Wife popped the question and she wants the passwords to my cell phone, laptop, etc. More inside...

yeah sounds good so far, but did someone mention body parts and bums....?

just curious..

OP you are getting a lot of help here on how to throw this back in your wife's face....er....um.....turn the tables.

But I still think it is a trust issue on her part.

When this happened to me it turned out she literally had a full time boyfriend while I was at work. He'd go grocery shopping with her and take my kids out to ice cream. I was oblivious. Even gave her access to all my accounts, never even asked for hers. I never would have thought she was a cheater. Needless to say we are not together anymore. We are close friends and work well to together still though.

Good luck man!

Trust me ladies...You act like this and we are more than ready to be with our hands and porn for the rest of our lives!

this^^^^^

I would've killed her. Good for you. But I think you're a pussy. I'd see prison as honorable punishment for doing the right thing. I do not tolerate betrayal, from personal to national scale.

Obviously you've never been to prison. But bravo on your shit talking!!!

I have, actually. But our prison is a bit different from yours. We don't have Bubba fucking us up our ass.

Only punks do that. Your friends must have told you...hahaha

Then why the heck do men even date or marry a woman. I'm not saying sex is everything but it is an important. Porn ruins a healthy sexual relationship between a man and a woman. If men haven't figured that out yet, there definitely will be more straight women turning into lesbians and you really will be left with just your hand.


SORRY OP. WAAAAAAAAAAAAAY off topic!

wait...what's a bum?

The holding cell at your local police department isn't prison by the way. Nice try though

and she want to create a scenario about a talk you and another women useing that as a item at the divorce..She will take you house , your money you re ruined.Give her the password then change it and then say her that a virus due her acces distroyd yours accounts.(WORST SCENARIO}.

OR she want that you and her live in harmony, no secrets no lies

The lack of trust has begun.
Once lost....nearly impossible to recover from.


The true question is.....why does she have ANY reason not to trust you 100%?

You take the hottest chick in the world (not chicken in the world) and let her nag and question a man's every move for a few years and I will show you a hot chick that that man will absolutely hate. The looks wear off and only daily bjs will fill what a man needs. Period. And that's if the woman knows when to shut up.

Love is shown MANY times by freedom. Take that away and watch how a man deteriorates.

This loser isn't your friend. You should stay away from her and force her to repay you. As a warning to others don't breed with asshats like her.

Um. Really? There has to be some separation. You start out as two individual people so you should remain as such. It isn't like when you said vows you automatically morphed into ONE person.

I am baffled by the Facebook and email accounts that are Mr&MrsWhatever@... Why can't there be some aspects of privacy?

I am a 46 year old widow (2 years in now) who didn't trust my husband for good reason but I swear if I had insisted on knowing all his private information I would have shot myself.

There IS such a thing as TOO MUCH "closeness"

You need to establish rules with her about this. There are a few reasons she could be asking for you to do this:

1. She's thinking of cheating or is cheating.
2. She's bored with the relationship and poking it with a stick to see what happens. You know, just looking for something to get into an argument with you about. Sometimes women just do this for no reason. Being a woman, I can verify this.
3. Her friends were talking shit about you and she became paranoid/insecure.
4. She saw some movie or TV show about a guy cheating and the wife/girlfriend handling it by snooping, or maybe read an article about it in a magazine, and decided that this is the only way to know for sure. There is so much of this trash out there that I'm surprised women can even get into a relationship without tearing their hair out with paranoia and rage.
5. You said something to her accidentally about some other girl being hot or whatever and it made her paranoid or want to get revenge.
6. Her parents had a rocky relationship and she doesn't know how else to respond to her own paranoia than doing things how her parents did with each other.

So what should you do? Tell her you love her, and you're not cheating, but she has to respect your privacy. She has no right to snoop into every aspect of your life. Everyone is allowed some things to themselves in this life. Tell her that you do not snoop into her personal things, and you expect the same courtesy from her. Tell her that you married her and you plan to stay with her forever. That should help her insecurity.

She won't like hearing that you want some privacy at first, but eventually she'll learn an important lesson from this. And if she doesn't, well, it's her loss. Control freaks don't get to stay in relationships very long, or either they have extremely rocky ones their entire lives.

My wife asked for my passwords, claiming the she might need them just in case. I refused her and told her that they were passworded for a reason. I exclaimed that since she loves going on all the little social pages, allows most anyone to use her computer (not from online), and due to the fact that she will not do any maintainance such as running virus scanners, update drivers, or the such, it creates headaches for me and my computer, since mine is the master. I have all of the necessary passwords written down to my lawyer to be given to her should or when I have passed this mortal coil. Until she learns to control her unhealthy online activities, she will not have my passwords, and she will pay to get her computer cleaned.

WORD.

but i look at porn too, why would my hubby hide his porn form me, unless it's child porn or snuff??
i don't understand people who think woman dislike porn, and woman who disilike it.
it's porn everyone likes it, stop pretending you don't.

call me what you want, i like the fact that we share everything. also why are we emailing ppl that whant to get into our pants in the first place?i wld not mind if my husband emailed female people for a legitimate reason, work, or she is marreid to, or his family or mine, but why would he need to email some random girl who wants him, that is just bad marriage strategy.frankly if my husband would not go thru my phone, i'd consider him unloving, cold and horrible. what kind of barbarian isn't interested in his woman's electronical life.if most people think that is controlling no wonder you fail at relationships.....you cannot have your cake and eat it, you cannot have amazing love and keep your bogos "freedom", the best freedom is in a loving relationship, where you share everything.

excuse me i will not apologize for having a sexy husband that keeps track of everything i do, and that makes me within my right to demand reciprocity in track keeping, and frankly its very sexy....

under no circumstances should another person force you to do against your better judgment, if you do allow this, then its you who are the fool.

"Turning" into Lesbians? Like women suddenly decide they like women only because they have had crap encounters/relationships with Dick? Get an EDUCATION.

My husband was always insanely jealous, even though he never had the slightest reason to be. He would call me several times a day at work, and always going through my purse and cell phone looking for 'clues'. Turns out HE was the one who was cheating.

I found his facebook page open one night at 4:00 am when I got up to shut down the computer after he had passed out on the couch. Apparently he had been having an online long distance affair with a woman who didn't even know he was married, their posts went back several months. "You are my soulmate, Love you so much MUAH!" "My King! Can't wait til we are together."

I was floored. I captured screenshots and saved them, and never mentioned his facebook, just got up and went to work like usual. Next day when he was out of the house I installed a keystroke logger on our computer, and got all his passwords. It also captured a screenshot page each time a trigger word was typed in on our keyboard, i.e. baby, love, sexy, panties, etc.

Wow, I never even suspected all the kinky shit he was into. Not just her but really trashy porn sites, holy freakout. It took me about two weeks until I felt I had numbed my heart enough to confront him, and I must say I rather enjoyed his devastating embarrassment and sobbing apology. I contacted his "girlfriend" on fb and told her he was married and what a fool she was for believing a guy online, told her I had even done a bit of research and was able to find her address, phone number, and the names and ages of her kids, and how stupid she was to put her kids at risk like that. I said you don't even know this guy but your kids are talking to him on the phone and saying they can't wait to meet him, what an idiot they have for a mom. She was super apologetic and said she would never have blah blah blah if she had known he was married.

So, hey, OP, get yourself a keystroke logger and install it on the computer your wife uses at home. They are virtually undetectable, and you may find out WHY she is suddenly asking for your passwords.

Maybe HE doesn't like it. I would say with 99.9% certainty that he hates it. I left a margin for error, but just sayin.

tell her to fuck off

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