I'm recently married to a Chinese man, and he wants to take me to to live with him in China? Should I agree?

Go there to visit and see if it is something you would like.

Only you can make that decision, OP. He needs to consider your feelings too in the matter. This is a tough one, because you would miss your family also. Hopefully, this is not one of those incompatibility relationships. In the end, you would find out from the experience of living in China. You could make your choices based on career and learn another language and different culture, but the fact remains, you would be making a sacrifice, if you are not happy there.

I wouldn't live in China. But I love fresh air.

You didnt see this coming?

I don't like chinese food or chinese people. They smell like shit . Ewwwwwwww

The only reason I married this chinese guy is because he owns a billion dollar company.

I would move there but I love the U.S. forests and lakes and mountains and... But they have a great civilisation there.

Don't go, they have little yellow balls and will most likely sale you to slavery to Arab Muslims.

You married him for his money. And he is talking about having children???? You need to let this man go so he can find someone who truly loves him.

I will marry any chinese man and move to china tomorrow.

I have to be treated like Hawaiian queen though. And he should know sumo.

Visit there and have a look!

Difficult it will be, for sure.

If you are blond you can make money by the assload. Literally by the ASSLOAD.

My American 36 year old son has been living in China for 10-1/2 months of the year for the last 4 years.He originally liked the first year there while he was sight seeing.

The last three years he has grown to hate it there.The two large cities he has lived and worked in has extremely dirty air.He has the beginning signs of asthma.

He recently divorced his Chinese wife and is planning on moving back to the states for good by years end.She originally said she would live in the states before they married but then changed her mind after the wedding.

He will be leaving her with an upscale apartment and a fairly new car.Not too bad for a woman who came from the lower end of the economic ladder.

Beware of relationships between people of different cultures/countries.It can be very difficult on the marriage!

I hope you have the opportunity to stay/visit for awhile there before you commit living there long term.

I hope this info is of help to you OP.

Good luck..............

Fixed.

i am part of orange party. is there any other? (smirk)

You're a horrid person.I was gonna say something racist but i'll take the chinamans side over you.

then do HIM a favor and divorce him you who have whored to him and free him of you.

How cool is that. Arab men are gorgeous.

You'll be alright. Just practice up on eating dog meat.

An apartment is a very very big deal in China. If the guy had the apartment, I think he could get a new wife with little difficulty. Or, she could get a new husband. This wife might consider the whole thing successful because of the apartment.

If I were he, I would sell the apt. and take the money back. No way he should leave it with the ex. Chinese law won't give her all the advantages that women get here in divorces, so he should be able to get that done.

If she doesn't get to keep the apartment she may suddenly become flexible about moving to the states too. The only way to find out is to sell it; she'll not reveal her true intentions if she sees any chance to talk him out of it and keep that apartment.

OP claims to not want to leave the US. Why is she writing from Germany?

Your stereotype and brainwashed mindset towards Chinese are just not true and are COMPLETE NONSENSE. Anyway, if you don't like this man and are not interested in the Chinese Culture, why would you marry him in the first place? If you like money rather than this particular guy, go marry money but leave him alone. I'm sure there are a whole lot of rich white dudes you can choose from in America and therefore you can marry their money and remain staying in America.

My advice is simple and direct: divorce him and stay in America, because mostly like you would feel shitty of the Chinese people and Chinese food there.

To be blunt, you are just one of those typical materialistic foolish blond and obviously you haven't truly found what you really want in your life.

True love never fails. It's about sharing each other's happy and sad moments.

Let him go and find someone you truly love.

Your stereotype and brainwashed mindset towards Chinese are just not true and are COMPLETE NONSENSE. Anyway, if you don't like this man and are not interested in the Chinese Culture, why would you marry him in the first place? If you like money rather than this particular guy, go marry money but leave him alone. I'm sure there are a whole lot of rich white dudes you can choose from in America and therefore you can marry their money and remain staying in America.

To be blunt, you are just one of those typical materialistic foolish blond and obviously you haven't truly found what you really want in your life.

True love never fails. It's about sharing each other's happy and sad moments. But when you take money as your primary consideration for marriage, mostly likely it's the beginning of a miserable experience.

Let him go. Don't fool yourself or him.

I would leave Germany for China...

If he is so rich you do not have to worry about eating chinese food or hanging around with Chinese. Tons of other rich expats in china and of course they have tons of 4 and 5 star restaurants, high fashion and all the luxury you could dream of. You can only have one kid but I don't think that matters.
But if you dont love him then you should probably just divorce him and take half his shit, if it's money you're after.
I married my Japanese husband and we came to live in Tokyo. He isn't rich but we make enough to live comfortably. I had to somewhat conform to the cultural image of a housewife, which took some time, and I had I make new friends, which also took time, but now I can't imagine going back to America to live. Everytime I go back I visit it gets worse and worse.

But then again, I really love my husband, our family, his family and my life here so the short term culture shock and loneliness was a small price to pay considering the awesome life I have now.

only if your truly faithful , your life would depend on it.

It's harder to learn Mandarin than any of the other Latin languages, so if you go, get started now on that. There are several good language sites. Memrise has a great Chinese teacher, and it's free. Also Kanji-a-day, for written language only (no pinyan). Of course your husband can coach you, but best not to make him teacher/boss while you are becoming much more dependent on him. And you will.

Otherwise, you just won't be able to hear what people are saying. The language is very different at a root level, with the same sounds said differently meaning completely different things. You will enjoy it - it's hilarious how they come up with some of those radical groups to create words. A chicken is your right-hand bird, for example. Yeah.

Have fun!

So you sold yourself to him ! What were you Thinking!?
Go along to China!

hell no!