What mental illness do i have? Can't feel happy unless i am validated by women

It's not an illness - it's normal. YOUR normal.

I'm the same way, but for me to be valid, a woman must have sex with me at least every two days. That rarely happens, and I know I'm not valid as a person. My only real value is as a competent worker and producer of value.

Perhaps no illness in you at all. Did you grow up with a mother that could've had narcissistic personality disorder? It explains a lot in men who describe your "issues".

Have you tried to find loving God who is willing to accept and love you the person you are? Jesus Christ waits you to be your friend.

Mother Issues

Love heals. Seek God. God is love.

Once you understand your importance as a child of God, you will no longer waste your life seeking validation.

One thing I have learned more and more than I am approaching forty is that man in general is looking for consideration, while woman is looking for valorization.

It is very difficult to find a middle ground if one of the two have a lack of empathy!

If I had begun my life again, I would have sought in a woman the first Christian quality the empathy and who is satisfied with the simple things of life.

The more I get older the more I lost the hope of finding consideration from a woman and I live well once I have accepted it.
Consideration is found elsewhere when one takes the time to seek it. In man it is very easy to overcome by simple friendship.

But for the woman the older she gets, the more she becomes mad in her quest for valorization! Valorisation is much harder to find in this society than consideration.
That's why women become crazy.

We see one or two women for a group of 10 men
Young girls coming out with wealthy old people

When a woman has no family or a job to value her, they become sick.

We men complain about them, but it rather they that are to be pitied,They are in search of an unattainable dream.

You're a cucktarded beta. That's the scientific term for it.

Cuck beta fag.

Did your mother neglect or abuse you? Be a man and don't take shit from bitches.

it's called beta male disorder

Mr. Christ is a GUY. A dead/ephemeral guy at that. OP and I are both looking for girls, though he's OK with verbal validation. I need sexual validation. Religion is a totally separate issue.

Not a fag. Fags want guys, and he could be happy with Mr. Christ if he was a fag. But he's not and he needs girl validation.

So do I, but only sex/intimacy works for me.

Yeah i can't see how religion even comes into this.

I like the sex and intimacy too, but for me it feels like i have this need to stay attached or linked to the woman in some way, like i need constant reassurance she hasn't forgotten about me. If i lose them completely i feel like they don't like me anymore or never think about me and it makes me miserable.

You have GLP attention seeking disorder.

I fully understand!

There are girls out there that are quite OK with emotionally validating you, especially if you reciprocate. It's much harder to find one that's so needy as to deal with a sexually needy guy.

Codependence is good for many people, though it has a bad psychological rap. The bad part is that one person is likely to grow out of it before the other. Sometimes a good codependent relationship can last a lifetime.

You MUST learn self-sufficiency. Relying on another person is NOT effective. In fact, I can tell you from personal experience that it is incredibly annoying. My wife use to be so self-sufficient, but in the last couple of years she has become so needy and clingy. It is driving me crazy and putting an incredible strain on what was a very positive relationship.

I understand your predicament also.

That's interesting about codependency. Everything i've read about it seems to imply it is nothing but bad. Even on glp when i've seen it mentioned on topics here before i noted that most people seemed to see it as a very unhealthy thing.

A friend of mine (a woman) says that's what love is - validation.

I'm not sure I agree. I don't require nor seek validation.

What mental illness do I have? I have no desire for some woman's dirty snatch and occasionally masturbate a few times per week. I see all those pretty girls whoring themselves and their babies and boyfriends out on facebook. I could give two shits less about their stupid asses.
Oh yea I have nutjobitis aka schizophrenia. I am never depressed and have not had a girlfriend in almost 10 years.

Love is truly hard to define, but validating a loved one is done as either a natural action or a conscious act of love. Either way, it's love. If a loving partner doesn't want validation for any reason and communicates that, the other loving partner ceases validating as an act of love.

You have a mental illness called sarcasm. It's not funny and usually not appreciated.

LOL

You are responsible for your own self-concept. Allowing others to define your "worth" with their adoration will, as you can anticipate, have an unhappy ending due to the fact that you will ultimately get older, lose your looks, etc.

Borderline personality symptoms I would think.

Love addiction too. That explains the high.

You have value because you exist--not because someone else gives it you. Even if you're not acknowledged by anyone else--you can appreciate yourself and give yourself value every day.

You were created by god so you are a valuable part of his creation. Love yourself first by considering yourself a person of value. It will take time to change your thinking but it will with practice.

interesting that people seek validation for love, i hv had issues with seeking external validation for approval, instead of following my own thinking / instincts

when i listen to other people over my instincts it hasnt turned out well (not their fault, mine for needing external validation), but its not ever been related to love

i agree with you ... i dont think love is validation for most people (people cld just pay lip service and say what you want to hear anyway)

Cuckingsons disease

Yes he's normal, but you're not. You're another tard who still hasn't learned when to use 'YOU'RE' instead of 'YOUR' in a sentence.

this sounds reasonable ... idk if it relates to a personality disorder though, dont hv the info, but everything else is great advice, op



this is also solid advice, op

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hv nothing further to add but, my ex was a bit like you ... needing constant affirmation and wanting constant shows of affection ...
frankly, it is very draining to be in a relationship like that ...
when his mother told me during conversation that, "x is always happier when he has a girlfriend" .... shld hv taken it as a warning,
but i didnt understand whether it was a character warning or if it was a slight against me,
like, hes happy but not bc of you, but just bc he has a gf (fiance at that time)...
she was correct, bc for all the words he spoke i dont believe he ever really truly loved me ... in fact, think he is incapable of it. too bad i didnt heed her words, as well as many other red flags .... says something i nvr forgot the conversation

so.....if you are incapable of real true love and are a psychopath / sociopath (idk, but think he is, but i cld be wrong) pls spare these women from getting involved with them until you sort this out for yourself.

as far as lack of attn goes ... my ex was the youngest child and his mother kept him hoke an extra year before starting school ... she said he needed the extra time, but he is highly intelligent, so maybe he had emotional issues as a kid (but, that was nvr said) or she was so attached that she didnt want him to leave to start school .... hv believed the latter, but cld be wrong

did your mom give you lots of attn / very attached to you when you were a child?