How to deal with an asshole father in law that you have to live with.

What? LOL

And you really want to live in that situation? You aren't made to live like this. I guess there is nothing more you can do other than leave the house. Sounds like the whole family is addicted to drama or else any sane person would have gotten out of there no matter what.

never ever get yourself tied up with family when it comes to money or a place to live.I learned this in a very hard way.If you want screwed over or controlled just let a family member have some access to anything that controls anything in your life.

We dont have anything to hide. I am clean i have no record my kids are fed and clothed and go to school everyday and we are apart of our church. and he wouldnt do it now anyway because he is attached to my son to much. And my mother in law would hate him.

OK, so what do you want people to say to you on this thread? Stay? Go?

Looks like you have your mind up to stay so deal with it. Be nice to the man or be mean to him. Whatever.

I feel like this thread is a waste of time because you already have your mind made up to stay.

No i Dont, i want to make it better.

op, you asked for advice, received it, and then gave excuses of why you couldnt accept it. summary: suck it up till you move out or he does.

I think what people are saying is you already know he is not going to change. It doesn't matter what you do or how you act he is set in his ways and nothing changes that. So in truth the only choice left is not move. Also your kids see and learn from the adults around them, know matter if you think they know what's going on or not the see this. Do you want them to live like this too?

I meant move!!

I think OP wants to live above what her and hubby can afford alone and keeps trying to hang in there for higher status such as bigger house than they could afford alone.Maybe would have to rent etc.
Its quiet clear that FIL doesnt like her so why would one want to keep trying only to be put down more.Move out even if to a one bedroom apt and get off the rent to own contract.

Your FIL is sick of your ugly ass. Your kids are getting on his nerves. Your living in his house and you want to bitch about what he has done for you. You are ungrateful. I see why he calls you a whore. I hope he goes through with his threats. Get out and give the poor man some peace and quite. Geez your a dumb ass.

No I dont, but we dont have good enough credit to move on our own. which is we moved into this house on my MILs credit. Moving on our own is not an option for us right now.

OP its you FIL's house. Get your ass out of it. Give the man some peace and quite. Take some pride in your life and stand on your own two feet.

How dare u

No its not his house, he doesnt even pay the rent. me, my mil, and husband do.

He actually lives off of all of us. And my mil wont kick him out.

Then thats a different situation.your MIL should be dealing with him and his actions unless she thinks it okay for him to act that way.The 3 of you need to discuss his actions and tell her how you feel.3 against one should calm him down

It is a tough place your in, I guess just look for things you can be thankful for, like your husband defending you. I was in a the same stituation and my ex never defend me and let the in laws talk anyway the wanted to me, so after some tough choices I left. It was so very hard to do but worth it for my peace of mind. Just take one day at a time and work on the credit thing so you could move sooner, your father in law knows he has the control and will play on that.

Done for? he has done shit, me my mil and husband pay the rent and the bills on this house. He doesnt even own it.

It was no dare. I do not remember you daring me at all. That proves to me you really are a dumb ass. Its a wonder your fil has any life at all living with a dumbass like you.

you were right sounds like she pretty much said the same thing, sad the house size and style means more than how her kids will turn out.

Do you own it. Geez what a basket case you are. Ungraeful, I see why you fil can't stand you oh and take his advice and go get gastric bypass, I'm sure you need it.

okay thank you i will sure do that.

why would your mil kick out her own husband. If your husband was smart he would kick out your fat ass, and than everyone but YOU would be happy. Next time keep your damn problems to yourself. No one gives a shit.

Im on the lease and i only weigh 140 LBS i wouldnt even quilify for it

if he isnt paying for anything and acting like an asshole then she shouldnt want to out uo with him either.If the three of them are paying the bills then they should talk it out and find a way to deal with how he is acting.not right for OP to pay her part and be treated badly especially if he contributes nothing.

Because i pay the majority of the rent and bills, he pays nothing.

Thank you

Get a lawyer over this contract if you all are on it. Buy him out if you have to. If he is still an addict and has drugs in the home and you're aware this may be the case, they can take your kids on that info alone.

Do whatever you can to part ways. This is no good for anyone and is teaching your children in the wrong ways. Sounds like you've been living with parents for too long. People live on less than what you're making. If you could put him up in his own place for 6 months to get him out and started on his own, it may be worth it. Or, let him have the place and for you all to move. Get out of the contract! If he's been using (especially) if it's in your home you may have a legitimate out from the contract. Your home can be seized if drugs are found, your children can be seized if drugs are found - I would think this could help you get out of the contract with the right lawyer. On the other hand, if you don't pay your rent, what's the worst that can happen? Your credit? If it's a rent-to-own the worst may be that you lose your investment. Talk to a lawyer first or re-read your papers to see what happens if you default. I would desperate whatever it takes. Why would you live with someone who threatens you with family strife, let alone put-downs.