Is it ever okay to post on FB how sad you are for your daughter because she has a rotten father?

It's okay for women to do it.

What? Why?

Stay the hell off of Facebook, problem solved!

That's just how it is.

Well I'm a woman and I think it doesnt help the child at all.

No, it's not okay. No matter if the dad is a dipshit he's still the girl's father and disrespecting him will make the girl feel bad about herself.

I speak from experience (long before there was a facebook), my son's father was an asshole, but I never spoke badly about him to my son, or my son's friends, I figured in the end my son would see the truth and he did.

Well I meant it in a general sense and I agree with you that it can be destructive behavior. You just don't generally see guys make such posts.

I'd like to add that this mother feels bad that her daughter hates her father so much. Well gee, I wonder why.

WAIT.

That's what's known as a loaded question.

Why not ask first if it is ever OK to post on Facebook, period?

NO.

And especially not anything that personal. It will encourage a victim mentality in the daughter, and could harm the father -- why keep the war going on? Unless crimes have been committed, it is best not to air ones dirt publicly. Especially on a social network that we all now know is abused by all kinds of hidden greed heads.

If you need to express this, do so in a private forum such as with close GFs or family, or with a therapist.

The internet has fucked up my daughters life...I don't know her any more.She is 14 and does not give a shit about anyone or anything except the stupid fucking social media sites.I am actually going to see a family councelor today to see how I can deal with her problem.

No it's not. Obviously the woman was using egobook to spew vitriol at the father in an attempt to slander and publicly shame him. It was all about her own drama and had nothng to do with the daughter. No matter what the daughter says, attacking the father is like attacking a part of her.

If the father and mother are divorced or estranged and the child has exposure to any and all words spoken or written about either parent (from the other parent), then that is wrong. Never feed your disdain about the other parent to your child. Let your child formulate their own opinions. You will deprive the child of individualism and the ability to make an informed decision about things.

Bad to spew aspersions. Just is.

Not ok. Bite your tongue.

At 14 yrs. old she probably has already formed her own opinion and she's telling her mom how she feels. Mom should stay out of it, at this age it's between the father and daughter. Regardless, the father will probably pull out the BS brainwashing card because it's easier than accepting the fact that he's a POS and FAILED.

I don't agree it's proper. I have an acquaintance (FB "friend" through former employer) who has done that. She airs all her dirty laundry. I'd be embarrassed.

Those are discussions that should stay behind closed doors...without ever discussing them with the daughter and also other people. It should just be between the ex and her if she wants to bitch about it. No one else.

Last Edited by nutmeg on 01/08/2014 11:06 AM