My husband makes promises to me, then doesn't keep them. How do I get him to stop?

My husband makes promises to me, then doesn't keep them.

For example, he promised to buy me a new wedding ring because mine is too small. But months went by and he never bothered to do it.

He doesn't seem to understand how demeaning and disrespectful that is. I mean, a wedding ring! It stands for something.

What should I do to make him understand how bad that is?

My husband makes promises to me, then doesn't keep them.

For example, he promised to buy me a new wedding ring because mine is too small. But months went by and he never bothered to do it.

He doesn't seem to understand how demeaning and disrespectful that is. I mean, a wedding ring! It stands for something.

What should I do to make him understand how bad that is?






Leave him. Then, when he wants to come back, tell him:


You make promises to me, then don't keep them.

For example, you promised to buy me a new wedding ring because mine is too small. But months went by and you never bothered to do it.

You don't seem to understand how demeaning and disrespectful that is. I mean, a wedding ring! It stands for something.

My husband makes promises to me, then doesn't keep them.

For example, he promised to buy me a new wedding ring because mine is too small. But months went by and he never bothered to do it.

He doesn't seem to understand how demeaning and disrespectful that is. I mean, a wedding ring! It stands for something.

What should I do to make him understand how bad that is?

My husband makes promises to me, then doesn't keep them.

For example, he promised to buy me a new wedding ring because mine is too small. But months went by and he never bothered to do it.

He doesn't seem to understand how demeaning and disrespectful that is. I mean, a wedding ring! It stands for something.

What should I do to make him understand how bad that is?

If I may suggest...

When he forgets his promise...incase u cook DONT (atleast for that day or for few days :) )

Find something which will ALERT him or OPEN his eyes. Find his WEAKPOINT. SHAKE it a bit . U get my DRIFT right ? :)

My husband makes promises to me, then doesn't keep them.

For example, he promised to buy me a new wedding ring because mine is too small. But months went by and he never bothered to do it.

He doesn't seem to understand how demeaning and disrespectful that is. I mean, a wedding ring! It stands for something.

What should I do to make him understand how bad that is?


If I may suggest...

When he forgets his promise...incase u cook DONT (atleast for that day or for few days :) )

Find something which will ALERT him or OPEN his eyes. Find his WEAKPOINT. SHAKE it a bit . U get my DRIFT right ? :)

My husband makes promises to me, then doesn't keep them.

For example, he promised to buy me a new wedding ring because mine is too small. But months went by and he never bothered to do it.

He doesn't seem to understand how demeaning and disrespectful that is. I mean, a wedding ring! It stands for something.

What should I do to make him understand how bad that is?


If I may suggest...

When he forgets his promise...incase u cook DONT (atleast for that day or for few days :) )

Find something which will ALERT him or OPEN his eyes. Find his WEAKPOINT. SHAKE it a bit . U get my DRIFT right ? :)

If I may suggest...

When he forgets his promise...incase u cook DONT (atleast for that day or for few days :) )

Find something which will ALERT him or OPEN his eyes. Find his WEAKPOINT. SHAKE it a bit . U get my DRIFT right ? :)

Yes, good idea. It seems that relationships here are set up so that men take for granted the little ways women SHOW that they love their men everyday. They just think it's "your job" or they don't think at all. "Forgetting" to cook, clean, provide him with a lovely home and children are all ways you do this without much action on his part. Love is a verb.

And yes, for those who want to make snide comments about your example with jewelry are missing the point. It's not that you even want the jewelry, it's that you don't want to be LIED TO or mislead. It's worse if he makes these empty promises than if he just never did it because you get excited, look forward to it then doesn't do it than if he just never said anything about it.

Another thought, are you rewarding his behavior? Do you get really excited and have great sex that night? Maybe he's doing it as an easy way to get you excited instead of doing the work.

My husband makes promises to me, then doesn't keep them.

For example, he promised to buy me a new wedding ring because mine is too small. But months went by and he never bothered to do it.

He doesn't seem to understand how demeaning and disrespectful that is. I mean, a wedding ring! It stands for something.

What should I do to make him understand how bad that is?

My husband makes promises to me, then doesn't keep them.

For example, he promised to buy me a new wedding ring because mine is too small. But months went by and he never bothered to do it.

He doesn't seem to understand how demeaning and disrespectful that is. I mean, a wedding ring! It stands for something.

What should I do to make him understand how bad that is?

Neither of you are kids, and he probably isn't going to change. Don't extract any promises from him, and if he does make a promise, tell him you'll believe it when you see it.
If you want another wedding ring, pick one out, and drag his ass down to pay for it. Expect to provide some extra special sex for it.

If this is his only flaw, It's not worth divorcing him over. Divorce is a terrible thing that will totally change your life and your kids lives.

Don't get into any childish tit for tat exchanges. Either you love him, or you don't.

I am mostly upset about the broken promise because it was HIS IDEA to make the promise. I never suggested it.

He is clearly passive-aggressive.

It seems that relationships here are set up so that men take for granted the little ways women SHOW that they love their men everyday. They just think it's "your job" or they don't think at all. "Forgetting" to cook, clean, provide him with a lovely home and children are all ways you do this without much action on his part. Love is a verb.

And yes, for those who want to make snide comments about your example with jewelry are missing the point. It's not that you even want the jewelry, it's that you don't want to be LIED TO or misled. It's worse if he makes these empty promises than if he just never did it, because you get excited, look forward to it then he doesn't do it, than if he just never said anything about it.