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Hickory User ID: 974021 United States 02/04/2011 07:57 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 1211208 United States 02/04/2011 07:58 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | You need to only understand one thing. It's not her male friends. All Sex is by permission only. If no woman says you're having sex...you ain't. So if she wants wiener...it's always by her invitation. Now the guys will accept the infivation if it's given. Can't blame the guys. She had to invite them to play. Sex is by INVITATION ONLY. |
BRIEF AND TO THE POINT User ID: 381742 United States 02/04/2011 08:08 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | You need to only understand one thing. Quoting: Anonymous Coward 1211208It's not her male friends. All Sex is by permission only. If no woman says you're having sex...you ain't. So if she wants wiener...it's always by her invitation. Now the guys will accept the infivation if it's given. Can't blame the guys. She had to invite them to play. Sex is by INVITATION ONLY. Yeah, but girls that have a bunch of guy friends will eventually end up fucking them...trust me Poor people do poor people things, and rich people do rich people things. You cannot legislate the poor into prosperity by legislating the wealthy out of prosperity. What one person receives without working for, another person must work for without receiving. The government cannot give to anybody anything that the government does not first take from somebody else. When half of the people get the idea that they do not have to work because the other half is going to take care of them, and the other half gets the idea that it does no good to work because somebody else is going to get what they work for, that my dear friend, is the beginning of the end of any nation. You cannot multiply wealth by dividing it! when you rob Paul to give to Peter ... ... ... you will always get Peters support! :Brieffromnativea: |
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Sandi_T User ID: 873093 United States 02/04/2011 08:14 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | No more requests in the "Strangest things" thread please. :hf: Past Lives requests thread: Thread: That Which Once Was: Past Lives |
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Sandi_T User ID: 873093 United States 02/04/2011 08:20 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | All guys are 'friends' with women with one end goal in mind, to fuck her. Quoting: Anonymous Coward 1123488FACT ALL guys? And ALL women! Friends with a 90 year old lady? Just to fuck her! FACT! No more requests in the "Strangest things" thread please. :hf: Past Lives requests thread: Thread: That Which Once Was: Past Lives |
J-Rico User ID: 1116423 United States 02/04/2011 08:20 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | All guys are 'friends' with women with one end goal in mind, to fuck her. Quoting: Anonymous Coward 1123488FACT ALL guys? Except the gay ones. And even those, you have to be careful for. Everyone dies, but not everyone lives. :moranrico::Rico::moranrico: |
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Anonymous Coward User ID: 1249747 United States 02/04/2011 08:30 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | this is nonsense. Quoting: klc_infowarrioreach human being is unique & different..u can't lump all relationships, or all women, or all men into the same catagory. fail. Like multiple peters eh? Can't say I blame you. However, I as a male always liked having several women friends as booty calls. Your right though...to each his/her own eh? |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 1254613 Canada 02/04/2011 08:32 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | I had plenty of male friends in my life but they were more like drinking buddies than close friends the way I have female friends. I wouldn't talk to them about my relationships or anything emotionally deep. However, if any guy tried to tell me who I could be friends with or not, I'd think he was a controlling jerk and he'd be shown the door. Then again, I'm good at maintaining solid boundaries and letting any guy I'm with know who's number one. A lot of girls aren't. On top of that, just because a girl only has female friends doesn't mean she's not fooling around with them. You never know these days. |
J-Rico User ID: 1116423 United States 02/04/2011 08:34 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | If she tells you that she has male friends and that she goes out with them every once in a while... you just smile and say: Great, I have female friends as well that go out with me every once in a while, so I'm sure you won't mind... Gauge her reaction. Then proceed. Everyone dies, but not everyone lives. :moranrico::Rico::moranrico: |
Atheist User ID: 1252967 United Kingdom 02/04/2011 08:37 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | I'm not interested in somebody in a relationship, because if they were capable of leaving somebody else to be with me, then they are capable of doing the same thing to me. That seed of doubt would always be in my mind. I cant have a relationship with somebody who has proven to be unloyal from day one. Casual drunken sex is another matter however. Atheist |
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Anonymous Coward User ID: 1211208 United States 02/04/2011 08:40 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | All guys are 'friends' with women with one end goal in mind, to fuck her. Quoting: Anonymous Coward 1123488FACT ALL guys? Except the gay ones. And even those, you have to be careful for. I have seen gay guys get more sex with girls than straight guys... I'm going to start acting more gay... |
Chawlee User ID: 1255693 Switzerland 02/04/2011 08:40 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | This is how you test it. Quoting: J-RicoIf she tells you that she has male friends and that she goes out with them every once in a while... you just smile and say: Great, I have female friends as well that go out with me every once in a while, so I'm sure you won't mind... Gauge her reaction. Then proceed. I wouldn't be able to proceed until the swelling goes down enuff for me to see thru the slits in my eyes. |
klc_infowarrior User ID: 1242991 Canada 02/04/2011 08:41 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | this is nonsense. Quoting: klc_infowarrioreach human being is unique & different..u can't lump all relationships, or all women, or all men into the same catagory. fail. Like multiple peters eh? Can't say I blame you. However, I as a male always liked having several women friends as booty calls. Your right though...to each his/her own eh? what? not everyone on this planet is obsessed with genitals & sex. Live the life you love..Pick a God you trust..And don't take it all too seriously... |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 1211208 United States 02/04/2011 08:42 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | You need to only understand one thing. Quoting: Anonymous Coward 1211208It's not her male friends. All Sex is by permission only. If no woman says you're having sex...you ain't. So if she wants wiener...it's always by her invitation. Now the guys will accept the infivation if it's given. Can't blame the guys. She had to invite them to play. Sex is by INVITATION ONLY. Yeah, but girls that have a bunch of guy friends will eventually end up fucking them...trust me But they still have to be invited. I'm not saying they won't sex her...I'm just saying she has to ask them to. |
Sweetness User ID: 745232 United States 02/04/2011 08:42 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Dealing With Her Male “friends” Quoting: Anonymous Coward 1255507Beware the company she keeps for they will betray you. Few people have integrity in this world and even fewer keep it when the gain is so great. It is all we have and it sells for nothing. In desperation people will lie, steal and cheat to get what they desire. This applies greatly to relationships and your girlfriends male “friends.” There is a big problem that is running rampant in today’s relationships and it’s called male friends. A lot of guy’s would steal your girlfriend right out from under you without a second thought. Either through lack of integrity or desperation for love and affection would they take what is not theirs, leaving you confused as to why this happened. Some women are to blame for this. They love external validation so much so that is has become an addiction to them. They gain their self esteem from the compliments and attention from others and it is a tough habit to break. They get into relationships and receive withdrawal symptoms from not having drunk guys suck up to them every weekend. Without this attention they feel ugly, useless and miserable. They like the security that comes from a relationship because almost everyone fears dying alone but still feel the shakes as the self esteem derived from external validation leaves their system. Single and fearing dying alone or in a relationship and watching their false sense of self esteem dwindle away? There lies a compromise that most take: be in a relationship but keep the male companions around for validation. All the while you can pretend like it doesn’t bother you. You can ignore it when she constantly texts her “friend” who is a little too touchy for your taste. Or like most guy’s who don’t like it you can keep your mouth shut and repress your irritation. You don’t like it but feel helpless in the situation. You know something is off but feel like there is nothing you can do about it. You have made far too many rationalizations in your head for this sort of behavior. You don’t want to appear needy or macho so you let it go only to find the situation getting worse as the days go bye. Few find the strength and courage to say something to the girl which only ends up in an argument. Never argue with a women, she’s better at it. The argument doesn’t go as you plan and you only end up feeling guilty for something that doesn’t sit right with you. The uncertainty of whether or not her having touchy feely male friends is what kills you and makes you unable to stand your ground. She tells you hes just a friend and you believe it but something still doesn’t sit right in your stomach. You feel as though it’s unfair that she has friends that are a little close for comfort while you would never allow any female friends to get that way. You feel loyal to the relationship and wouldn’t allow anything to threaten it but would she? That’s an important question to ask any time you feel like there is a male friend of hers that you don’t quite trust. Does she care about the relationship to let go of anyone who threatens it? Or does she enjoy the high she gets from external validation more? If the answer is yes that she does want to protect the relationship then the male friend needs to go. Before you even bring this up check to make sure it’s not your own paranoia that is running the show. Does he make inappropriate compliments? Text or call her more than a friend should? Give her hugs that last a little too long? Most women aren’t used to dating guys with integrity and character. They are used to holding onto to male friends who over step their boundaries and having their boyfriends not say a word about it. She might be upset when you bring this up and try and turn it around on you. Don’t listen to any of the arguments and keep your ground. She might repeat that he is just a friend but would you do the same things with a buddy that her male friend is doing with her? No, probably not. If she absolutely refuses to get rid of him then your answer is clear…No she is not willing to do anything to protect the relationship. At that time you are the one who needs to make a choice and ask yourself “do I really want to be with this person?” There are also girls who don’t derive all of their self esteem from external validation but still have those irritating male friends. Most of the time the girls have just brushed it off and made excuses for their friends behaviors. In this case it will be easy for her to let go of them. All you need to do is talk to her about it and have her become aware of what’s going on and the problem will be solved. It is more than ok to have friends within a relationship but they need to be friends both of you can trust. They need to be people who completely respect the boundaries of your relationship and who know better than to mess with it. They must be of integrity or they need to go. This is what I hear from you. It's my way or the highway. If the girl has given you no indication that she is guilty then it's your insecurities that must be dealt with. Has she offered to let go of these friends for you? And what did you say? It sounds to me that you want total control of her and that is really not a good relationship. I think you need to look at yourself and what is really promting these issues. The past should remain in the past but, you seem to be confusing the two. Trust your instinct to the end, though you can render no reason. Ralph Waldo Emerson |
J-Rico User ID: 1116423 United States 02/04/2011 08:43 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | You need to only understand one thing. Quoting: Anonymous Coward 1211208It's not her male friends. All Sex is by permission only. If no woman says you're having sex...you ain't. So if she wants wiener...it's always by her invitation. Now the guys will accept the infivation if it's given. Can't blame the guys. She had to invite them to play. Sex is by INVITATION ONLY. Yeah, but girls that have a bunch of guy friends will eventually end up fucking them...trust me But they still have to be invited. I'm not saying they won't sex her...I'm just saying she has to ask them to. Or just have enough alcohol in her......... Everyone dies, but not everyone lives. :moranrico::Rico::moranrico: |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 1211208 United States 02/04/2011 08:44 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | this is nonsense. Quoting: klc_infowarrioreach human being is unique & different..u can't lump all relationships, or all women, or all men into the same catagory. fail. Like multiple peters eh? Can't say I blame you. However, I as a male always liked having several women friends as booty calls. Your right though...to each his/her own eh? what? not everyone on this planet is obsessed with genitals & sex. Call it nature...SELF PRESERVATION it's a natural instinct to procreate the species. Biologically speaking. The obsession lessons with time. But if you're normal and healthy and young...stand back baby it's gonna happen...NEXT... |
Sweetness User ID: 745232 United States 02/04/2011 08:44 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | You need to only understand one thing. Quoting: Anonymous Coward 1211208It's not her male friends. All Sex is by permission only. If no woman says you're having sex...you ain't. So if she wants wiener...it's always by her invitation. Now the guys will accept the infivation if it's given. Can't blame the guys. She had to invite them to play. Sex is by INVITATION ONLY. Yeah, but girls that have a bunch of guy friends will eventually end up fucking them...trust me I can't believe you said that. We are all not from slutsville. Trust your instinct to the end, though you can render no reason. Ralph Waldo Emerson |