My girlfriend says she is not responsible for my emotional happiness

I was stunned at this comment and a little lost

For me the very minimum I expect from my partner is emotional support

I work three jobs while she is a stay a home wife without children

What is her role if it isn't to support me as role as breadwinner

Are there any women left who haven't been infected by the poisonous ideology that is feminism or am o expecting too much?

Female comments definitely welcome !!

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If you are demanding respect or support, you will never get it from your wife or from others. You have to earn it. Your wife is correct: you are responsible for your own feelings. If you base them on what your wife is going to do or not do, then you are going to be in for a world of pain.

Instead of demanding that she support you, be a man she can admire and support without you demanding that she do.

Be that man, but run a competition to allow other women to qualify as well. Date.

If she's so independent, let her be independent.

Women dont typically become sexually aroused by "appreciation".

It sounds like you dont understand how sex works and probably arent doing it right.

She's obviously not independent with the way she is mooching off him.

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You sound like a co=dependent person.

I believe I am usually emotionally stronger than my husband.

He has been pretty co-dependent.

I've just gotten used to it.

He works, I stay home.

However, he freaks if I am upset. I have to keep it together. I listen to his woes and give him advice. Then he's happy. If he whines too much, I tell him.

Sometimes I wish he were stronger, but then I look around and see that I am blessed and he takes care of me too.

I think there are a lot of co-dependent people around because so many people are the product of broken homes.

I was stunned at this comment and a little lost

For me the very minimum I expect from my partner is emotional support

I work three jobs while she is a stay a home wife without children

What is her role if it isn't to support me as role as breadwinner

Are there any women left who haven't been infected by the poisonous ideology that is feminism or am o expecting too much?

Female comments definitely welcome !!

I was stunned at this comment and a little lost

For me the very minimum I expect from my partner is emotional support

I work three jobs while she is a stay a home wife without children

What is her role if it isn't to support me as role as breadwinner

Are there any women left who haven't been infected by the poisonous ideology that is feminism or am o expecting too much?

Female comments definitely welcome !!

This is absolutely true, yet there are two sides to every coin.


Interesting that after reading all of these people's opinions it is a wonder that she herself in question hasn't answered. You wrote and all talk about responsibility for feelings but havent mentioned anything about what it was that you are feeling?

Make it into a very grey area. I think responsibility is relative, literally or not, it would be intersting to what level responsibility you are expecting r Rom her. Good communication begins with duct tape across the moutth and a smoke! Just some friendly advice....it is interesting tho
No, she is not responsible for his emotional well being. What she is responsible for, however, is fulfilling the role of PARTNER that she has chosen in their partnership.

OP hasn't mentioned the efforts that he makes beyond material providence, but if he shows up for her in the capacity of meeting her physical (intimacy) needs and emotional (intimacy) needs, but she does not return investment into the relationship in an equal capacity, then the relationship exists in a serious state of imbalance.

Separately, we are responsible for our individual strength and well being. When we make the decision with another person to form a partnership, we then become responsible to bring our individual strength and well being to the table and willingly invest in the strength and well being of the partnership. As far as the partnership is concerned, it is no more or no less than the sum of the investment made by BOTH partners.

Regardless of the division of superficial labor, if one partner is providing physical and emotional intimacy to the other but the other does not do the same in return, the giver becomes diminished, the imbalance increases, and the relationship becomes more toxic and volatile.

Moral of the story is, be very damn careful of the partnerships that you make, and walk away from the "partners" that wear the name tag but for some reason are always on break.

Or perhaps just don't give anything worth having yourself, if you can be satisfied with emptiness and illusion.

Good luck.