My husband just left me and our son...don't know what to do next

sister- i suggest you get a job or start a home business. this obviously is not working for him.

all over bullshit money basatards.. are refusing to step down.

human life and values are worth less..

Here is a link for several different reliable work-at-home jobs. Each one has different criteria to meet as far as your operating system of your computer, so look at that before applying.

I used to work for one called Cloud 10 and they were very good to work for. When I left I was making $10.25 an hour, didn't have to leave home, buy gas, go out to eat, hire a babysitter, buy work clothes, etc.

The savings made up for the pay.

It's worth a try.

[link to www.worldwideworkathome.com]

You don't know the whole story, one person's "oh he's abusive" is someone's "I can't believe how many lies she's telling me right now"

You don't judge a conversation just by listening to 20 seconds of an hour long conversation.

She claims he's abusive, to what ends is does she mean by abusive? I told my ex/gf that I was against vaccines, yet was called abusive, for just putting it out there that I didn't want my son vaccinated, I didn't yell, I just talked to her about it, so she would call me abusive, while she was actually physically abusing my son and emotionally/psychologically abusing me.. that's an example.

typical feminist, did you forget the part that the husband left due to the stress SHE WAS PUTTING ON HIM?!

IDIOTS!

Based on this description, you're better off without him.
How can someone tolerate behavior like his? How can someone want him to come back? Isn't it stressful being in a household like that. Or did you grow up in a household like that. If so you are doomed.

If it was me I'd be so far gone when he came back he'd never find me. Me and my son. GTFO of that man's life and find yourself a new one.

Maybe it's for the best?

She was 'putting him through stress' by reminding him budgeting to pay for electricity may be a good idea, rather than having the power cut off - as had happened/been happening.

I understand you think dying of starvation and going without necessities 'without nagging' is the correct way for a mother and her 2 year to live, but personally, I tend to feel the guy was an absolute jerk and loser.

Just wanted to send to the OP.

No matter what, complete that course at school!
God bless you. :)

that's cos ur a fatass.

and u didn't give him no sex.

that's my i left my ex.

no sex = ex.

that's the mathematical forumula.

I thought she got a puncture?

two things:

dude sounds like a loser who needs time to self reflect.

most women have a talent for not knowing to STFU because their man is not having a good day.


if you see you're husband come home stressed out, DON'T BE A DUMBASS and start pelting him with relentless questions about how his day was and "what's wrong". Women like to vocalise their feelings and men don't. The smart thing to do would be to stay quiet, help him get comfortable and give him a bj or something. If you are a source of comfort instead of nagging and complaining he will appreciate you much more.

OP if you run out of money and have nowhere to turn I can western union you $50. Just send me a PM

No matter how hard you squeeze sand you won't get oil. It sounds like your husband might not change. But any decision is ultimately up to you

You are married to an asshole. Be glad that he left. Change the locks, get a restraining order, divorce, and chile support.

sounds like the guy is a lost cause. So sad really. The lack of a loving reaction when you got pregnant, unless he shows affection I wouldn't stay with him 'just because' .... I have so much to provide and would love to have a family but with a certain health issue I have that makes me insecure around women I probably never will have this opportunity, and guys like him who have it throw it away over pussy or whatever, especially to have a woman that actually knows how to clean, cook, and exercise! Even more baffling. He probably just wants you to get a job of your own, it sounds like. He resents being the primary source of income.

Me I have no immediate plans to go back to school. My job could support a family with a woman who is cheap enough to not need new SUVs every 2 years and a new house, so that's good enough for me but probably will not happen anyways so the money will just pile up and I'll invest it.


Good luck.

THIS!!! Seriously, throwing stuff at you and the emotional abuse and verbal abuse you are going through? Honey, this kind of behavior statistically escalates to physical abuse. The sexual perversions should raise a few red flags too.

Google emotional and verbal abuse because at the very least that is what you are going through and read....and read and read. THEN make a decision.

He will come back.
I'd say get a part time job for the hours when he is at home ( assuming he comes home at 6pm) you could work while he is home. Or the weekends. Or there are many things to do from home as well. It takes two. I'm a sahm too, and preggo with number two, and I know that being s sahm can be a lot of work but sometimes you can put off a few chores or cook ahead to do a part time job. You can make it work. No sense in fighting over it.

That sounds like an idea, you get a change of scenery and some extra income. I hope things work out for all of you.

Why do the idiots always... ALWAYS... have to reproduce??

What? Are you kidding?

This has NAG written all over it.

I just LOVE the way people dish out this kind of advice, after having heard exactly ONE HALF of the story.

I often wonder just how many marriages and relationships have been destroyed by an angry upset woman, spouting off to her friends, or in this case, total strangers on the internet.

The man never even has HIS side told.

surprising to find good and sane people on glp.....really surprised

If what the OP says is true then when he said...quoting the OP "He said he's not going to pay child support, he doesn't care about me, all of this nasty stuff."

There is NO side to his story. He is a fucking idiot and does not deserve a wife nor a child. He is an abusive loser.

do you have a smart meter?

if so the electromagnetic radiation from them reduces testosterone which creatss side effects in men... namely depression anger, irrationalism, and basically everything that is bad .... becuase of the testosterone reduction ..

Dugech, thank you for bringing this up.

I was hired the last part of April for a local telephone call center in the small city where I live.

Training was supposed to begin the first week of June. One week before the client using the call center "postponed".

I was already surprised this company was still open. It's been here over 20 years but when I walked in and saw 300 cubicles with only 50 occupied, well...

So I kept searching but told them I would still be interested in their next training and sure enough they called me and told me to prepare for training the first week of August.

Sure enough, a week beforehand they called again and said the class had been postponed.

Then about a week later the head company called and offered me the same job but doing so from my home.

I was elated!

Unfortunately I was in the middle of moving and I needed a permanent location where I could install a land line ($100?) by a headphone, etc.

In the mean time they actually DID announce the call center in my town is shutting down (my family's like, "WOW! How did you know? Spooky!"

I need to call them this week to see if there are any openings but it makes sense they would offer these jobs to the ones they have just laid off.

But tell me, can you choose your hours? For instance I am really committed to my church on Sundays and Wednesdays.

Otherwisethis sounds like an IDEAL job for me since I don't have a 5-day-week professional wardrobe any longer and not much gasoline in the car to drive far.

Is there any (other than the Cloud) you've checked out?

Thank you so much for this.


B- I'm sorry I interrupted your thread and hope your husband cooled down last night.

Is there anyone around to take you on errands since he took the car with him?

And maybe you can check into this work at home program to earn a little money while you STAY in school.

Sweetie, you are SO close! May is just around the corner.

Think how much better you'll feel, knowing you did it on your OWN!

Love to you, Miggy

First Things First Get the Hell off glp and make certain your kid is getting attention and be there for him! Then get with folks you know locally and ask them. Strangers on glp are not going to be your go-to! As on freaky friday...You do not need a man to complete you. (Tough Love here darlin')

you can do better, he is not the amn for you

I hope you get away and stay away from him. Right now my concern is if he reads this post how he will behave

Bastard is playing with you and acting like a bg mean ape, making himself in control and taking it from you. I am not certain if you can but you need to end this relationship and get space between you.

Prepare for a significant life change...child support will not cover your total cost of living and you'll have to get a job...but you can do it if you are resolved.

Good luck...