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mk ultra User ID: 5813027 United States 11/21/2012 08:29 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | ... Quoting: KungPowMeowMeow Are you fighting to get her back? That was my biggest regret; I walked away without fighting for the relationship. You should fight for what you believe in. I have this same regret! If I had it to do all over again, I would fight. And even if I didn't, then I'd at least find out "what if" and not hold on to a dream for year, upon years. It is not worth it. Either go find out or let it go! From one who wished they would have!!!!! And I must say that not finding out is one of the biggest regrets of my life! I was very sick 5 years ago and given less than a year to live and had a list of things I regretted not doing. I've done them all, save this one. I feel like he won't believe me or trust me again which is why I gave up and walked away all those years ago. That feeling of not being trusted by someone you love is a terrible pit in my stomach and I have been honest in all of my relationships (sometimes painfully so) ever since. Live and learn and hopefully its not too late. I hope you are doing better. I was going through some serious medical problems (still am) during the brief encounter and my attitude was the complete opposite, I did not want to add any drama or toxic people into my life since I needed to be mentally strong to fight for my health. I knew from the rumor mill this guy, despite him being 'nice' to me in hs, had been through a really bad divorce, there was domestic abuse and he must have really done a number on his ex wife for her to have done what she did to him physically (she severely hurt him in a very messed up, psycho way, like something you'd see out of a zombie horror movie). that being said, there were too many signs that indicated RUN in the other direction, this person has a lot of bad energy around them. And I never necessarily considered him anything more than a friend, no loss for me. If anything, I was probably the one that got away from him... twice. The other reason I am glad I never became friends is because I love my husband more than anything and it would be completely disrespectful to be friends with some guy who I knew had a thing for me in hs and that it would break my husband's heart. So for that reason I chose to be loyal to my one true love, so that he would never go away. I think of it this way, how would I feel if my hubby was connecting with some girl he used to like in hs? I would be sad and heartbroken. I have a brain, so I use it. Getting some fleeting attention from some long lost person you knew for only a couple of years is not worth the risk of ruining a perfect marriage. I've got too many gf's that have now become divorced over reconnecting with old flames via facebook only to be going through drama and such because facebook is one big revolving door of people coming and going from your past. 2 of my friends are now on divorce #2 because after leaving husband #1, they found 'true love' on FB (or so they thought) and then the cycle repeated, now the guys in both situations have dumped each of them for new women they 'reconnected' with in facebook. its comical because both women now wish they mever left husband #1. People just don't think, they act on emotion, which sometimes is not healthy. so for me, I am relieved that I never went down that path to explore that nostalgic person from the past, and I do believe God's angels were giving me signals to stay away from him, that there were a lot of problems in his life and as it turned out, he had trouble at work, I heard from another mutual friend that he flirted a lot with every girl on facebook, even if they were married and so I know what ever we had as brief friends, he did not want the best for me. When you truly care about someone, you want the best for them, you want them to be happy - if anything, he got pissed that I didn't want to connect with him in person, so he got pissed off. Seems sad to me he was such a happy guy in hs, but grew old, bitter and divisive as an adult. Of course i suppose he would blame all that on us women, lol. |
mk ultra User ID: 5813027 United States 11/21/2012 08:34 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | ... Quoting: mk ultra 5813027 I would say go for it and contact him, you have nothing to lose. If he is still mad, that is his loss. I've reconnected with lots of other people from years past that I may have had a falling out with and we are all friends again. life goes on, its too short to hold a grudge. if you communicate in a honest fashion, you can never lose. just be true and honest with yourself, that way it will be easy to be that way with him. good luck! I think I will do it. I'll keep you updated.. good for you. Holidays are the perfect time to reach out, people have a good excuse to wish each other a happy thanksgiving. If there is one thing I've learned in all my years, its that honesty is the ksy to a healthy relationship with anyone. Being dishonest or lying will only send you down a hole. Just be your excited, enthusiastic self and reach out to say hello to him. good luck! Yes, honesty is the most important thing for any relationship, but unfortunately I hadn't learned that yet when I was with him, hence the reluctance to pick that old scab. But maybe it still bothers me because I haven't made ammends about the hurt I caused him. I feel worse about that than how much he hurt me. well better late than never.you can still forgive yourself for how you treated him and move on. just be careful when you contact him not to sound defensive. and be prepared for him to tell you he is already happy in a relationship. the one down side to reconnecting is you never want to be a home wrecker, or someone who has a strong desire to "win" him back just to prove something. |
mk ultra User ID: 5813027 United States 11/21/2012 08:38 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Im going through this now. I love her so much but she seems to be moving on. To think about her in ten years with a husband and kids and family will kill me Quoting: Anonymous Coward 27175055 I'm going through it now. 11 years later. She's married. Happy. Getting ready to have kids. We still talk. It's a fate worse than death. I still dream about her three/four times a week - and in those dreams I'm still trying desperately to get her back. She always leaves again at the end of the dream. It's fucking torture. You'd think it gets better but it hurts just as much now as it did the day she left. True love really never dies. So my advice to everyone would be to avoid it like the plague if you can. Find somebody you could take or leave and span time. I thought I was the only one to obsess over a long lost relationship. I sometimes think that there's something wrong with me for not being able to let it go. I can have relationships, and in fact was married, but they all have the same sort of luke warm, friendship feeling to them. Not the passion and emotion I had with him. Again, it may have been because I was young and not had enough breakups to start protecting myself from those deep emotions. But that was the last time I can honestly say I loved someone so much it hurt. I think you can really only fall in love-love like that once. You use up all the magic and the pain of the split closes the door for anyone else. This is gonna sound nuts but; I'm glad she's happy. I'd never do anything to interfere with her life BUT, since we split in 2001 I haven't been on a single date. Doesn't seem to be any point. I'd just be lying to whoever the girl is to satisfy myself and in the interim possibly keeping her from her soul mate the same way some guy is keeping mine from me. I have my fingers crossed that someday she'll come back. Until then I'll wait (not in the crazy way, in the Noah Calhoun, Chuck Noland way) - but even if she never does I got to know the kind of love most people only read about. Just wish I hadn't fucked it up and ruined my own goddamned life. BTW, hopefully the split wan't your fault - ours was mine. Loneliness combined with guilt, self-loathing and never-ending regret is easily the heaviest cross I've ever had, or will have to carry. I cry a lot. I'm addicted to drugs. I'm also still not entirely convinced that this isn't hell. That said, I'm sorry man. This world is a pain endurance test. I only hope someday God gives me a fucking break and takes the boot off my neck. Hope he does the same for you. that is awesome. to be truly happy that someone else is happy shows that you are not a self absorbed pr*ck. I commend you on that and I hope you find happiness some day. Remember, everyday is a new chance for someone to walk into your life and rock your world. |
mk ultra User ID: 5813027 United States 11/21/2012 08:40 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Its probably just the holidays that make me melancholy, but I've been thinking about the one that got away 10 years ago. I still have his phone number and think about calling. I wonder if he is still that awe inspiring person I remember, or have my memories have become embellished over the years? Quoting: KungPowMeowMeow Has anyone found the one that got away after a long while? If so, were they as great as you remember? And what happened after that? well I am happily married, but I ran into a hs guy friend on FB a few years ago. I felt some nostalgia, he had asked me out back in hs one time and I was interested in another guy at the time so I declined. Well I got to know him again only briefly on FB and some weird stuff went on in FB (too much to list here and too boring) and he deleted me. I suppose it was some sort of payback for turning him down in hs, but he was a real douche bag the way he treated me on FB. So glad I never really got too friendly with him or shared too much info about my life. I would have never cheated on my husband, but I was hopeful we could have at least been friends,because he was so friendly with all teh other classmates, I felt alienated and now I don't keep in touch with anyone from hs. Everything happens for a reason, or so they say. and to be honest most of them thrived in gossipy conversations, something I have no interest in. And no, to answer your question he was not as great as I remember. He was divorced and seemed bitter towards me, no matter what our interaction were on FB (I never saw him in person) I was pretty much snubbed by him and any mutual friends we had at the time. I got over it real quick though, figured if he is still operating like a stubborn little boy then he has not grown up or matured to anyone worth knowing. His loss. What if He was MKULTRA'd? lol, it's quite possible. Actually I believe, given his lack of belief in God that he is friends with the devil. You can tell by the sh*t that has happened to him, he is not protected, rather he seeks to destroy. |
mk ultra User ID: 5813027 United States 11/21/2012 08:44 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | OP You're still up?? You should definitely get in touch. What do you have to lose? Seriously!! Do it!!! : ) The internet voice is telling you to do so. Quoting: Anonymous Coward 20898323 'It's not the choices in life we regret, it's the ones we didn't make.' - Some dude I'm a night owl, lol. I work nights so its easier on days off to keep the same schedule. I think I will send him a text tomorrow. There's something safe about texting, and I think the sound of his voice might still give me that sick feeling in my stomach like it used to. That quote is so true. One little bit of advice, if I may... be careful with the texting. I know it is the year 2012 and everyone texts, but this is why you want to stand out and be different. Can you get his address and send him a card with pretty handwriting and sprayed lightly with your fav perfume? I know it may soud cheesy, but ho's text. I am going to go out on a limb and say you are not a ho. lol. I think so much gets lost in translation these days with social media and texting. its very impersonal and with the amount of people at any given time in one's digital contacts, you become vanilla. If you can send him a hand written note, I do believe it would make a more lasting impact on that "first" impression of reconnecting. good luck! |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 23354737 United States 11/21/2012 08:45 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | I found mine on facebook after 30 years. We were beautiful back in 1982 - I was a sorority girl and he was a AF pilot to be. Looking at the photos, he is now old and chubby and has a faithfull wife. He has two sons that live far from him. I married a great guy and ( I'm still married) and have 2 daughters and 2 sons. My youngest son is only 11. I know that I got the best deal. (In the words of a Garth Brooks song, "Sometimes God's greatest gifts are unanswered prayers.") But still...those were such exciting times and I wish that we could have known each other during the years that have passed. |
mk ultra User ID: 5813027 United States 11/21/2012 08:48 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | ... Quoting: Anonymous Coward 4419687 I'm going through it now. 11 years later. She's married. Happy. Getting ready to have kids. We still talk. It's a fate worse than death. I still dream about her three/four times a week - and in those dreams I'm still trying desperately to get her back. She always leaves again at the end of the dream. It's fucking torture. You'd think it gets better but it hurts just as much now as it did the day she left. True love really never dies. So my advice to everyone would be to avoid it like the plague if you can. Find somebody you could take or leave and span time. I thought I was the only one to obsess over a long lost relationship. I sometimes think that there's something wrong with me for not being able to let it go. I can have relationships, and in fact was married, but they all have the same sort of luke warm, friendship feeling to them. Not the passion and emotion I had with him. Again, it may have been because I was young and not had enough breakups to start protecting myself from those deep emotions. But that was the last time I can honestly say I loved someone so much it hurt. I think you can really only fall in love-love like that once. You use up all the magic and the pain of the split closes the door for anyone else. This is gonna sound nuts but; I'm glad she's happy. I'd never do anything to interfere with her life BUT, since we split in 2001 I haven't been on a single date. Doesn't seem to be any point. I'd just be lying to whoever the girl is to satisfy myself and in the interim possibly keeping her from her soul mate the same way some guy is keeping mine from me. I have my fingers crossed that someday she'll come back. Until then I'll wait (not in the crazy way, in the Noah Calhoun, Chuck Noland way) - but even if she never does I got to know the kind of love most people only read about. Just wish I hadn't fucked it up and ruined my own goddamned life. BTW, hopefully the split wan't your fault - ours was mine. Loneliness combined with guilt, self-loathing and never-ending regret is easily the heaviest cross I've ever had, or will have to carry. I cry a lot. I'm addicted to drugs. I'm also still not entirely convinced that this isn't hell. That said, I'm sorry man. This world is a pain endurance test. I only hope someday God gives me a fucking break and takes the boot off my neck. Hope he does the same for you. Yes, I self medicated with booze and some other various things for a while but luckily I got a job that does drug testing, so I had to stop. I started doing the self medicating because the only way I could sleep was to pass out cold. I cried myself to sleep every night for 3 months, and then had to get up every day and go to work and be reminded of it all over again. People took sides so I lost friends, and always felt paranoid that everyone was talking about me. (I found out later they actually were). Because of all of this I lead a very solitary life now. I don't socialize at work, I only have a couple of trustable friends, I don't drink anymore (most of the drama occurred drunk). The split was both of our faults really. We were both dishonest and cruel to each other which is the worst regret. We both needed to grow up and some therapy too for our messed up childhoods. I got my end cleaned up now. kudos to you for not drinking! do you remember that scene in the wedding singer? adam sandler: "drinking = messy puke = no one likes you" LOL... life with out the legal poison is so mush sweeter. |
mk ultra User ID: 5813027 United States 11/21/2012 08:49 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | I found mine on facebook after 30 years. Quoting: Anonymous Coward 23354737 We were beautiful back in 1982 - I was a sorority girl and he was a AF pilot to be. Looking at the photos, he is now old and chubby and has a faithfull wife. He has two sons that live far from him. I married a great guy and ( I'm still married) and have 2 daughters and 2 sons. My youngest son is only 11. I know that I got the best deal. (In the words of a Garth Brooks song, "Sometimes God's greatest gifts are unanswered prayers.") But still...those were such exciting times and I wish that we could have known each other during the years that have passed. that is a great song. |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 28148878 Canada 11/21/2012 09:18 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | When he held me in his arms on the beach after 10 years apart (not seen each other in 8 years), my heart had finally come home and I knew what void it was that was missing inside me that I had tried for so many years to fill with empty things. My biggest regret in life was walking away from him after he shattered my heart and then asked for another chance. We were not mature enough then to handle the kind of love that we have. I was terrified of having my heart broken by him again, and I suppose that is still a possibility. That is a chance I gladly take. The regret never lessened. I thought of him all the time. I even celebrated his birthday secretly. I thought I felt more for him than he did for me, so I didn't think we would ever be together again. I am so glad that I didn't let the fear keep me from being with the greatest love I could ever imagine. Life sometimes has a way of surprising you, and if something is meant to be, it will be, no matter how much time passes or what your situation is. True love always finds a way. You can only reach out and say what it is you feel. If you have regret, do something about it and find out what happens. That is the only way to get over the 'what ifs'. Best of luck! |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 27993060 United States 11/21/2012 09:33 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | i had a bad one like what you say if i had the chance to tell her how i felt id tell her to go and get fucked she had her chance and fucked it up then id give her a hug and kiss and tell her i lover her and i always will and i would leave it at that i hope you get your closure forgive you first that is key to overcoming these things find the love you shared and be an example of that love for others |
KungPowMeowMeow (OP) User ID: 27358318 United States 11/21/2012 11:33 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | OP, please do it. Contact him. I've found happiness after a high school breakup - my first love - 30 years later! We were both married twice and divorced after the second marriage of 20 years. We are so happy! It's not perfect,but it is wonderful. Quoting: Anonymous Coward 26165384 The initial contact was by letter (he contacted me) and came as a total surprise out of the blue. It was almost impossible to figure out the meaning or what he wanted, (all general catching up and chatting about common interests, etc. no pressure) but we emailed for several weeks before even talking on the phone. I have to tell you that first time I heard his voice after 30 years was like lightening striking. Same lightening when we first saw each other again. We've been together for 4 years now. That is very encouraging to hear! Thanks for sharing and good luck to you both! "Fortune, honour, beauty, youth are but blossoms dying. Wanton pleasures, doting love are but shadows flying." ---Thomas Campion |
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KungPowMeowMeow (OP) User ID: 27358318 United States 11/21/2012 11:46 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | ... Quoting: Anonymous Coward 26130402 I have this same regret! If I had it to do all over again, I would fight. And even if I didn't, then I'd at least find out "what if" and not hold on to a dream for year, upon years. It is not worth it. Either go find out or let it go! From one who wished they would have!!!!! And I must say that not finding out is one of the biggest regrets of my life! I was very sick 5 years ago and given less than a year to live and had a list of things I regretted not doing. I've done them all, save this one. I feel like he won't believe me or trust me again which is why I gave up and walked away all those years ago. That feeling of not being trusted by someone you love is a terrible pit in my stomach and I have been honest in all of my relationships (sometimes painfully so) ever since. Live and learn and hopefully its not too late. I hope you are doing better. I was going through some serious medical problems (still am) during the brief encounter and my attitude was the complete opposite, I did not want to add any drama or toxic people into my life since I needed to be mentally strong to fight for my health. I knew from the rumor mill this guy, despite him being 'nice' to me in hs, had been through a really bad divorce, there was domestic abuse and he must have really done a number on his ex wife for her to have done what she did to him physically (she severely hurt him in a very messed up, psycho way, like something you'd see out of a zombie horror movie). that being said, there were too many signs that indicated RUN in the other direction, this person has a lot of bad energy around them. And I never necessarily considered him anything more than a friend, no loss for me. If anything, I was probably the one that got away from him... twice. The other reason I am glad I never became friends is because I love my husband more than anything and it would be completely disrespectful to be friends with some guy who I knew had a thing for me in hs and that it would break my husband's heart. So for that reason I chose to be loyal to my one true love, so that he would never go away. I think of it this way, how would I feel if my hubby was connecting with some girl he used to like in hs? I would be sad and heartbroken. I have a brain, so I use it. Getting some fleeting attention from some long lost person you knew for only a couple of years is not worth the risk of ruining a perfect marriage. I've got too many gf's that have now become divorced over reconnecting with old flames via facebook only to be going through drama and such because facebook is one big revolving door of people coming and going from your past. 2 of my friends are now on divorce #2 because after leaving husband #1, they found 'true love' on FB (or so they thought) and then the cycle repeated, now the guys in both situations have dumped each of them for new women they 'reconnected' with in facebook. its comical because both women now wish they mever left husband #1. People just don't think, they act on emotion, which sometimes is not healthy. so for me, I am relieved that I never went down that path to explore that nostalgic person from the past, and I do believe God's angels were giving me signals to stay away from him, that there were a lot of problems in his life and as it turned out, he had trouble at work, I heard from another mutual friend that he flirted a lot with every girl on facebook, even if they were married and so I know what ever we had as brief friends, he did not want the best for me. When you truly care about someone, you want the best for them, you want them to be happy - if anything, he got pissed that I didn't want to connect with him in person, so he got pissed off. Seems sad to me he was such a happy guy in hs, but grew old, bitter and divisive as an adult. Of course i suppose he would blame all that on us women, lol. I wonder if mine grew into a bitter old man too. I could definitely see the potential in him. But I also saw a funny happy guy who brought smiles to faces, especially mine. I am considering a text simply because it is "safer" than a phone call-I'm a chicken. The very last time we spoke he was very sarcastic and cruel (and I probably deserved it) and that hurt. But maybe hurt is what I'm supposed to feel now-to show myself I did the right thing walking away back then. I am feeling almost 100% and have been in remission for almost 4 years now. Thanks for asking. "Fortune, honour, beauty, youth are but blossoms dying. Wanton pleasures, doting love are but shadows flying." ---Thomas Campion |
KungPowMeowMeow (OP) User ID: 27358318 United States 11/21/2012 11:51 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | ... Quoting: KungPowMeowMeow I thought I was the only one to obsess over a long lost relationship. I sometimes think that there's something wrong with me for not being able to let it go. I can have relationships, and in fact was married, but they all have the same sort of luke warm, friendship feeling to them. Not the passion and emotion I had with him. Again, it may have been because I was young and not had enough breakups to start protecting myself from those deep emotions. But that was the last time I can honestly say I loved someone so much it hurt. I think you can really only fall in love-love like that once. You use up all the magic and the pain of the split closes the door for anyone else. This is gonna sound nuts but; I'm glad she's happy. I'd never do anything to interfere with her life BUT, since we split in 2001 I haven't been on a single date. Doesn't seem to be any point. I'd just be lying to whoever the girl is to satisfy myself and in the interim possibly keeping her from her soul mate the same way some guy is keeping mine from me. I have my fingers crossed that someday she'll come back. Until then I'll wait (not in the crazy way, in the Noah Calhoun, Chuck Noland way) - but even if she never does I got to know the kind of love most people only read about. Just wish I hadn't fucked it up and ruined my own goddamned life. BTW, hopefully the split wan't your fault - ours was mine. Loneliness combined with guilt, self-loathing and never-ending regret is easily the heaviest cross I've ever had, or will have to carry. I cry a lot. I'm addicted to drugs. I'm also still not entirely convinced that this isn't hell. That said, I'm sorry man. This world is a pain endurance test. I only hope someday God gives me a fucking break and takes the boot off my neck. Hope he does the same for you. Yes, I self medicated with booze and some other various things for a while but luckily I got a job that does drug testing, so I had to stop. I started doing the self medicating because the only way I could sleep was to pass out cold. I cried myself to sleep every night for 3 months, and then had to get up every day and go to work and be reminded of it all over again. People took sides so I lost friends, and always felt paranoid that everyone was talking about me. (I found out later they actually were). Because of all of this I lead a very solitary life now. I don't socialize at work, I only have a couple of trustable friends, I don't drink anymore (most of the drama occurred drunk). The split was both of our faults really. We were both dishonest and cruel to each other which is the worst regret. We both needed to grow up and some therapy too for our messed up childhoods. I got my end cleaned up now. kudos to you for not drinking! do you remember that scene in the wedding singer? adam sandler: "drinking = messy puke = no one likes you" LOL... life with out the legal poison is so mush sweeter. I agree, life is sweeter and much less dramatic! When we were togther drinking was an every night occurence. And I am an emotional basket case when I drink! Most of the time happy, but once in a while things would get out of control and yikes! I would really make a fool of myself. The only downside is that when I get crazy now, I can't blame it on being drunk, lol, I'm just crazy! "Fortune, honour, beauty, youth are but blossoms dying. Wanton pleasures, doting love are but shadows flying." ---Thomas Campion |
KungPowMeowMeow (OP) User ID: 27358318 United States 11/21/2012 11:52 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | i had a bad one like what you say Quoting: Anonymous Coward 27993060 if i had the chance to tell her how i felt id tell her to go and get fucked she had her chance and fucked it up then id give her a hug and kiss and tell her i lover her and i always will and i would leave it at that i hope you get your closure forgive you first that is key to overcoming these things find the love you shared and be an example of that love for others Mine would say something like that! The duality of love and hate for the same person at the same time. "Fortune, honour, beauty, youth are but blossoms dying. Wanton pleasures, doting love are but shadows flying." ---Thomas Campion |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 8980350 United States 11/21/2012 10:06 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | No... Haven't seen her in awhile, but I'm just waiting for the kid to come up and call me daddy someday though. I was fuckin the farmers daughter, things were getting shaky and we had angry sex out in the field late one summer night and I figured this was going to be the last time I tapped that ass so I half busted in her for spite, said goodbye and let her boss pick up the pieces and raise the kid thinking it was his LOL. They worked at a place that fired them when it came to light that a boss-employee relationship was taking place. Last I heard he was a coke head and she got fat. Life is a bitch. |
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Anonymous Coward User ID: 15883666 United States 11/21/2012 10:37 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | This guy got the one that got away. This buck was walking around with a broadhead IN ITS BRAIN. Wow. [link to www.texashuntworks.com] |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 21000351 United States 11/21/2012 11:00 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | She found me and now it's all said and done I wish she hadn't. It was nothing but drama and turmoil and ended with heart break. I wasted 425 days of my life and then went back and wasted another 6 months. All for a teenage crush that went sour. Best let sleeping dogs lie man. Just let them be. |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 26318431 United States 11/21/2012 11:14 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Its probably just the holidays that make me melancholy, but I've been thinking about the one that got away 10 years ago. I still have his phone number and think about calling. I wonder if he is still that awe inspiring person I remember, or have my memories have become embellished over the years? Quoting: KungPowMeowMeow Has anyone found the one that got away after a long while? If so, were they as great as you remember? And what happened after that? Well I had just that situation.. Back in 1993 we broke up about 3 days before our wedding. It was an ugly mess, Her parents hated me, and I was a bit of a player back then.. lol but all in all things just went boom one day and I never saw her again. I spent years wondering what I could have done differently, yes I screwed things up but I always figured that somehow someway we would meet again, and things would work out now that we both did a whole lot of growing up. Well.. a few years ago, I met her on facebook. She actually found me, and sent me a message along the lines of "You should remember me" (Im thinking to myself lol I spent the last 15 or so years remembering you lol) but I am married now and so is she. After talking to her and watching her posts on facebook, I really appreciated my wife a whole lot more (and mind you my wife knows of this girl well.. I was not going behind her back to friend her on facebook).. I am happy where I am and I realized that the "ones that get away" get away for a reason. Such is life. I think you do a whole lot of embellishing in your head over the years.. you remember moments, events, like pictures in your head but they fade away or get changed.. just like that line from the song "Dont look back you can never look back" |
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