Tips to catch teen sneaking out at night

He argues about anything! Anything that has to do with him stopping what *he* wants to do makes him mad. It's like he's an adult in a kids' body. If he has to leave to go to the store with us, he's angry. If he has to stop playing a game to do homework, he's angry. Basically anything that he doesn't agree with, he gets angry and fights tooth and nail almost every day. It's exhausting. And my wife and I will NOT have him take meds, but at this point we are at a loss. he is literally *always* on restriction. It makes me sad. He's lived a life where he has had everything a kid could want and more. We give him tons of love and attention....take him places. I just donm't understand.

I think my teen is sneaking out at night while I'm sleeping. Anybody else had to deal with this?

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He argues about anything! Anything that has to do with him stopping what *he* wants to do makes him mad. It's like he's an adult in a kids' body. If he has to leave to go to the store with us, he's angry. If he has to stop playing a game to do homework, he's angry. Basically anything that he doesn't agree with, he gets angry and fights tooth and nail almost every day. It's exhausting. And my wife and I will NOT have him take meds, but at this point we are at a loss. he is literally *always* on restriction. It makes me sad. He's lived a life where he has had everything a kid could want and more. We give him tons of love and attention....take him places. I just donm't understand.


He may think he's an adult in a kid's body, because he hasn't figured out that being an adult does NOT = being able to do whatever you want whenever you want to.

I'd already figured that out when I was 9 thanks to my smart aleck mom. I'd say, "I want a new bike" and she'd say, "Yeah, well I want a new car. So buy me a new car and I'll buy you a new bike." I'd say, "I don't want to do dishes" and she'd say, "Yeah, well I don't want to work. So go work 40 hours a week at the office and I'll do the dishes." Sheesh, half the time we were packed into the car, we didn't even know where we were headed. We'd say, "where are we going?" and our parents would say, "crazy".

Don't let your son wear you down. I used to try to be enough of a stubborn pain to make my parents give up, but they were more stubborn than I was. When I was in 2nd grade we had a stand-off that lasted for 4 hours over me not wanting to drink my milk. We all sat at the kitchen table until 11:00 PM staring each other down over that glass of milk. Finally, I said, "I'm not gonna drink it, because it's not cold anymore" then my mom took the glass away (and for a moment I thought I'd won) but then she filled up another cup with cold milk and set it in front of me. I drank it and threw the empty cup at her head.

I still think diet could be a part of your son's problem. I've heard that a lot of kids who've been diagnosed with ADD have been fine after having their diet changed.

It could also be that he's just willful (like I was, and still am in many ways). If he's willful, then you have a big job on your hands, because you don't want to kill his spirit (being "a fighter" is a good thing, and quite frankly the world could use more fighters), but you do need to carefully guide him (because being "a fighter" can also be a bad thing if the fighter remains angry and self-centered).

You may need to teach him to start putting himself in other people's shoes. Sounds simple, and it may even be something you take for granted so much that you don't think it should even need to be done. But when I was very young, I really did need to be taught this. I had no natural regard for others. I needed to be told, "how would you like it if someone did that to you" for the concept to even cross my mind. I still remember the first time my dad said that to me. It actually blew me away and I spent the rest of the day thinking about it, because prior to that I'd never given any thought whatsoever to how my actions might make other people feel. Now I don't need to be told this in order to take into consideration how my actions may affect others, but back then I did. And I'm glad my parents caught it early enough to set me on a better path than the one I would've ended up going down if I'd been left to my own devices.

An old trick:
Wedge a tiny piece of paper (folded, if necessary) in between the door and the door frame. If you later find it on the floor, you know the door must have been opened in your absence.

However, I don't really recommend spying on your child (unless absolutely necessary). It's much better just to talk to him/her.

great.
he gets up & goes to the bathroom during the night.
you find a "piece of paper on the floor"
child gets crucified.

*rolls eyes*


Front door, not bedroom door.

Dummy.

Ask them.

An old trick:
Wedge a tiny piece of paper (folded, if necessary) in between the door and the door frame. If you later find it on the floor, you know the door must have been opened in your absence.

However, I don't really recommend spying on your child (unless absolutely necessary). It's much better just to talk to him/her.

I think my teen is sneaking out at night while I'm sleeping. Anybody else had to deal with this?

Teens love cigarettes. Place a trail of cigarettes that leads to a bear trap.

Who the hell goes through the front door to sneak out haha. I always went through my window.

An old trick:
Wedge a tiny piece of paper (folded, if necessary) in between the door and the door frame. If you later find it on the floor, you know the door must have been opened in your absence.

However, I don't really recommend spying on your child (unless absolutely necessary). It's much better just to talk to him/her.

great.
he gets up & goes to the bathroom during the night.
you find a "piece of paper on the floor"
child gets crucified.

*rolls eyes*


Front door, not bedroom door.

Dummy.




That was funnY!

I used to spread juniper needles around the house and then lock up the ex wife's shoes. If she left the house at night she would have seriously injured feet. Didn't stop her from smoking crack with the neighbor, but at least I knew when she did it. If she was stepping funny, she'd been crack whoring again. We didn't stay married for long.

become a good parent, establish a relationship with your child in which they do not feel they need to sneak out to do anything, reinforce it with the promise of severe punishment if they do stupid shit.

Oh bullshit. Kids are fucking kids. We did things to despise and piss off our parents. Face it, no matter the approach (almost) kids "will" do what they wish.