and get a raise- and keep that job.

#7) copy and put in safe deposit or safe place ALL legal papers- your marriage license- birth certificate -passport- drivers license- auto title- house or rental papers. He may not give th when you need them. Did you sign for the Lease? Or mortgage? You may have to pay even if you move out! Get copies of everything you ever signed - or proof you did not.

Good luck

Protect myself against what? I have 2,000 in the bank.

You should see a counselor because your problems are because of you and your head, and not because of him...

Potential marital property. Are you about ready to give him half of that?

Have you tried to work it out?how long are you married?

Thanks. Although I still don't want a lawyer at all. Do I really have to get one?

He says he's not changing. If I don't who he is then pack my stuff and leave. He's also way older than me. Over a decade older.

Get a lawyer. You're probably entitled to alimony support, but you won't get that without an attorney. You can probably make your husband pay for your attorney if he 100% supports you. Good luck.

If I don't like who is this than leave

7 years

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He will not pay alimony. Im his third wife. Other wives left him too, but i thought they were just mean people. I have a job, its not my dream job. In fact i was going to quit soon.

I don't know if the law is the same everywhere, but you don't need a lawyer - you money for fees and you need the right paperwork. Go to city hall, they might have literature to help you.

After you take off and sleep around a while, you'll realize your depression and problems are because of you and not him...do yourself a favor and seek help for the sickness in your head.

So my head is just imagining his temper and rage. Good one lol

You can get an uncontested divorce if he signs the paperwork and you both agree on everything. All you have to do is make sure that he's on board before you file. If everything's in order it's a pretty straight forward process that usually takes about 6 months. I just got mine and had absolutely no issues whatsoever.

...I mean, you NEED money for fees...

You're using that as an excuse to run away.

Have you told him that you were contemplating ending the marriage?..maybe he's not taking you seriously..also..not to be a dick...but sometimes ..there is a cause and effect for "rage"..

Are there things you could be doing differently ..or not doing to piss him off?..now if you mean by " rage" physical abuse..disregard..no excuse

But if you mean yelling etc..contrary to popular belief.. Most guys are chill..but there are trigger points that will piss us off

I had friends that got some divorce kit from a store and filed themselves.

But I think there is another name, dissolution?

My friends did it without lawyers and they had a house and the ex wife just got the equity from the home.