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Anonymous Coward User ID: 77335283 United States 03/14/2019 12:44 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | I'm on my 2nd marriage and the reason for failure on the first one was that we married the wrong person. I wasn't for him and he wasn't for me, everything else is just details. That was a while ago, I was young and had a skewed image of what marriage should be. Quoting: Anonymous Coward 77418162 I am currently married and happier than ever. I bend over backwards for him and he does for me. We are friends first before anything else. He was my friend when I moved to this new state after getting divorced and although his feelings for me were clear, he did not rush me and did not pressure me. He listened to my concerns for a partner. I listened to his. He listened to my plans for the future. I listened to his. It goes on and on. A marriage is not defined by who pays for what and who does what in bed and who cooks more and whatever else. It's defined by the team dynamic, are you each giving 50% to equal 100% or are you each giving 100%? there's the real question. He is not my other half, better half, or any other half. I'm still all me, he's still all him. Together we are unstoppable. That's how I know this marriage will last many many more years, as intended. More people need to see it this way, especially young people. What do you gain from being legally married though? What does he gain? Social security benefits if it lasts 10 years. |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 77335283 United States 03/14/2019 12:46 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | That’s a wonderfully mixed metaphor. I would love to see a cunt on a pedestal. If I found one I light have to have it in a foyer. Excellent idea! I'll see if I can make one to decorate my place. It will fit well in the living room with the nudes on the walls. Get a real one. Pay her well. I'll do both. They both will have to meet standards though. |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 76984449 United States 03/14/2019 12:46 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Married men and women have a duty to respond to their partner's sexual desires! It really doesn't matter if you want to - it's your duty. It's far better to get into sex and intimacy than to simply do it because you must, because you're going to have to do it tomorrow and every day after that. It's why men marry, and without that, the marriage is an empty shell. Quoting: Anonymous Coward 77335283 I have no idea why women marry, but if regular daily sex and intimacy is not part of it, then they don't deserve squat. A man will gladly work hard for his woman, as long as she's his. Kids have their place, but the union is between husband and wife. WHat if he is numb from the waist down, should she leave him then? If she loves him find out why he is like that. People who love each other should be friends. |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 14768095 United States 03/14/2019 12:47 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Society functioned well when men were expected to administer corporal punishment on women like OP. Quoting: Anonymous Coward 74502998 What's more masculine than exerting physical dominance over the weaker sex? We can't do that anymore because we'll be thrown in jail. Women become cum-guzzling sluts and men settle for fantasy over real life. Society disintegrates. ever read the threads here. receptac..... couch couch i coffeee just spilled on my lap just down... o damn i already drank all my coffee from Valero |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 76984449 United States 03/14/2019 12:48 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | This is some dumb crap from OP Quoting: Anonymous Coward 45527854 People have many different reasons.. For women.. many marry for security of money Pretty stupid reason to get married, especially if your later going to expect MORE Yep. People get married for different reasons. Many men hope to get married to get sex whenever they want. People need to stop using each other for selfish reasons. Whether it is money or sex. |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 77448537 United States 03/14/2019 12:49 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | But men get really pompous about what they provided her. He makes a bold statement that he works 10 hour days to provide for her. That is not what keeps women around. Simply being a basic provider is not even close to enough. Quoting: Anonymous Coward 69659698 Men lay down to rot because they have their basic needs met. He has food, water, tv, bed and good quality sex. He loses his masculinity and just gets lost in a day to day world of work, eat, sex, sleep, repeat. This is AMAZING to a young wife, but after 5 years of this, she starts to want SO MUCH MORE. Women are different than men. Women tend to have their most important years between age 22 and 40. After 40, their kids no longer need her to survive. Her lil pipsqueeks could probably survive on their own. She is dealing with a serious shift in thinking. She needs more purpose in her life. This time of change for her comes EXACTLY when her husband starts his serious testosterone decline and lose of ambition. She is seeking purpose, while he is losing motivation for even the smallest of ambitions like changing light bulbs. She is slowly awakening while he is slowly falling asleep. She gets depressed because she doesn't feel like he is sexy enough for sex. Sex becomes a chore. She doesn't want to just have sex every day and have no direction in life. She wants adventure, she wants to get closer to god, she wants to be with a real man. What is a real man? A real man provides her endless feelings of purpose due to his incredible leadership. He performs amazing innovative maintenance of their lifestyle. He provides her with so much that keeps her intetested and he has so much masculine power that she feels that god has put him in charge of her. When women dirorce a man, their first reaction is to get ahold of some masculinity. This usually comes in the form of a young strong high testosterone hunk. She yearns to find high testosterone. Sadly, after all the flings ar over, divirced wonen tend to repeat the same processes where she finds a good strong single guy and she watches him lose hos ambition and motivation just like her ex husband, so the cycle of divorce repeats again. It's very hard for a woman to find that perfect guy who isn't gonna lay down and rot 10 years into a marriage. Those guys tend to get gobbled up really early in life and part of what inspires him to be so strong, so masculine and so motivated is because he has a gorgeous sweet wife. If ypu want your husband to keep getting better in life, you as a woman have to perform maintence too. You have to inspire him in order for him to inspire you. A bunch of low IQ bullshit - the entire thing. Life is not a fucking Disney Movie cupcake. |
METELLYOUNOW User ID: 77447539 United States 03/14/2019 12:50 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Women are very primitive. I will admit that men do age, like all living things. It is a mans job to cherish his wife. The wife on the other hand has said her vows and if she has any character will make the best of what she has. These women you speak of are useless whores. They in the end will most likely end up with less than they had, and the will have lost their dignity in the process. |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 77335283 United States 03/14/2019 12:50 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Society functioned well when men were expected to administer corporal punishment on women like OP. Quoting: Anonymous Coward 74502998 What's more masculine than exerting physical dominance over the weaker sex? We can't do that anymore because we'll be thrown in jail. Women become cum-guzzling sluts and men settle for fantasy over real life. Society disintegrates. QFT! The corporal punishment threat must remain, but initiating it depends on the girl. Some girls just like the drama of physical flogging. Of course, anything can happen in bed... |
Monger of Many Things User ID: 46593880 United States 03/14/2019 12:59 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | In other words, today's woman is an immature spoiled selfish attention-deficit whore who needs to be entertained 24/7 Quoting: Anonymous Coward 77079679 Not all of them, my wife texted me "I love you more and more every day" a couple of hours ago on her way to work. She is 41 and I'm a decade older, no problems in the bedroom because we are both healthy and not overweight. But most importantly she trusts me and I trust her, neither of us would cheat. I love her and she knows it, I don't wait for her to be my maid, I married her to have a happy life together. I enjoy cooking for my wife and she appreciates it, I love to see her eyes when I bring her breakfast with a single rose in a little vase with it. You don't have to struggle to have a good marriage with the right woman. Just do little things that show her how much she means to you and that you don't take her for granted. I think that aspect is the same with men and women, we want to be appreciated. For a good woman time together and being appreciated and respected and loved means more than any amount of money or other nonsense. If I had a dollar for every time I got suspicious... I'd wonder who was paying me, and why? |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 77335283 United States 03/14/2019 01:00 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Married men and women have a duty to respond to their partner's sexual desires! It really doesn't matter if you want to - it's your duty. It's far better to get into sex and intimacy than to simply do it because you must, because you're going to have to do it tomorrow and every day after that. It's why men marry, and without that, the marriage is an empty shell. Quoting: Anonymous Coward 77335283 I have no idea why women marry, but if regular daily sex and intimacy is not part of it, then they don't deserve squat. A man will gladly work hard for his woman, as long as she's his. Kids have their place, but the union is between husband and wife. WHat if he is numb from the waist down, should she leave him then? If she loves him find out why he is like that. People who love each other should be friends. She can still straddle his face and drip her juices into his mouth. He can tongue her to orgasm. They can then enjoy intimacy. |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 77335283 United States 03/14/2019 01:02 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | In other words, today's woman is an immature spoiled selfish attention-deficit whore who needs to be entertained 24/7 Quoting: Anonymous Coward 77079679 Not all of them, my wife texted me "I love you more and more every day" a couple of hours ago on her way to work. She is 41 and I'm a decade older, no problems in the bedroom because we are both healthy and not overweight. But most importantly she trusts me and I trust her, neither of us would cheat. I love her and she knows it, I don't wait for her to be my maid, I married her to have a happy life together. I enjoy cooking for my wife and she appreciates it, I love to see her eyes when I bring her breakfast with a single rose in a little vase with it. You don't have to struggle to have a good marriage with the right woman. Just do little things that show her how much she means to you and that you don't take her for granted. I think that aspect is the same with men and women, we want to be appreciated. For a good woman time together and being appreciated and respected and loved means more than any amount of money or other nonsense. Few American women ever use the "L" word, and few want to hear it from their S.O. It's weird and sad. |
White Gloves User ID: 75705032 United States 03/14/2019 01:03 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | As a woman who loves being a happy woman, I love men and recognize all they do for us, and I am sick of you whiny, bitchy, sour-puss females who moan and groan and hate men. Grow up and value others more than yourself You probably hate your parents, too . |
Lance Roseman From BC User ID: 30616576 Canada 03/14/2019 01:03 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Men Are Now Going Their Own Way....not sure why I can't post it as per the movements own usage. But whatever. If you are not busy weaving your own magick, you are trapped in anothers spell. “It’s time you realized that you have something in you more powerful and miraculous than the things that affect you and make you dance like a puppet.” – Marcus Aurelius |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 77337151 United States 03/14/2019 01:03 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | This is some dumb crap from OP Quoting: Anonymous Coward 45527854 People have many different reasons.. For women.. many marry for security of money Pretty stupid reason to get married, especially if your later going to expect MORE Yep. People get married for different reasons. Many men hope to get married to get sex whenever they want. People need to stop using each other for selfish reasons. Whether it is money or sex. Men marry for shallow reasons. Females rarely if ever marry for sex. They marry for companionship so they're not alone in the world and security which means money to some or just feeling loved and protected to others. |
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Anonymous Coward User ID: 77453848 United States 03/14/2019 01:05 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Men should only marry younger women. Quoting: Anonymous Coward 40169223 A 35 yr old man should marry a 20 yr old woman, and get her pregnant as soon as possible. Why would you ever marry a woman? Hear that ladies? Why even date at all, you are just being used. They all want to subject our young girls to whoredom. I actually let my teenage daughters read this stuff sometimes so they know what men are and are not and the way they think about women, sadly. I know one true man and he is 73 and still works from daylight to dark because that is just what men do. I dont know what to call the others, but the term men is not it. |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 77135611 Belgium 03/14/2019 01:07 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Men should only marry younger women. Quoting: Anonymous Coward 40169223 A 35 yr old man should marry a 20 yr old woman, and get her pregnant as soon as possible. Why would you ever marry a woman? Hear that ladies? Why even date at all, you are just being used. They all want to subject our young girls to whoredom. I actually let my teenage daughters read this stuff sometimes so they know what men are and are not and the way they think about women, sadly. I know one true man and he is 73 and still works from daylight to dark because that is just what men do. I dont know what to call the others, but the term men is not it. Sounds like a bunch of old spoiled granny cat ladies in here are jealous of their teenage grand daughters. |
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Eilonwy User ID: 77197203 United States 03/14/2019 01:16 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Why do men die before their wives? Quoting: Anonymous Coward 61780440 Because they want to. You destroy the will to live in us. I'm pretty sure that the stats prove this theory wrong, men live longer married. “A grower of turnips or shaper of clay, a commot Farmer or a king--every man is a hero if he strives more for others than for himself alone.” Lloyd Alexander, The Castle of Llyr |
BiblioPhile User ID: 70897929 United States 03/14/2019 01:19 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | "Be wary of mathematiciens, particularly when they speak the truth." - Augustine |
Eilonwy User ID: 77197203 United States 03/14/2019 01:24 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | The opposite is just as true, that some men loose interest in their woman when their woman becomes "boring". Quoting: Eilonwy Boredom ain't a reason to break up a marriage. We're not here to entertain our spouses. And lets face it, we all slow down eventually. If you are getting beaten, we can talk about divorce. If you are bored, get a hobby. boring ? Neglected nice one where's the fire? that "I can't keep my eyes and hands off of you" Fire! neglect disguised as boredom or other forms of disinterest usually stems from assumptions, accusations, judgment, and condemnation over petty shit that accumulates over time and in continually harboring the - bitterness - grudges - offenses - etc. grow up, not apart neglected dudes will lay down and rot You'd be all over a woman if she said her workaholic husband "neglected" her. I don't get "all over" anyone neglect comes in many forms it's a 2 way street either way it's a problem it's a relationship not a relation-innertube relation-dinghy relation-raft ... ship building is hard work anyone can can inflate a tractor tire innertube or dinghy or cobble together a makeshift raft out of old junk wood etc. they're not seaworthy and would not withstand the storms a relationship needs to be sea and storm worthy else it's gonna break apart in the waves I can't say that anything here is wrong. But let me just explain my self a bit. I'm going to stick with "generalizations" Women want "emotional connection" and Men want "sexual connection" If women want MORE emotional connection, then it shouldn't be up to the man to instigate it. However, when she reaches out emotionally he should respond. If men want MORE sexual connection, then it shouldn't be up to the woman to instigate it. However, when he reaches out sexually, she should respond. We don't have to be "actors" pretending to be something we are not. Men don't have to go around pretending to be emotionally needy. Women don't have to go around pretending to be sexually needy. We just have to be sympathetic to our spouses needs. And, to give our spouses a break in real life, our desires for our spouses attentions should be realistic. ie, a man shouldn't expect a porn star and a woman shouldn't expect Dr Phil. Last Edited by Eilonwy on 03/14/2019 01:25 PM “A grower of turnips or shaper of clay, a commot Farmer or a king--every man is a hero if he strives more for others than for himself alone.” Lloyd Alexander, The Castle of Llyr |
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Red John User ID: 67624642 Canada 03/14/2019 01:24 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Why do men die before their wives? Quoting: Anonymous Coward 61780440 Because they want to. You destroy the will to live in us. I'm pretty sure that the stats prove this theory wrong, men live longer married. true when it's a true loving and comitted marriage the caveat is that dudes are almost always the older one sometimes 20+ years older usually older gonna die first oh hai! |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 77194716 Canada 03/14/2019 01:24 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | It sounds like this woman she is describing needs to get her own job to help pull some of the weight in the family. Meanwhile her husband is working 10 hour shifts and coming home and wanting to relax and tune out, what did she think was going to happen? It seems like modern women can't make up their mind to what they want. They want the provisions of a working man with a good 9 to 5 job, they want the nice house and vehicles that it provides, but they don't want the monotony of life that goes along with having that 9 to 5 job. So as the original post suggests, she divorces her 9 to 5 job husband and gets some young high-testosterone stud who might not be working full time, but he's got a lot of energy to keep her happy. Quoting: Anonymous Coward 76618094 The bitch probably never had a job in her life. Just moves from cuck to cuck who is willing to support her. I'm sure she's great in the beginning until the honeymoon effect wears off then she turns into a real bitch. She starts to want 'SO MUCH MORE'....... lol Like she deserves so much more? She deserves what she will eventually get in the end, a case of herpes and a woman's shelter. That made me laugh :-) |
Monger of Many Things User ID: 46593880 United States 03/14/2019 01:24 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | In other words, today's woman is an immature spoiled selfish attention-deficit whore who needs to be entertained 24/7 Quoting: Anonymous Coward 77079679 Not all of them, my wife texted me "I love you more and more every day" a couple of hours ago on her way to work. She is 41 and I'm a decade older, no problems in the bedroom because we are both healthy and not overweight. But most importantly she trusts me and I trust her, neither of us would cheat. I love her and she knows it, I don't wait for her to be my maid, I married her to have a happy life together. I enjoy cooking for my wife and she appreciates it, I love to see her eyes when I bring her breakfast with a single rose in a little vase with it. You don't have to struggle to have a good marriage with the right woman. Just do little things that show her how much she means to you and that you don't take her for granted. I think that aspect is the same with men and women, we want to be appreciated. For a good woman time together and being appreciated and respected and loved means more than any amount of money or other nonsense. Few American women ever use the "L" word, and few want to hear it from their S.O. It's weird and sad. True, but she's not American, well she is South American though. Smart and beautiful in every sense, Almost everything she says begins or ends with "my love, my husband, my life, my heaven" or something similar. It is beautiful to hear and I do the same with her, people get caught up with all the problems life throws at them and forget to appreciate the one person that is (or should be) most important to them. If I had a dollar for every time I got suspicious... I'd wonder who was paying me, and why? |
terrifiedanimal User ID: 77162345 United States 03/14/2019 01:25 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Divorce is obviously only a mans fault. Women are the victims of the men who work their asses off while she does 'nobody and nothing' at home. Quoting: Anonymous Coward 72722305 What happens when she isnt fulfilling enough for him? Still his fault to ppl like you eh? I do everything at home. The painting, the gardening, the organizing, the cooking, cleaning, the tiling, laundry, stained my deck, the one who always put things together and still make time to come here to wake up the world in between that. All he has to do is work 40 hours a week and rest in a easy job. His hands look so soft and smooth, since I pamper him so much. I never ask for things much, and his closet is packed so tight with all his clothes, but I can fit mine in two suitcases. "She drank the coffee dregs so she could fry his eggs in a gollldennnn fryyyying paaaaannnn" Hi Fran! |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 77453848 United States 03/14/2019 01:28 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Hear that ladies? Why even date at all, you are just being used. They all want to subject our young girls to whoredom. I actually let my teenage daughters read this stuff sometimes so they know what men are and are not and the way they think about women, sadly. I know one true man and he is 73 and still works from daylight to dark because that is just what men do. I dont know what to call the others, but the term men is not it. Sounds like a bunch of old spoiled granny cat ladies in here are jealous of their teenage grand daughters. It is just that the one good man I know is old. Girls think the best of men and I cant let them go out in the world without warning them. They see you for what you are now. |
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