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33 and single, no kids...is something wrong with me? | |
| Anonymous Coward User ID: 17152779  United States12/25/2012 01:00 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | You ever think this NWO thing has you all conditioned to think it's best to be "free". Derp..."live for one". Break apart families/communities and bonds with others. Quoting: ItsPat Sad you may never have the loving relationship some do experience, really. But hey, to each his own. Another "family breakdown" lunatic. Here's a newsflash...it's not 1955 anymore. No one gives a shit about "the family". The nuclear family hasn't broken down because people abandoned it; rather, people have abandoned it because it has failed. |
| Anonymous Coward User ID: 7138989 United States12/25/2012 01:08 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | |
| Anonymous Coward User ID: 7138989 United States12/25/2012 01:09 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | What Im trying to say is that it's ok that u dont have kids but being single all the time is IMO not worth it unless you're putting it to good use, and no Im not talking about promiscuity. Besides, people can be marred and stuff and not have children and end up just fine as long as the two know that it's not going to end up with children. |
| Anonymous Coward User ID: 30836471  Brazil12/25/2012 01:11 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | |
| BossPickupTrucks User ID: 2530630 United States12/25/2012 01:26 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | |
| Anonymous Coward User ID: 25784525  Canada12/25/2012 01:28 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | So much is being exposed... People can feel that everything is falling apart... That feeling carry's over in to the relationship/marriage/kids game... Simply a losing game for most... The good news though - many are choosing to stay single, far more then any previous decade... Nothing wrong with anyone choosing to have fun with another, for a short or long time, sexual or not... As the saying goes - variety is the spice of life... |
| Anonymous Coward User ID: 1684115 United States12/25/2012 02:29 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | I'm married for over 20 years now, been with my wife for over 25. I would NOT trade it for the world. There is nothing better than knowing there is always someone there to have your back, help you through the hard times, to wake up to and to share your life with. Life is a struggle but when you have someone you love and trust by your side it makes it all the more worth while. I've seen what is out there in the single scene and maybe I am just lucky, because what I found is far and few between. Quoting: Anonymous Coward 1684115 Couple that with the ability to raise your children (We have 2 of our own), see them grow into wonderful human beings, and become their own person is so special. When they start sharing what they have been taught, values, etc it makes it all the more enjoyable knowing you have had a positive impact on their lives. I have single friends who go out and party every night, complain about their relationships, etc. It's because they are looking for the "perfect" partner when in fact, they themselves are SO FAR from perfect. I'm not rich, not someone who would be eyed by every woman out there and more, but the fact I have been a gentleman and treat my wife with the utmost of respect has kept our marriage alive and well. There are too many egotistical, self-centered people in this world today and with so many hangups it sickens me. Marriage is the greatest union their is....once you get over yourself! I appreciate your perspective, but your story is not true for everyone. Nor is your reasoning. Obviously the story isn't true for everyone but what I have been fortunate enough to find. What I am curious about is the reasoning. What is it that makes it untrue or out of the realm of reasonability? |
| Anonymous Coward User ID: 30776538  United Kingdom12/25/2012 02:53 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | |
| LEGION FOR THERE ARE MANY User ID: 1509227 United States12/25/2012 03:26 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Indeed Being single is great for a while but as you get older and look back in a "what if" sort of way... you might regret not having someone hog half the bed, or little brats looking up to you and asking all sorts of questions, or having someone grow old with you and be your best friend, partner, lover and supporter. Quoting: Anonymous Coward 1190583 A friend asked me a while back, "then what's your purpose for living, who are you living for and why do you make the effort to do better for yourself?" the time to have kids or seek a partner is limited. your looks could fade, your health could fade and you only have right now to do this. Think of yourself at 66...now look back at a life of no love, no kids and no partner. how do you feel about that? Indeed. I couldn't have said it better. MY beautiful wife and I have been faithfully married for 36 years. We have two beautiful and stunning daughters that can match anything in Hollywood. I still make love to my wife. I cant imagine not making love to my wife. I liked women around me all my life. In my Marine Corps days I couldn't get enough of women. I loved them to death and spent all my money on them. Like my wife damn were they delicious. Its funny in my lonely moments I don't think about aircraft fires as a pilot or men that were shot as a lawman. No not at all but rather those sweet moments of loving my wife and those women whom I loved in my single days. Oh it was glorious. I even ask God in my prayers that in my next life I want to be a man again so I can enjoy those fair beauties again. LEGION |
| Anonymous Coward User ID: 17307375 United States12/25/2012 03:54 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | |
| Anonymous Coward User ID: 17307375 United States12/25/2012 03:56 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Maybe it's different for a man, and perhaps you simply haven't met the woman who would make you want to spend your life with her. But as I woman, I've always dreaded being older and single. It just seems kind of sad and empty. I'm not married yet, but I've been single for long periods of time and also in relationships, and I have to say I just prefer being in a relationship, unless it's an unhappy and/or abusive relationship, of course. It's nice to have someone who loves you and cares about you, and to also care about someone. I don't know about kids, seeing how kids and especially act these days it can be pretty scary, but then there are also some sweet kids that I could imagine wanting to be a parent to and to teach them things and watch them grow. I don't have that much time left to have kids, so I have to make that decision soon. Fortunately for men, they don't have that kind of pressure to deal with. In any case, good luck to you OP and hope you are happy, whether you choose to stay single or to share your life with a special woman. Quoting: Anonymous Coward 17307375 Correction: I wanted so say, "seeing how kids and especially teenagers act these days.." |
| Anonymous Coward User ID: 30670070 United States12/25/2012 04:06 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | You ever think this NWO thing has you all conditioned to think it's best to be "free". Derp..."live for one". Break apart families/communities and bonds with others. Quoting: ItsPat Sad you may never have the loving relationship some do experience, really. But hey, to each his own. If you don't want kids, I agree there may not be a reason to get married, especially for a guy. Guys get more valuable in the female-companionship market at least until age 35 or 40. Maybe longer. But the above post is the other side of it. Why not have kids? Isn't it a natural desire to be a father of your own kids. You can make it work. I did, 15 years married and 2 kids. You're doing fine OP, 33 is young for you. You're just coming into your own as marriage material. I don't have any magic formula for finding a good wife, but I'd go for brains over sexiness. I believe the children tend to inherit the mother's brains and the father's body type, so a dumpy rich (smart) marrying a trophy wife who's dumb as a horse only feels like a winner until the ugly dumb kids come along. |
| Anonymous Coward User ID: 1112387 United States12/25/2012 04:10 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | And OP, one day, soon, you will wake up, and the women won't want you any more. You'll be old. You'll have to pay prostitutes. Which will still be fun at first. Until the bitterness of it all utterly depresses you and you don't even want to do that any more. Discern quality, and what is important. Bring forth children, and love them. Secret news flash: THEY are the love of your life. You are still young, and therefore I'm cutting you some slack. Sometimes it takes a while to get it all out of your system, so there's no regrets. But...don't get stuck. |
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