How to deal with an asshole father in law that you have to live with.

Hi everyone i am new to the site and have a problem, my father in law. He is controlling, over bearing, and puts me down emotionally ever chance he gets. It all started when i was pregnant with my son. FIL started to make comments about my weight here and there, but at first i just brushed it off because i didnt want to get myself upset during my pregnancy. also at that time i was living with my parents because my dad had cancer, so since we werent living with him it was a bit more bearable and i didnt pay much attention to what he said about me because i had other things to deal with. Well my dad passed, mom got sick and had to be put in a nursing home, i was only working part time with my husband, so we couldnt afford to keep my parents house and had to move in with my inlaws, At first things were cool, my FIL was giving us time adjust to a difficult situation, and was even understanding to the fact that i lost my dad, or so i thought. I now know it was all an act. Now i had my son who was 5 mths old at the time and my daughter who was 4, from a previous realtionship. Everything started between 07 and 08. My kids are now 5 and 10, so i been dealing with this for 5 years. It all started back up again when he starting telling me how i should deal with the kids and even started to demand money from me and my husband so he can go and score, (hes an recovering drug attic on top of this) When i refused, he (FIL) started saying things like he is gonna call dcfs and tell them i was abusing my kids, and that i was a fat cow, and a bitch and a whore. Nice right? Again this situation happened in 08. So it prompted me and my husband to move in with other relatives on a temp basis, until my FIL got his own problems worked out. Fast forward five years we are now all renting a 6 bedroom house together and I thought things would be a little better, and they were for a while, well FIL is getting on my case again. Even made the comment that i should have gastric by pass done to control my weight. FIL is also near 300 LBS him self. Well ive been trying to eat healthier and be more active, even if its just walking the dog. fil is a diabetic and still eats junk food that he shouldnt be eating. And yes hes trying to overrun my parenting and even trys to still control the house hold, even though we all equally pay rent. I have busted my ass getting though school for the past 2 years. I am a registered medical assistant and certified health insurance benefits rep. i work 40 hrs a week and make about $2000.00 on a good month. It still isnt good enough for my father in law, just yesterday he called me an idiot because i got a bag of laundry mixed up with antoher. HELPP PLZZ!!! But no rude comments. REAL ADVICE PLEASE.

Last Edited by angfromchitown on 04/19/2012 04:31 PM