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StormeyGoddess User ID: 22004193 United States 12/02/2012 08:55 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | So can regret ruin a might as well normal, dull life? Eats you up at night? Quoting: Anonymous Coward 24512322 Yep. Exactly! Regret can consume you. And if this really is about a girl or a guy, then go for it. Like I said before, the answer is always no if you don't ask. :-) "Don't look back, you're not going that way." "As for me and my family, we will serve the Lord.” |
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allisaTX User ID: 25379369 United States 12/02/2012 09:54 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | That's what it seems. It's like things should just happen, but for others, effort is needed to be put into it. So what's the right or wrong way to live? With honesty. To thine own self be true. Never force yourself to love or want something or to stay because you believe you should for others. etc. It sounds selfish, but it is the most loving you can be to those who cross your path in life. |
allisaTX User ID: 25379369 United States 12/02/2012 10:01 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | That's what it seems. It's like things should just happen, but for others, effort is needed to be put into it. So what's the right or wrong way to live? With honesty. To thine own self be true. Never force yourself to love or want something or to stay because you believe you should for others. etc. It sounds selfish, but it is the most loving you can be to those who cross your path in life. And never hold tightly to what is rejecting you, you must get through the pain and let go and understand that that person had no choice but to reject for the sake of both of you. The rejector is in pain also but is a step ahead in understanding "to thine own self be true". Good luck and surround yourself with friends and never lose touch with a friend over the years by the way. |
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Anonymous Coward (OP) User ID: 24512322 United States 12/03/2012 05:11 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | I won't say anything, since that is wrong. They are with the one they love. I feel like I am in a prison. I guess it's a regret, a pain, I must live with. I rather live right than do something wrong. |
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Blue Skies User ID: 19168576 United States 12/03/2012 07:12 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | So many seem to have regret. I am a situation where I am regretting not doing something, but there's really no possible way for me to have my feelings stated. The person I want to say something to is taken, not married, but in a relationship. Quoting: Anonymous Coward 24512322 I won't say anything, since that is wrong. They are with the one they love. I feel like I am in a prison. I guess it's a regret, a pain, I must live with. I rather live right than do something wrong. Saying something will only make matters worse.....Wait and see maybe, this person will not be in a relationship long :) Don't wait around to long. Or maybe it was never meant to be, and that their could be someone else waiting for you. :kitten on fence: |
Anonymous Coward (OP) User ID: 24512322 United States 12/03/2012 08:54 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | So many seem to have regret. I am a situation where I am regretting not doing something, but there's really no possible way for me to have my feelings stated. The person I want to say something to is taken, not married, but in a relationship. Quoting: Anonymous Coward 24512322 I won't say anything, since that is wrong. They are with the one they love. I feel like I am in a prison. I guess it's a regret, a pain, I must live with. I rather live right than do something wrong. Saying something will only make matters worse.....Wait and see maybe, this person will not be in a relationship long :) Don't wait around to long. Or maybe it was never meant to be, and that their could be someone else waiting for you. It's a very very bothersome place to be. I wish I didn't catch feelings. I don't want to wait around, but all the other guys I've met don't hold a candle to him. |
Anonymous Coward (OP) User ID: 24512322 United States 12/03/2012 08:55 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | So many seem to have regret. I am a situation where I am regretting not doing something, but there's really no possible way for me to have my feelings stated. The person I want to say something to is taken, not married, but in a relationship. Quoting: Anonymous Coward 24512322 I won't say anything, since that is wrong. They are with the one they love. I feel like I am in a prison. I guess it's a regret, a pain, I must live with. I rather live right than do something wrong. Saying something will only make matters worse.....Wait and see maybe, this person will not be in a relationship long :) Don't wait around to long. Or maybe it was never meant to be, and that their could be someone else waiting for you. Also, thank you for your kindness. |
Blue Skies User ID: 19168576 United States 12/04/2012 11:43 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | So many seem to have regret. I am a situation where I am regretting not doing something, but there's really no possible way for me to have my feelings stated. The person I want to say something to is taken, not married, but in a relationship. Quoting: Anonymous Coward 24512322 I won't say anything, since that is wrong. They are with the one they love. I feel like I am in a prison. I guess it's a regret, a pain, I must live with. I rather live right than do something wrong. Saying something will only make matters worse.....Wait and see maybe, this person will not be in a relationship long :) Don't wait around to long. Or maybe it was never meant to be, and that their could be someone else waiting for you. Also, thank you for your kindness. You are very welcome :) :kitten on fence: |
StormeyGoddess User ID: 22004193 United States 12/04/2012 03:45 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | So many seem to have regret. I am a situation where I am regretting not doing something, but there's really no possible way for me to have my feelings stated. The person I want to say something to is taken, not married, but in a relationship. Quoting: Anonymous Coward 24512322 I won't say anything, since that is wrong. They are with the one they love. I feel like I am in a prison. I guess it's a regret, a pain, I must live with. I rather live right than do something wrong. The regret my be terrible, but since the person is in a relationship, the best thing to do is wait. I would hate if if I were in a relationship and another woman did that. :-( On the flip side, though, there may be no harm in saying to that person how you feel as long as you're clear that you have no expectations. Tell them that you respect their relationship, and you would never cross that line, but that you had to tell 'em how you feel... Sometimes things are not as they seem, and sometimes they are exactly what they seem... Good luck with whatever you decide. "Don't look back, you're not going that way." "As for me and my family, we will serve the Lord.” |
Anonymous Coward (OP) User ID: 24512322 United States 12/09/2012 07:21 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | So many seem to have regret. I am a situation where I am regretting not doing something, but there's really no possible way for me to have my feelings stated. The person I want to say something to is taken, not married, but in a relationship. Quoting: Anonymous Coward 24512322 I won't say anything, since that is wrong. They are with the one they love. I feel like I am in a prison. I guess it's a regret, a pain, I must live with. I rather live right than do something wrong. The regret my be terrible, but since the person is in a relationship, the best thing to do is wait. I would hate if if I were in a relationship and another woman did that. :-( On the flip side, though, there may be no harm in saying to that person how you feel as long as you're clear that you have no expectations. Tell them that you respect their relationship, and you would never cross that line, but that you had to tell 'em how you feel... Sometimes things are not as they seem, and sometimes they are exactly what they seem... Good luck with whatever you decide. What do you say your feelings without hindering the fact they are in a relationship? I feel like telling them is a bad idea, but it would help get it off my chest. I could let it be rejection, instead of this dreading regret...but how does one word it? It seems sketchy....but regret is horrible. |
StormeyGoddess User ID: 22004193 United States 12/10/2012 01:23 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | So many seem to have regret. I am a situation where I am regretting not doing something, but there's really no possible way for me to have my feelings stated. The person I want to say something to is taken, not married, but in a relationship. Quoting: Anonymous Coward 24512322 I won't say anything, since that is wrong. They are with the one they love. I feel like I am in a prison. I guess it's a regret, a pain, I must live with. I rather live right than do something wrong. The regret my be terrible, but since the person is in a relationship, the best thing to do is wait. I would hate if if I were in a relationship and another woman did that. :-( On the flip side, though, there may be no harm in saying to that person how you feel as long as you're clear that you have no expectations. Tell them that you respect their relationship, and you would never cross that line, but that you had to tell 'em how you feel... Sometimes things are not as they seem, and sometimes they are exactly what they seem... Good luck with whatever you decide. What do you say your feelings without hindering the fact they are in a relationship? I feel like telling them is a bad idea, but it would help get it off my chest. I could let it be rejection, instead of this dreading regret...but how does one word it? It seems sketchy....but regret is horrible. How you word it is up to you. Write it down first...How do you feel? Are you in love with him or is it infatuation? Just say, hey, can I talk to you, and confess...but please, please, please acknowledge that he's in a relationship. He may not be as happy as you think he is. Or he may be happier than you think he is. If he rejects you, you just say, that is a-okay, i just needed you to know. I understand what you're going through, although, it was the opposite for me, kind of...long story, but I have closure, he has closure and it took 20 years to get it...Neither of us got the outcome we wanted, lol, but we put all of our cards on the table and it has been freeing, to us both... To keep tormenting yourself with "what if's" is the same as poisoning yourself...Just get it out, and take what comes. Best of luck... "Don't look back, you're not going that way." "As for me and my family, we will serve the Lord.” |
Anonymous Coward (OP) User ID: 24512322 United States 12/17/2012 10:20 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | So many seem to have regret. I am a situation where I am regretting not doing something, but there's really no possible way for me to have my feelings stated. The person I want to say something to is taken, not married, but in a relationship. Quoting: Anonymous Coward 24512322 I won't say anything, since that is wrong. They are with the one they love. I feel like I am in a prison. I guess it's a regret, a pain, I must live with. I rather live right than do something wrong. The regret my be terrible, but since the person is in a relationship, the best thing to do is wait. I would hate if if I were in a relationship and another woman did that. :-( On the flip side, though, there may be no harm in saying to that person how you feel as long as you're clear that you have no expectations. Tell them that you respect their relationship, and you would never cross that line, but that you had to tell 'em how you feel... Sometimes things are not as they seem, and sometimes they are exactly what they seem... Good luck with whatever you decide. What do you say your feelings without hindering the fact they are in a relationship? I feel like telling them is a bad idea, but it would help get it off my chest. I could let it be rejection, instead of this dreading regret...but how does one word it? It seems sketchy....but regret is horrible. How you word it is up to you. Write it down first...How do you feel? Are you in love with him or is it infatuation? Just say, hey, can I talk to you, and confess...but please, please, please acknowledge that he's in a relationship. He may not be as happy as you think he is. Or he may be happier than you think he is. If he rejects you, you just say, that is a-okay, i just needed you to know. I understand what you're going through, although, it was the opposite for me, kind of...long story, but I have closure, he has closure and it took 20 years to get it...Neither of us got the outcome we wanted, lol, but we put all of our cards on the table and it has been freeing, to us both... To keep tormenting yourself with "what if's" is the same as poisoning yourself...Just get it out, and take what comes. Best of luck... I have yet to see him alone where I can talk to him. I want to so badly just ask why he keeps looking at me, what is his deal. He's in a relationship, but acts so interested in me. It feels so wrong...and everyone outside the situation thinks he's a horrible person. But those closest think I never showed I liked him back. I wish I was patient, but it's not fair to myself to wait for him. Or maybe it's just bad timing, or not meant to be. I am in a world of what if. Or maybe it's best we stay away from each other. I have no idea. I never felt so attracted to someone, on multiply levels. |
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