Real power in the matrix is obtained by being Truthful

It really is. Really, really. Truthful with integrity.

Not melodramatic, not outraged, not forceful. Just truthful.

I dont think you can be truthful, though, about anything - really - until you're first truthful with yourself about yourself in such a way that there is nothing about yourself that you don't both know and accept.

You are correct, we live in a BIG LIE. Family members prefer the lie to the Truth, crazy.

you have to be honest with yourself before you can be honest towards others.
you have to be good to yourself and respect yourself before you can form successful bonds.

you take the plunge and start from scratch, trusting in your soul connection to provide intuition. all you need to do is separate what the material is from the realm of the spiritual and that life cord back to yourself will strengthen.