how to live with Passive agressive spouse

Maybe they changed after the marriage - it happens.

I wanna know too lol. I try to just be patient and know that its a mood and will pass. just dont do anything to aggravate the situation.

there is not "how to live with psychopaths"

whatever you do she will be able to craft the situation to create the drama.

they have the endurance that only a psycho can have.

you can outsmart her one time. But on daily basis you wont be able to keep control of the situation

you will probably end beating her after been drove crazy or simply get a divorce.

Do yourself a favor divorce now.

The question is he/she correct?

Is the reason they are passive aggressive because they disagree with you and any resistance to YOUR wishes is being passive aggressive?????





Is he/she kind of like the above????

person does minimal work, always finds reason why he fails, many bankrupties, blames the wife for everything, not taking care of children's needs, tells wife to get full time job....
sulks when confronted and turns table on the wife everytime she brings up what he needs to do, like a broken record, there is no intimacy, a lot of withdrawal...

no

they pretend very hard. They usually have a plan in how manipulate you to obtain what they want so they keep from showing the dark side.

but you can spot them

they generally presenting theirself and anything TOO GOOD...exagerating. Notice the sign of nervousnes. The tension behind the smile. Their reading the situation completely detached by reality.

I live w one too.. Does he drink?

sounds like it is time to move on

He sounds worthless.

Divorce. Immediately. Don't worry about "being alone" because this is one of those "addition by subtraction" things. Trust me on this. Been there, done that.

Dead serious. Do the minimum he asks and he may start to give a shit again

he has barely worked most of the time, wife works more efficiently and takes care of children finanncially and some other needs

How about this one.

I have a passive aggressive husband and I have learned to be passive aggressive.

So, now you have two passive aggressive people.

Well, I might be aggressive aggressive sometimes. I do go after him to kick him in the nutz when he is doing that, I said this and you said that so that means that I win bullcrap.

He usually end up knocking me down and hurting me though.

But then I quit helping him with stuff.

Of course, he already quit helping me with stuff.

So I just quit helping him more.

Oops. Sorry. DP.

Last Edited by BunBun on 06/11/2014 04:46 PM

I have lived without molding for 6 years, people. and now there's a hole in the roof that he's ignoring and there's nothing I can do about it. Plus, the car that is dead is sitting at our business and he refuses to do anything about that either cause he doesn't want to deal with it.

Omgosh, Inner Peace, people. I need some.

He also doesn't pay sales tax. That reminds me, we owe the arrears for May. I guess I'm going to have to talk to him again.

Here we go!

person has defensive phrases about everything...
always turns table on wife, always makes himself sound like he is a martyr

Dump them before they dump you.

They will, of course - and say it was your all fault.

ONLY other way is use the SAME techniques - study up at home and at work until you know how it works.

Always agree - then do the opposite.

Last Edited by Theobromine on 06/12/2014 04:09 PM

Did you leave your first husband for him?

Is that you JAY!

Its YOU that behaves that way.

Go look in the Mirror!

Leave. Life is better alone than with that.

Reading the posts, sounds like it might be more like active aggression than passive.

staying is not safe.

ugh ok passive aggressive person.. how everfucking annoying??!?!?!?!?!