I think that says it in one sentence. It doesn't mean that if you decide you do not want to be a victim that all of the problems that are created by someone else will just vanish. They may very well still be there but it will change how you deal with the problem and if you will be able to survive because of your feelings.

Children, mentally and phyicaly challenged are a TOTALLY different area. (sorry about the spelling errs my spell check isn't working)