Whats the best way to desl with adult siblings?

*deal

Don't make any heavy proclamaitions...just start seeing them less often...and then even less often.

Christmas and thanksgiving will do.

ignore.

Ignore. Do holidays if you feel like it. No obligation to be close freinds.

There isn't anything a good throat punch can't fix.

Engage in sexual activity with them

lol this is what came to mind.

If its just going to be fake as fake can be why bother with christmas and thanksgiving?

just never talk again

You're a sicko ! I like you

Its a shame when siblings do not get along, should be each others best friend.

But wait until you lose one and then you will get it, but it will be too late then.

Keep conversation to a minimum, don't reveal anything about yourself, your spouse, or your children, and tell them you will be out of town when they want to come for a visit.

If you don't want to see them, move away. Far away.

Maybe try to figure out why you don't get along?

After a certain age that is ridiculous. Move on and live your life.

My brother was my best friend, never understood siblings NOT getting along.

I feel for you OP.

I was the youngest of 3 girls.
The two older girls went out and started their own lives hardly ever concerned about our aging parents at all.
Never visited, would brag about sitting their phones down and ignoring Mom when Mom would call them and want to talk.

They were both 2 cold heartless Bi^#hes.

So, I stayed close to them, caring for them, cleaning their house, doctors appointments, cooking for them, getting guys to help with any car repairs they might need...ect.
Eventually I had to bury them both, alone... the other girls never even came to funerals or visited death beds.

Luckily Mom & Dad put everything into a Trust for me, for the love and caring I extended to them during their lifetimes.

That really torqued off my older sisters.
Now, I have the family home.

If you have venomous siblings then your most likely to have the situation work itself out like mine did.

They haven't spoken to me or my husband since 1996, life has been so peaceful with no drama or evil people that I am glad they never call or want to come around because Mom & Dad left everything to me. :)

Evil, uncaring people usually dig their own selves into oblivion sooner or later, until then just always be sick or too busy to mess with them.

I don't understand how people like that can look at their reflections in the mirror every morning.

Good luck with yours.

so, what family doesnt have some dysfunction? granted some are way worse than others, but you arent being specific about issues, if there are even any issues.

normal siblings trying to distance themselves from other normal siblings are usually either introverted or going through some kind of a problem or crisis.

It's easy to understand really.
Lots of siblings get along and support each other.
Other siblings feed off each other like sharks in the womb.

Both I and my husband come from "shark families".

passive aggressive much?

I guess the same reasons other people and countries do; competing interests, different attitudes, different languages lol, ect. I don't know really but it does happen, it's not something you should dwell on if it just leads to more dysfunction for yourself imo. Sort of "if we were strangers, would we be freinds?". I recognize that might sound cruel but I think there is some truth to it.

What kind of proclamations?

SHUN them and never look back.

Kill them with a really big shovel, then use the shovel to hide the bodies. when the bodies are found feign surprise and cry alot to throw the cops off the scent. When they find DNA on the murder weapon just deny it was you and blame some Mexican and say that Trump did it by paying the mexican to kill them in revenge for you laughing at his hairpiece.

Well, I am the youngest of four and live a few states away. They expect me to do all the travelling for visits. Only one sibling has visted me. Then when I show up for a visit, everyone just unliads in me about their life/problems/ issues with the past as if I'm some therapist. But its not reciprocal. No one asks/cares about my life. I just go from house to house seeing everyone, and I mm guessing it makes me look like a doormat. I am starting to realize its abusive.

Some siblings have very little in common other than family.
Makes it a lot harder to be friends.
But a phone call ever few months can still keep that relationship alive.

Lol, you just described many, many families.
I don't know about abusive, sounds kinda normal to me (and this is why I live on the other coast from my family).
They are trying to keep you in the loop?
And obviously terrible at asking how you are doing!

Just smile and wave. Have no expectations, make no assumptions. Be polite, as if they were a neighbor or whatever.

It's when we get upset because they are different than us or don't recall events in the same way as us - that shit goes sideways. We expect them to be more like us and have the same values and beliefs as us. They don't necessarily fit into neat little narratives like that. We don't fit into their narratives either, that's what we don't realize.

Life is not a TV show.

Let it all go.

All human conflict stems from one party or group trying to control the actions or thoughts of another party or group. Siblings for example...