Op,

www.askmen.com

There you will find a very user friendly, open atmosphere about men and in particular, dating.

You would be better off posting this exact question there, rather then on a conspiracy site riddled with ignorant ppl who aren't willing to help.

If I had to offer advice to you, if you don't go to the gym, I definitely would look into getting fit. It's amazing how much it helps your confidence.

Next, be confident. Gotta be confident, not cocky, and play situations cool and smooth when out with women.

Be funny. And charming. Make females laugh and smile...

The pattern, once learned, is easy to maintain but extremely difficult to master.

These are just basics, but I assure you, if you head over to askmen, you will get all the help you need.

I used to frequent that spot regularly and I tried to help a number of men in similar situations as yourself.

Good luck.