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Anonymous Coward User ID: 2793969 United States 04/23/2014 08:06 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | She's depressed, and you are partly responsible. Quoting: Brevet I suggest asking her to get a part-time job doing something she really likes. After awhile, something better may come up. Otherwise, you're fucked. i agree she might be depressed... she might even be sick somehow and not realize it. i don't think its your "fault" and it probably isn't her "fault" either. you weren't firm enough when you let her quit her job, now you need to be firm that she needs to see someone for a few months and figure out what's going on, because it sounds like this isn't in-line with her personality. |
ruser User ID: 56892768 United States 04/23/2014 08:07 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | I told you the truth amongst a group of people recommending divorce and anal sex, OP. Quoting: Anonymous Coward 48639963 I believe in the power of Jesus and his ability to break chain caused by all that Thelema junk and I believe in his ability to keep a marriage strong Good luck! I would actually like it if she was into occult. But as soon as she is presented with something she does not understand right away and takes some effort, its baxk to the tube with the ghost hunter idiots chasing each others shadows in abondonded buildings, goddam dr. phil, fucking around on facebook, or playing stupid games. And I understand Jesus, IAO, INRI, and the Christos more than you think. I see past the dogma and literal interpretations fed to the slaves. Thelema is freedom, not chains. I know you are trying to help so thank you anyway. You are awake and explains your reaching out to glp friends for advice. She may not be as aware as you, and nothing you can do will change that. My husband won't discuss topics covered here on glp with me either - I still love him though, and he gives me a different perspective. Find some common ground with you wife. What do you both enjoy? Movies, cooking, baby animals? Do.you have pets? A dog would give her something to play with and an incentive to exercise. Last Edited by ruser on 04/23/2014 08:07 PM ruser |
Virgo10 User ID: 18645917 United States 04/23/2014 08:07 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | I don't think so. I work at home, which is probably not the best, to be cooped up together 24x7. Thats how I know what she does all day. There is the problem. You working at home. She does not know what to do with you around all the time! She needs her own space she's foolish not getting a part time job or volunteering. She feels watched all the time so she keeps it simple. Last Edited by Virgo10 on 04/23/2014 08:08 PM |
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And thennn User ID: 30712642 United States 04/23/2014 08:23 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | You are doing it wrong, my wife works 70 hrs a week and travels out if town every other week. I sit home watch tv, eat, drink and play house hubby. Women want equality-fine- you can equally take care of me as a house hubby as we have done for hundreds if not thousands of years while women stayed home. Men use to hunt for food, women like hunting for the money. I say hunt your all mighty dollar and when the tough times come I will hunt for our survival. The relationship between you and your wife is more than who works for some corporate greed fuck and who stays home to work making sure the homestead is fine. Bottom line, going out to work or staying home taking care of things is still work. From my experience being a stay at home dad for 2 yrs has been more work than I ever put up with in the Corporate world. Stay at home moms and dads jobs are 24/7, we are the true work force!! So, give your wife a hug and tell her you appreciate everything she does. Cause I promise you she does a lot more than you know. If you are just married to a lazy person, move on, but quit your bitching. Life is tough you can either do it alone or learn patience while getting through it with some one you care about. Don't make it a"I do more than you" situation. You will always be unhappy and fail. Make it a" we each take care of each other" and yes some work harder than others but if you love your wife tell her your concerns in a meaningfull way and work it out. Damn it man there's more to life than petty squabbles with the women you married. Money IS the root of evil. And thennn |
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Anonymous Coward User ID: 32008295 United States 04/23/2014 08:42 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Counseling would be a good idea. You can sort through whether you are really right for each other but just need to resolve/heal some issues. Or if you are fundamentally mis-matched. If so, it would be best to find out for sure and then take steps to end the marriage so you can both be happier. |
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queenbee User ID: 1562977 United States 04/23/2014 09:03 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | the person who stays home and take care of the details of life while you work 70 hours is bored and needs outlets like tv and the internet to not go crazy. i agree it should not be her whole life. if she went to work she'd make peanuts compared to your career that has never been interruped. do you want her to tell you to stop going out to lunch because you spend more on lunches than she makes all month? and lets face it, you'd still expect her to do all the cooking, cleaning, laundry, shopping, preparing for guests, meeting the furnace fixing guy, setting up your dr appointments, etc etc. and if she suddenly got "work oriented" there'd be a new thread about how your wife cares more about her job than you. the worker always resents the home body. however, i do think couples who break up the work this way (one high-powered worker and one person to take care of home) end up with more money and a less stressful lifestyle. and there ain't much to do about it but count your blessings. |
Morpheus User ID: 729560 Canada 04/23/2014 09:03 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | On top I have health issues working to pay for all this shit. It didnt start out that way. She had a job and quit when I got promoted, assuming I would carry the load. I would'nt even mind if she did something productive, or even if we had kids, but rotting in front of the tube all day is disgusting. I didnt sign up for this. Thinking of confronting her - either help or we downsize, major. No pool, no fucking luxury car. I love her but feel like Im being exploited, its bad enough at work but I don't expect it from family. Quoting: Angry Hierophant Welcome to the club |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 55428596 United States 04/23/2014 09:05 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | On top I have health issues working to pay for all this shit. It didnt start out that way. She had a job and quit when I got promoted, assuming I would carry the load. I would'nt even mind if she did something productive, or even if we had kids, but rotting in front of the tube all day is disgusting. I didnt sign up for this. Thinking of confronting her - either help or we downsize, major. No pool, no fucking luxury car. I love her but feel like Im being exploited, its bad enough at work but I don't expect it from family. Quoting: Angry Hierophant Divorce that bitch. She prob sets at home a masterbates all day thinking of tall and very dark men. |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 55678051 United States 04/23/2014 09:18 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Good grief. Im lucky to be a stay at home mom. But I bust my ass daily. Its so.easy to cry "depression" all the time. Shes lazy. She needs to get off her ass and do something. If you work 70 hours a week- she should be contributing her half by holding up the household tasks. shes just lazy. |
Angry Hierophant (OP) User ID: 41311792 United States 04/23/2014 09:18 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | the person who stays home and take care of the details of life while you work 70 hours is bored and needs outlets like tv and the internet to not go crazy. i agree it should not be her whole life. Quoting: queenbee 1562977 if she went to work she'd make peanuts compared to your career that has never been interruped. do you want her to tell you to stop going out to lunch because you spend more on lunches than she makes all month? and lets face it, you'd still expect her to do all the cooking, cleaning, laundry, shopping, preparing for guests, meeting the furnace fixing guy, setting up your dr appointments, etc etc. and if she suddenly got "work oriented" there'd be a new thread about how your wife cares more about her job than you. the worker always resents the home body. however, i do think couples who break up the work this way (one high-powered worker and one person to take care of home) end up with more money and a less stressful lifestyle. and there ain't much to do about it but count your blessings. I hear you. These are long term, almost spiritual concerns but with pending ramifications either way. I do indeed count my blessings, as it could be so much worse. I am blessed in many ways. But change is nature. |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 56176204 United States 04/23/2014 09:22 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | On top I have health issues working to pay for all this shit. It didnt start out that way. She had a job and quit when I got promoted, assuming I would carry the load. I would'nt even mind if she did something productive, or even if we had kids, but rotting in front of the tube all day is disgusting. I didnt sign up for this. Thinking of confronting her - either help or we downsize, major. No pool, no fucking luxury car. I love her but feel like Im being exploited, its bad enough at work but I don't expect it from family. Quoting: Angry Hierophant Brother! If she is loving, loyal and dedicated then allow her to find herself or tell her to kick rocks. |
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Anonymous Coward User ID: 30551131 Canada 04/23/2014 09:31 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | find out if she has some sort of a goal or some little business she has always wanted to do. lots of women do home based business' for little investment. Creativity is good for everyone involved, she will be more happy, you will be more happy, etc. Now if she is just a lazy leech and wants you to pay for the rest of her life, time to move to plan b. Try the nurturing and mentoring route first and good luck with that and your health. |
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Anonymous Coward User ID: 20766343 France 04/23/2014 11:17 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | On top I have health issues working to pay for all this shit. It didnt start out that way. She had a job and quit when I got promoted, assuming I would carry the load. I would'nt even mind if she did something productive, or even if we had kids, but rotting in front of the tube all day is disgusting. I didnt sign up for this. Thinking of confronting her - either help or we downsize, major. No pool, no fucking luxury car. I love her but feel like Im being exploited, its bad enough at work but I don't expect it from family. Quoting: Angry Hierophant Divorce that bitch. She prob sets at home a masterbates all day thinking of tall and very dark men. Lol |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 56562650 United States 04/23/2014 11:39 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | find out if she has some sort of a goal or some little business she has always wanted to do. lots of women do home based business' for little investment. Creativity is good for everyone involved, she will be more happy, you will be more happy, etc. Quoting: Anonymous Coward 30551131 Now if she is just a lazy leech and wants you to pay for the rest of her life, time to move to plan b. Try the nurturing and mentoring route first and good luck with that and your health. My personal favorite Maybe you should suggest she have some blood work done to see why she has no energy. Who knows there may BE a physical issue or depression. If there's a clean bill of health find something she's interested in as stated in the post above. She's probably not thrilled at having to leave the house to go to work while you're sitting home.. regardless of whether you're working or not. Discuss these things.. it's not healthy for anyone to sit around all day watching that junk. Encourage her to make some goals.. or do it together. Your goals.. her goals.. together goals. You all can't be that old.. what a waste. Its stupid to consider divorcing over this. You said you love her.. love her enough to find out what the underlying problem is. Cuddle her after making love and inquire.. we're all vulnerable and more likely to "open up" at that time. And yes.. Jesus could change your whole view of life and what's truly important but I won't go there : ) |
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