My boyfriend admitted he can't cry, not about anything.

He didn't even cry when his mother died. But then again he is a rather cold loner type of guy. He has very few friends, and they are actually old childhood friends. He says he has tried to cry, but can't do it, all he gets is a few tears. He says the last time he cried was when he was about 6 years old. He says the only thing that happens when he gets choked up, is that he gets angry. He says he doen't understand why people cry when they should be angry. That crying is just feeling sorry for yourself. He says he doesn't understand why people let bad things slow them down, and that they should have righteous anger that should keep them going. He thinks people who get epressed are weak, no matter how sad something was. He doen't mourn anything. He is opsessive compulsive about everything in his life. Cleaning, money, lifting weights. When we broke up temporarily he got worse. We were doing pretty good, but all the people around us started putting pressure on us, (his family, my family, my friends, and even strangers)and he got cold feet. He admitted he does this to everyone,keeping them all at a distance, that he had always built walls between himself and others. He admitted it is hard for him to trust women as more than friends.
He has a childish attitude about his close friends, though, they are all blindly loyal to each other even to a fault, he insists that they will still be friends till the day they die, no matter what happens. To me that is too much trust to place in opne person. I found out he doesn't really share his feelings with his friends much.

What is funny is his little brother is exactly the opposite, very clingy, and a stalker.

Well, I was looking through some photos the oher day, and I found the court papers from his parent's divorce and I think it really made some pieces fall into place. I found out that there was a long custody battle(like 10 years after the divorce which happened when he was 6) between his mother and father over his little brother and himself. The father moved far away to keep the kids away from mom. The kids were both raised by caretakers from the age of 10 days on, because the parents were both big partiers, and the mom used drugs and drank, even when she was pregnent. They were well off so they could afford to have nannies. His mom got remarried after a few years and his dad got remarried three times after that and finally seems stable.

Allegedly the mom sexually abused the kids and had them sleep and shower with her even until they were pretty old.
She had sex with her boyfriends in front of them. I don't know. The mom died right after I met him before I had a chance to meet her. My boyfriend was the exectutor of her will and wanted nothing in return. He didn't seem upet much by it. She died right after her 2nd husband died and right after she moved closer to her two sons.

Is there any hope for my boyfriend? I think he could use ome help, but he doesn't trust psychiatrists, says they only know what you want them to know about you. He thinks self help is stupid, and you can tell he needs to be loved and love, but it's hidden away like a turtle in his shell.
We have been dating for two years.

He recently revealed to me that he thinks children will put a damper on his ability to live life fully, which for him would consist of taking lots of vacations around the world. I want to travel too, but I want to have kids. I have a decent family who could care for the kids, but he wants to move far awy from both his and my family.

He keps vacillating between loving me and wanting more space, but I only see him on weekends. This crap just started last winter, when I finally met his best female friend(they've known each other for 15 years)and she didn't like me, but "couldn't put her finger on why" she tried to get us to break up. He says that unless he is absolutely sure and feels blind passion every moment that there is no reason to get married, because that would be marriage for convenience, that maybe it would be better to be alone even if he finds no one who meets his high standards.

I have high standards too, and I am wondering if there is a chance he might come out of this phase, or what? He is turning 30 this year. I could easily date someone else (maybe with less baggage) but I really love him. We have been dating 2 years now.