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Grove Street User ID: 49629765 United States 05/19/2017 10:50 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | if you are young. i guess i've been blessed. first long term girlfriend when we were young took awhile to get in her zone. i would assume most women should be in that zone by age 25 max. geez. can't keep the 30 and 40 year olds from making a mess of the sheets has been my experience. demand what you want women, and don't hang out with minute men. Grove And this is why we can't have nice things. |
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Anonymous Coward User ID: 74822712 Canada 05/19/2017 10:52 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | I don't want to waste my time ever trying to discover what sex feels like if it isn't enjoyable for us. Long story short, a bunch of my coworkers were telling me in the lounge how they never have orgasms with their husbands (only have them via masturbation) so they have to fake their orgasms so that their husbands can hurry up and finish. I guess its pretty much just the sensation of something gyrating inside of you, but there isnt any actual pleasure to it (maybe because of where the g spot is located? idk) Men on the other hand, from what I heard, experience pleasure and orgasms from sex no matter what, and it doesnt take them very much to get aroused and ready to go. Quoting: Anonymous Coward 45976105 So my question for the other women on this site is: Is sex actually enjoyable for you most of the time? I've been hearing all of my life about how pretty much all women fake their orgasms and dont enjoy sex nearly as much as the man. Do you get any pleasure from it physically? Sex inside of marriage is most definitely pleasurable, and yes, almost all women achieve orgasms if their husband wants to pleasure them. I'm not a woman, and I'm not a virgin, so what I can tell you is to wait until marriage and secondly, that most women do orgasm from male penetration. Some in 15 secs, then want to make sure you orgasm. Some, many, many times over several hours. Some, want you to orgasm after them. Maybe 10% of women don't orgasm without some sort of clitoral stimulation. All of the above, except scale that down to always use protection and limit sex to people you love. Finding an appropriate long-term partner is a process of trial and error to test long-term compatibility. Cohabitation and (safe) sex should both be field tested before any legally-binding arrangements. |
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Anonymous Coward (OP) User ID: 45976105 United States 05/19/2017 10:55 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Jesus Fucking Christ. Quoting: Anonymous Coward 74822712 What scares me is not OP being a troll (he is, and I abide by 'he') but that there are women who actually wonder. Nearly all women can orgasm through both clitoral stimulation and g-spot stimulation. Many can orgasm through labial stimulation alone. Some can even orgasm through anal or aureola stimulation. I'd estimate less than 1% of women are physically incapable of orgasm. Consider that you may be doing it wrong, and spend however much time you require with a phallic implement to figure out the particulars of your body. Not trolling, Ive heard from most of my friends that they dont orgasm during sex. They have to finish it off themselves. If orgasms were as common for women as youre saying then why do most women have to fake their orgasms the entire time??? Well for one, stop faking it. How is your partner going to learn? Show him your effective spots. Maybe take the lead and find a position that stimulates the right areas. Also, you can't fake an orgasm with a man who knows what he's doing. You can make noise and buck around a lot but you can't fake the cascade of muscle contractions or the extra burst of wetness. I don't know why you're having the experience you are, probably because more people these days are too chickenshit to give their kids a proper sex talk and their kids are trying to learn how to have sex by watching porn, not realizing it's just meant to look good to a camera and generally isn't all that enjoyable for the actors. Just my theory. Ah well. Move to Canada I guess. Well who says the men know what they are doing? Again, most women fake their orgasms, so clearly the men dont know what they're doing, but by hearing the women fake their orgams the men get an ego boost and assume that they are giving her pleasure when really they arent. |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 74923669 United Kingdom 05/19/2017 10:56 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | I don't want to waste my time ever trying to discover what sex feels like if it isn't enjoyable for us. Long story short, a bunch of my coworkers were telling me in the lounge how they never have orgasms with their husbands (only have them via masturbation) so they have to fake their orgasms so that their husbands can hurry up and finish. I guess its pretty much just the sensation of something gyrating inside of you, but there isnt any actual pleasure to it (maybe because of where the g spot is located? idk) Men on the other hand, from what I heard, experience pleasure and orgasms from sex no matter what, and it doesnt take them very much to get aroused and ready to go. Quoting: Anonymous Coward 45976105 So my question for the other women on this site is: Is sex actually enjoyable for you most of the time? I've been hearing all of my life about how pretty much all women fake their orgasms and dont enjoy sex nearly as much as the man. Do you get any pleasure from it physically? Lack of orgasm during sex is not uncommon for men too. A woman should have little problem if they have a good emotional attachment to their partner, though this can wear off in women after about 2 years into a relationship. When young, sex can still be enjoyable without orgasm, though when to stop then becomes a matter of time / fatigue / boredom. If you are asking the question, you have obviously not met the right man for you, you are frigid, a closet lesbian or most likely a (probably male) troll. |
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Anonymous Coward User ID: 71632887 United States 05/19/2017 10:58 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Jesus Fucking Christ. Quoting: Anonymous Coward 74822712 What scares me is not OP being a troll (he is, and I abide by 'he') but that there are women who actually wonder. Nearly all women can orgasm through both clitoral stimulation and g-spot stimulation. Many can orgasm through labial stimulation alone. Some can even orgasm through anal or aureola stimulation. I'd estimate less than 1% of women are physically incapable of orgasm. Consider that you may be doing it wrong, and spend however much time you require with a phallic implement to figure out the particulars of your body. Not trolling, Ive heard from most of my friends that they dont orgasm during sex. They have to finish it off themselves. If orgasms were as common for women as youre saying then why do most women have to fake their orgasms the entire time??? Well for one, stop faking it. How is your partner going to learn? Show him your effective spots. Maybe take the lead and find a position that stimulates the right areas. Also, you can't fake an orgasm with a man who knows what he's doing. You can make noise and buck around a lot but you can't fake the cascade of muscle contractions or the extra burst of wetness. I don't know why you're having the experience you are, probably because more people these days are too chickenshit to give their kids a proper sex talk and their kids are trying to learn how to have sex by watching porn, not realizing it's just meant to look good to a camera and generally isn't all that enjoyable for the actors. Just my theory. Ah well. Move to Canada I guess. Well who says the men know what they are doing? Again, most women fake their orgasms, so clearly the men dont know what they're doing, but by hearing the women fake their orgams the men get an ego boost and assume that they are giving her pleasure when really they arent. Most women do not fake their orgasms. You cannot fake an orgasm. A woman will contract over and over again as she orgasms. You cannot fake an orgasm. |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 71632887 United States 05/19/2017 11:01 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | ... Quoting: Anonymous Coward 45976105 Not trolling, Ive heard from most of my friends that they dont orgasm during sex. They have to finish it off themselves. If orgasms were as common for women as youre saying then why do most women have to fake their orgasms the entire time??? Well for one, stop faking it. How is your partner going to learn? Show him your effective spots. Maybe take the lead and find a position that stimulates the right areas. Also, you can't fake an orgasm with a man who knows what he's doing. You can make noise and buck around a lot but you can't fake the cascade of muscle contractions or the extra burst of wetness. I don't know why you're having the experience you are, probably because more people these days are too chickenshit to give their kids a proper sex talk and their kids are trying to learn how to have sex by watching porn, not realizing it's just meant to look good to a camera and generally isn't all that enjoyable for the actors. Just my theory. Ah well. Move to Canada I guess. Well who says the men know what they are doing? Again, most women fake their orgasms, so clearly the men dont know what they're doing, but by hearing the women fake their orgams the men get an ego boost and assume that they are giving her pleasure when really they arent. Most women do not fake their orgasms. You cannot fake an orgasm. A woman will contract over and over again as she orgasms. You cannot fake an orgasm. I have never met a girl attempt to fake an orgasm. Not once. |
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Anonymous Coward User ID: 73733285 Australia 05/19/2017 11:02 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | well identify the right vibrator and you can buy some batteries, men will give a shit when you open your legs in front of them, not online Again, most women fake their orgasms, so clearly the men dont know what they're doing well your vagina is so stinky that you can hardly blame them for smelling you as a troll, just get rid of the yeast infection and crabs |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 74822712 Canada 05/19/2017 11:03 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Jesus Fucking Christ. Quoting: Anonymous Coward 74822712 What scares me is not OP being a troll (he is, and I abide by 'he') but that there are women who actually wonder. Nearly all women can orgasm through both clitoral stimulation and g-spot stimulation. Many can orgasm through labial stimulation alone. Some can even orgasm through anal or aureola stimulation. I'd estimate less than 1% of women are physically incapable of orgasm. Consider that you may be doing it wrong, and spend however much time you require with a phallic implement to figure out the particulars of your body. Not trolling, Ive heard from most of my friends that they dont orgasm during sex. They have to finish it off themselves. If orgasms were as common for women as youre saying then why do most women have to fake their orgasms the entire time??? Well for one, stop faking it. How is your partner going to learn? Show him your effective spots. Maybe take the lead and find a position that stimulates the right areas. Also, you can't fake an orgasm with a man who knows what he's doing. You can make noise and buck around a lot but you can't fake the cascade of muscle contractions or the extra burst of wetness. I don't know why you're having the experience you are, probably because more people these days are too chickenshit to give their kids a proper sex talk and their kids are trying to learn how to have sex by watching porn, not realizing it's just meant to look good to a camera and generally isn't all that enjoyable for the actors. Just my theory. Ah well. Move to Canada I guess. Well who says the men know what they are doing? Again, most women fake their orgasms, so clearly the men dont know what they're doing, but by hearing the women fake their orgams the men get an ego boost and assume that they are giving her pleasure when really they arent. See where I said stop doing that? Stop doing that. How are the men to learn? Are you really going to put up with pleasureless sex to give some random dipshit a one-up for half a minute? And if you're in a long-term relationship, it's worth teaching his ass. I learned to get a woman off by trial and error. That's just how it works. |
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Anonymous Coward User ID: 71632887 United States 05/19/2017 11:06 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | ... Quoting: Anonymous Coward 74822712 Well for one, stop faking it. How is your partner going to learn? Show him your effective spots. Maybe take the lead and find a position that stimulates the right areas. Also, you can't fake an orgasm with a man who knows what he's doing. You can make noise and buck around a lot but you can't fake the cascade of muscle contractions or the extra burst of wetness. I don't know why you're having the experience you are, probably because more people these days are too chickenshit to give their kids a proper sex talk and their kids are trying to learn how to have sex by watching porn, not realizing it's just meant to look good to a camera and generally isn't all that enjoyable for the actors. Just my theory. Ah well. Move to Canada I guess. Well who says the men know what they are doing? Again, most women fake their orgasms, so clearly the men dont know what they're doing, but by hearing the women fake their orgams the men get an ego boost and assume that they are giving her pleasure when really they arent. Most women do not fake their orgasms. You cannot fake an orgasm. A woman will contract over and over again as she orgasms. You cannot fake an orgasm. I have never met a girl attempt to fake an orgasm. Not once. The amount of effort it would take to attempt to fake a real orgasm, would be far more effort than any women having sex would do. She would either roll over and go to sleep or either the person she was with would know she was faking an orgasm, to fake a real orgasm would require far too much effort/acting/timing that it's really not possible. |
Anonymous Coward (OP) User ID: 45976105 United States 05/19/2017 11:06 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | ... Quoting: Anonymous Coward 45976105 Not trolling, Ive heard from most of my friends that they dont orgasm during sex. They have to finish it off themselves. If orgasms were as common for women as youre saying then why do most women have to fake their orgasms the entire time??? Well for one, stop faking it. How is your partner going to learn? Show him your effective spots. Maybe take the lead and find a position that stimulates the right areas. Also, you can't fake an orgasm with a man who knows what he's doing. You can make noise and buck around a lot but you can't fake the cascade of muscle contractions or the extra burst of wetness. I don't know why you're having the experience you are, probably because more people these days are too chickenshit to give their kids a proper sex talk and their kids are trying to learn how to have sex by watching porn, not realizing it's just meant to look good to a camera and generally isn't all that enjoyable for the actors. Just my theory. Ah well. Move to Canada I guess. Well who says the men know what they are doing? Again, most women fake their orgasms, so clearly the men dont know what they're doing, but by hearing the women fake their orgams the men get an ego boost and assume that they are giving her pleasure when really they arent. Most women do not fake their orgasms. You cannot fake an orgasm. A woman will contract over and over again as she orgasms. You cannot fake an orgasm. Um you definitely can fake an orgasm. Just moan |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 71632887 United States 05/19/2017 11:07 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | ... Quoting: Anonymous Coward 74822712 Well for one, stop faking it. How is your partner going to learn? Show him your effective spots. Maybe take the lead and find a position that stimulates the right areas. Also, you can't fake an orgasm with a man who knows what he's doing. You can make noise and buck around a lot but you can't fake the cascade of muscle contractions or the extra burst of wetness. I don't know why you're having the experience you are, probably because more people these days are too chickenshit to give their kids a proper sex talk and their kids are trying to learn how to have sex by watching porn, not realizing it's just meant to look good to a camera and generally isn't all that enjoyable for the actors. Just my theory. Ah well. Move to Canada I guess. Well who says the men know what they are doing? Again, most women fake their orgasms, so clearly the men dont know what they're doing, but by hearing the women fake their orgams the men get an ego boost and assume that they are giving her pleasure when really they arent. Most women do not fake their orgasms. You cannot fake an orgasm. A woman will contract over and over again as she orgasms. You cannot fake an orgasm. Um you definitely can fake an orgasm. Just moan Moaning is not an orgasm. So, clearly, you have no idea what you are talking about. |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 74822712 Canada 05/19/2017 11:07 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Also OP, do yourself a favor... buy a dildo, and beat your hymen like it ows you money. Better you do away with that chore in the comfort of your own home than have a miserable time later. And you'll still be tight when you finally go for the real deal. Not trying to be crude btw, just frank and honest. Even if you're trolling, who knows what misguided soul might be reading. |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 72205328 United States 05/19/2017 11:08 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | I don't want to waste my time ever trying to discover what sex feels like if it isn't enjoyable for us. Long story short, a bunch of my coworkers were telling me in the lounge how they never have orgasms with their husbands (only have them via masturbation) so they have to fake their orgasms so that their husbands can hurry up and finish. I guess its pretty much just the sensation of something gyrating inside of you, but there isnt any actual pleasure to it (maybe because of where the g spot is located? idk) Men on the other hand, from what I heard, experience pleasure and orgasms from sex no matter what, and it doesnt take them very much to get aroused and ready to go. Quoting: Anonymous Coward 45976105 So my question for the other women on this site is: Is sex actually enjoyable for you most of the time? I've been hearing all of my life about how pretty much all women fake their orgasms and dont enjoy sex nearly as much as the man. Do you get any pleasure from it physically? Oh, yes. With the right man. |
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Anonymous Coward User ID: 74822712 Canada 05/19/2017 11:09 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | ... Quoting: Anonymous Coward 74822712 Well for one, stop faking it. How is your partner going to learn? Show him your effective spots. Maybe take the lead and find a position that stimulates the right areas. Also, you can't fake an orgasm with a man who knows what he's doing. You can make noise and buck around a lot but you can't fake the cascade of muscle contractions or the extra burst of wetness. I don't know why you're having the experience you are, probably because more people these days are too chickenshit to give their kids a proper sex talk and their kids are trying to learn how to have sex by watching porn, not realizing it's just meant to look good to a camera and generally isn't all that enjoyable for the actors. Just my theory. Ah well. Move to Canada I guess. Well who says the men know what they are doing? Again, most women fake their orgasms, so clearly the men dont know what they're doing, but by hearing the women fake their orgams the men get an ego boost and assume that they are giving her pleasure when really they arent. Most women do not fake their orgasms. You cannot fake an orgasm. A woman will contract over and over again as she orgasms. You cannot fake an orgasm. Um you definitely can fake an orgasm. Just moan That won't fool anyone but the inexperienced. |
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Anonymous Coward User ID: 71632887 United States 05/19/2017 11:12 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | ... Quoting: Anonymous Coward 45976105 Well who says the men know what they are doing? Again, most women fake their orgasms, so clearly the men dont know what they're doing, but by hearing the women fake their orgams the men get an ego boost and assume that they are giving her pleasure when really they arent. Most women do not fake their orgasms. You cannot fake an orgasm. A woman will contract over and over again as she orgasms. You cannot fake an orgasm. Um you definitely can fake an orgasm. Just moan Moaning is not an orgasm. So, clearly, you have no idea what you are talking about. Stick to asking questions, if you are a virgin, because you cannot make statements about sex if you don't know what an orgasm is. Also, wait until your married. Take care and quit listening to your co-workers. If you aren't attracted to a man, you may not orgasm. If you are not mentally attracted to him, you may not orgasm. But, you cannot fake an orgasm and MOST WOMEN do orgasm from male penetration. Not the first time, maybe, not with their husbands (the husband may have just gotten off work and wanted a quickie to go to sleep, while his wife may have had an easy day). And he may make sure she orgasms on a day he has less stress. But, almost all women orgasm from men. If you are sexually inexperienced, and are not able to orgasm, that does not mean anything is wrong with you. It just means you need to tell your partner, the next time he wants to have sex with you....he needs to make sure you orgasm, but wait until marriage. The end. |
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Anonymous Coward (OP) User ID: 45976105 United States 05/19/2017 11:14 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | ... Quoting: Anonymous Coward 45976105 Well who says the men know what they are doing? Again, most women fake their orgasms, so clearly the men dont know what they're doing, but by hearing the women fake their orgams the men get an ego boost and assume that they are giving her pleasure when really they arent. Most women do not fake their orgasms. You cannot fake an orgasm. A woman will contract over and over again as she orgasms. You cannot fake an orgasm. Um you definitely can fake an orgasm. Just moan Moaning is not an orgasm. So, clearly, you have no idea what you are talking about. By "faking an orgasm" it means that you are moaning/rolling your eyes as if you are actually having one when really you are just acting like you are. "Faking an orgasm" doesnt mean that youre having one but pretending that you arent. If you are climaxing then you cant fake it. |
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Anonymous Coward (OP) User ID: 45976105 United States 05/19/2017 11:17 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | No, it isn't enjoyable. Good thing they were being honest with you rather than falsely getting your hopes up. Quoting: Anonymous Coward 74561869 When you lose your virginity it is going to hurt like hell, it's going to bleed, it's going to be awkward and it will not feel pleasurable at all. In fact I can guarantee that you will not even come close to feeling like you're about to have an orgasm. The man will be having the time of his like, though. It sucks, I know. It has to do with our anatomy. Women only receive sexual pleasure if their g-spot/nerves are being hit. Most of the time this does not occur. Men on the other hand just need friction in order to feel pleasure. You won't feel any physical pleasure from sex, you're going to have to mentally convince yourself into thinking that it feels good. Basically you're going to have to trick your brain into assuming that because the man is enjoying it that you must be enjoying it too. Sex is a mental game for women, for men it's all physical arousing. That's why they get aroused easier and faster than women. Don't waste your time. Just masturbate. It will guarantee you an orgasm and you won't have to worry about pregnancy, STDs, getting humped for a grand total of two minutes, etc. Ive so many scary virginity stories...popping the hymen, and blood coming out everywhere...ughh lol |
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