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| Relativity Offer Upgrade  User ID: 1533848  United States10/06/2012 06:37 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | |
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| Relativity (OP) User ID: 1533848 United States10/06/2012 06:42 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | 40 “In finding balance between lies and trust there will never be a better source than to speak your truth or make your peace some other way.” ~Sully Erna Many that live deserve death. And some that die deserve life. Can you give it to them? Then do not be too eager to deal out death in judgment. For even the very wise cannot see all ends. -Gandalph "A fool thinks himself to be wise, but a wise man knows himself to be a fool." - William Shakespeare |
| GFX guy User ID: 9776422 United States10/06/2012 06:54 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | There's always the surgical option, spinal fusion, etc... But conservative care is always the best option if you can manage it. Low impact exercise is the way to go. Swimming is probably the very best but walking & biking are also good. As for pain mitigation, pills are dangerous. They have a major side effects and people die from them all the time. Medical marijuana is great for managing pain and nobody has ever died from it... But with all of the stereotypes around it, good luck. If you're overweight, then that's the quickest way to negatively effect your pain. Good luck and thank you for your service! |
| Anonymous Coward User ID: 3920653 United States10/06/2012 07:00 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | I am guessing your payment will be around $800. per month? I am 52, and have had 2 Laminectomy's 6 weeks apart, L4-5 and S1. Still have the same problem. The question for me, was do I conclude my life on a meager existence, hoping the payments keep coming, as our government is drowning in debt. Find a way to make your own luck. That's what I did. You will feel better about yourself, and be an example for your kids. Just my .02.  Good luck. |
| Biochemky User ID: 919411 United States10/06/2012 07:05 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Short and sweet, Quoting: Relativity I am a disabled Vet (non combat) with back problems I have been fighting off for the last 10+ years. I was always able to go into therapy and rebound. Not this time. I also have a 2 Y/O Daughter. Sooo, I can try to go back to work (they may try to push me out) OR, go on disability. Try to get well enough to be a stay at home daddy, but it would be hard. Having a kid complicated things. I do make a lot of money and have just about used up all my (man the fuck up pills) Just too much pain. Docs say its mostly nuromuscular and they can do nothing to fix. Just try to work on strengthening. I cannot decide. I want whats best for my famliy, and both have equal neg vs posatives. Disability $$ is an unknown factor. I already have my house up for sale. any words of wizdom?? Hi OP. Thank you for your service to our country. My Dad is a retired orthopedic (back) surgeon. He has ALWAYS said NEVER EVER have surgery on your back. One back surgery usually (almost always) leads to many many more surgeries with little or no improvement. May I ask, how did you injure your back in the first place? |
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| Relativity (OP) User ID: 1533848 United States10/06/2012 07:08 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Short and sweet, Quoting: Relativity I am a disabled Vet (non combat) with back problems I have been fighting off for the last 10+ years. I was always able to go into therapy and rebound. Not this time. I also have a 2 Y/O Daughter. Sooo, I can try to go back to work (they may try to push me out) OR, go on disability. Try to get well enough to be a stay at home daddy, but it would be hard. Having a kid complicated things. I do make a lot of money and have just about used up all my (man the fuck up pills) Just too much pain. Docs say its mostly nuromuscular and they can do nothing to fix. Just try to work on strengthening. I cannot decide. I want whats best for my famliy, and both have equal neg vs posatives. Disability $$ is an unknown factor. I already have my house up for sale. any words of wizdom?? Hi OP. Thank you for your service to our country. My Dad is a retired orthopedic (back) surgeon. He has ALWAYS said NEVER EVER have surgery on your back. One back surgery usually (almost always) leads to many many more surgeries with little or no improvement. May I ask, how did you injure your back in the first place? I am not overwieght and got hurt in the service 15 years ago. Had a botched shoulder surgery. Had just compounded to my upper and now lower back over the last 15 years. Va currently has me at 60% “In finding balance between lies and trust there will never be a better source than to speak your truth or make your peace some other way.” ~Sully Erna Many that live deserve death. And some that die deserve life. Can you give it to them? Then do not be too eager to deal out death in judgment. For even the very wise cannot see all ends. -Gandalph "A fool thinks himself to be wise, but a wise man knows himself to be a fool." - William Shakespeare |
| Relativity (OP) User ID: 1533848 United States10/06/2012 07:09 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Have you gotten a seperate opinion from a doctor that is not friends with your doctor? Quoting: WindyMind Ya 2 doc opinions. 2 MRI's. Degenerative disc disease, minor disk bulge, dextroscoliosis of thoracic and lumbar spine. “In finding balance between lies and trust there will never be a better source than to speak your truth or make your peace some other way.” ~Sully Erna Many that live deserve death. And some that die deserve life. Can you give it to them? Then do not be too eager to deal out death in judgment. For even the very wise cannot see all ends. -Gandalph "A fool thinks himself to be wise, but a wise man knows himself to be a fool." - William Shakespeare |
| Anonymous Coward User ID: 17090286 United States10/06/2012 07:10 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Short and sweet, Quoting: Relativity I am a disabled Vet (non combat) with back problems I have been fighting off for the last 10+ years. I was always able to go into therapy and rebound. Not this time. I also have a 2 Y/O Daughter. Sooo, I can try to go back to work (they may try to push me out) OR, go on disability. Try to get well enough to be a stay at home daddy, but it would be hard. Having a kid complicated things. I do make a lot of money and have just about used up all my (man the fuck up pills) Just too much pain. Docs say its mostly nuromuscular and they can do nothing to fix. Just try to work on strengthening. I cannot decide. I want whats best for my famliy, and both have equal neg vs posatives. Disability $$ is an unknown factor. I already have my house up for sale. any words of wizdom?? I'm glad you came to us. This is the best place to get a sane, rational answer. |
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| Anonymous Coward User ID: 17931651  Denmark10/06/2012 07:15 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | don't take any advice follow your instinct but i would choose the home daddy myself i have a son at one year and his mum is kind of nasty so i do not see him very often, i work also 7 days a week and i am not payed as I am an independent. please choose to be with your daughter and stay healthy for her sake |
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| Biochemky User ID: 919411 United States10/06/2012 07:29 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | I would try to do the strengthening exercises and try to be patient toward my recovery. I would not go on disability unless I feel like I have NO OTHER option. I feel that once a person goes on disability they often become progressively more disabled over time. I would also ask myself if where I live could help me live with my condition with greater success. For instance, if I lived in a region tht has very long and cold winters, I would try to move were it is warm or hot for at least half the year and it has mild shorter winters. |
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| Relativity (OP) User ID: 1533848 United States10/06/2012 08:28 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Short and sweet, Quoting: Relativity I am a disabled Vet (non combat) with back problems I have been fighting off for the last 10+ years. I was always able to go into therapy and rebound. Not this time. I also have a 2 Y/O Daughter. Sooo, I can try to go back to work (they may try to push me out) OR, go on disability. Try to get well enough to be a stay at home daddy, but it would be hard. Having a kid complicated things. I do make a lot of money and have just about used up all my (man the fuck up pills) Just too much pain. Docs say its mostly nuromuscular and they can do nothing to fix. Just try to work on strengthening. I cannot decide. I want whats best for my famliy, and both have equal neg vs posatives. Disability $$ is an unknown factor. I already have my house up for sale. any words of wizdom?? I'm glad you came to us. This is the best place to get a sane, rational answer. exactly!!!! “In finding balance between lies and trust there will never be a better source than to speak your truth or make your peace some other way.” ~Sully Erna Many that live deserve death. And some that die deserve life. Can you give it to them? Then do not be too eager to deal out death in judgment. For even the very wise cannot see all ends. -Gandalph "A fool thinks himself to be wise, but a wise man knows himself to be a fool." - William Shakespeare |
| Relativity (OP) User ID: 1533848 United States10/06/2012 08:29 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | don't take any advice follow your instinct Quoting: Anonymous Coward 17931651 but i would choose the home daddy myself i have a son at one year and his mum is kind of nasty so i do not see him very often, i work also 7 days a week and i am not payed as I am an independent. please choose to be with your daughter and stay healthy for her sake Best advice yet!!!!Kinda where I have been leaning. More to life than Money. and maybee thats what I AM SUPPOST to do “In finding balance between lies and trust there will never be a better source than to speak your truth or make your peace some other way.” ~Sully Erna Many that live deserve death. And some that die deserve life. Can you give it to them? Then do not be too eager to deal out death in judgment. For even the very wise cannot see all ends. -Gandalph "A fool thinks himself to be wise, but a wise man knows himself to be a fool." - William Shakespeare |
| Relativity (OP) User ID: 1533848 United States10/06/2012 08:31 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Okay, thanks for the information. Quoting: Biochemky What kind of activity makes your back feel ANY better? (choose options) soaking in a hot tub taking a hot shower taking a walk sleeping sitting standing after doing stretching exercises after working with small weights Soaking in a tub helps...laying on heating pad. I used to walk a lot, however harder now. “In finding balance between lies and trust there will never be a better source than to speak your truth or make your peace some other way.” ~Sully Erna Many that live deserve death. And some that die deserve life. Can you give it to them? Then do not be too eager to deal out death in judgment. For even the very wise cannot see all ends. -Gandalph "A fool thinks himself to be wise, but a wise man knows himself to be a fool." - William Shakespeare |
| Relativity (OP) User ID: 1533848 United States10/06/2012 08:31 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | OP, if you took a disability, would your VA percentage change to 100% ? Wouldn't that be $2500 a month ? Quoting: Lindalee Life is short, take the disability and spend time with your child Best wishes for you ! Dont know...Still in process “In finding balance between lies and trust there will never be a better source than to speak your truth or make your peace some other way.” ~Sully Erna Many that live deserve death. And some that die deserve life. Can you give it to them? Then do not be too eager to deal out death in judgment. For even the very wise cannot see all ends. -Gandalph "A fool thinks himself to be wise, but a wise man knows himself to be a fool." - William Shakespeare |
| Relativity (OP) User ID: 1533848 United States10/06/2012 08:34 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | I would try to do the strengthening exercises and try to be patient toward my recovery. Quoting: Biochemky I would not go on disability unless I feel like I have NO OTHER option. I feel that once a person goes on disability they often become progressively more disabled over time. I would also ask myself if where I live could help me live with my condition with greater success. For instance, if I lived in a region tht has very long and cold winters, I would try to move were it is warm or hot for at least half the year and it has mild shorter winters. I agree with you. Like I said, my man up pills are all gone. Been pushing through the pain for a long time now. not really any more options. The hard part ir how do I take care of my daughter when I can hardly take care of myself!!! “In finding balance between lies and trust there will never be a better source than to speak your truth or make your peace some other way.” ~Sully Erna Many that live deserve death. And some that die deserve life. Can you give it to them? Then do not be too eager to deal out death in judgment. For even the very wise cannot see all ends. -Gandalph "A fool thinks himself to be wise, but a wise man knows himself to be a fool." - William Shakespeare |
