I Just Broke Up With My Boyfriend

Just Broke-up With A Wonderful Boyfriend Because I Didn't Feel That Spark I was dating this man for over 2 years. We immediately had lots of things in common, including music, school, careers, outlook on life. Generally compatible on a logical basis. We had a lot of fun together and he treated me so well. He's generous, thoughtful and supportive of my demanding career. On top of that, my family thinks he's great and his family is so nice to me. All the things I thought I was looking for.

Just one problem: when I would see him, I didn't feel that passion, that spark that you normally have with someone. I admired him, loved him and saw his potential as a great future partner. And I found him attractive, but almost felt he was more of a good friend at times. I felt like I had no libido anymore. I don't know why I had these feelings, it doesn't make any sense logically. But somehow my heart wasn't in it. I gave it time, but this aspect didn't improve. I was comfortable with him and fairly happy. But there was a part that was missing and that made me sad, I started noticing other couples being affectionate and wished that could be me. I started distancing myself more and more from him. I also started feeling restless and started looking around at other men.

So, after much deliberation, I decided to break it off with him. He is such a wonderful boyfriend that I should be excited to marry. And I feel like if I'm not sure at this point, I need to move on to find someone who I am more committed to. There is a part of me that wonders if what we have is enough, and maybe it will deepen with time, but I'm also worried that the aspect that's missing may never be there for me. And I don't know if I'm willing to let that part go.

Has anyone been in a similar situation?

When you know you want to marry someone, do you just know it's right?

Do you think over time the spark fades so this type of situation is what you are left with anyways where you are more like just friends?

I would appreciate your experiences. This has been a really difficult decision to make, one I struggled with off and on for the past year or so.