7 Year Old Son Keeps Lying Even When He Knows He'll Be Punished

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Shoot, OP. Sounds like my husband.

Oh, BTW, beat his little ass.

Why the FUCK would you want to put your son on drugs?
What kind of a fucking SICK parent are you?

Show your son some love.
BEAR with it.
It doesn't happen overnight.

Maybe he or she keeps on lying because its the ONLY way to get a some attention out of either you or your husband?

From the way you just fucking exposed yourself, I can see why you son or daughter would behave this way.

HOW THE FUCK do you even consider DRUGS as an option to treat your own son or daughter?

maybe they should put YOU on fucking drugs and see if you become a better parent.

Learn to read, "we don't want to put him on drugs". You do know what a contraction means in grammar don't you?

I hate liars

More than anything else in this world I hate liars

I do not have any advice for you except fix it

Beat that lying little bastard until he starts telling the truth

the way you are so quick to think that you son has some kind of a mental issue disturbs me and gives me insight as to what kind of parent you are.

As I said before, try giving him some ATTENTION.
Try spending some TIME with him.

Why you even considered taking him to a DOCTOR (I assume a psychiatrist) is beyond me?

YOU are the parent.
TALK with him.

Nothing like shivering fear of blood-curdling screaming for 2 minutes of blinding pain to make you think your behavior needs to change. I was one of those. Some need that level. Most are crushed by the mere thought of disappointing their parents. I couldn't care less.

tell them the NWO order did it, and send him this link since you are aksing for parenting advice on GLP.

also tell him building 7 fell because of fire and that the moon is out of place.

my dad pulled me aside and told me this in 1987 and in retrospect it really woke me up to the other side.

here's a youtube video of my dad's speech that woke me up.



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Little boy who cried wolf....Beat him like a red headed stepchild.........

Try positive reinforcements. Reward him for doing what is right.

Parenting isn't always about punishment for bad behavior.

It is also about motivating your children to achieve, to be proud of themselves.

And that might be more of a motivator than punishment.

tell him to go into politics

and to set his sights on the...

White House!!

he could be PRESIDENT!!!

Thanks to those of you who chose not to reply by insulting me. Everyone else, I am disappoint.

That's bad,normally good kids are not supposed to be lying, taking away his privileges won't work, you need talk to him, read him good books, show him good movies, explain some situations, teach him lessons while it's not too late.

Make Him A Politician...
Or.. A Banker...

Some people are born liars. Sociopathic.

Eh, he wont learn until he lies about something serious enough and then has to face the actual consequences.

I remember being the same as a kid. Just kind of a habit you form because of how naive you are.

The child is the true victim here. The parents are guilty and should be put to death.

Obviously, your punishments don't work. You need to look up disciplinary measures and start trying some that actually matter to him. If grounding doesn't work, then why do you keep doing it?

Insanity... doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results every time.

And try some 'bumping up' of your child, while you're looking up creative disciplinary measures.



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Marble Jar

Each time you catch your child making positive choices [like telling the truth], following directions, and being responsible, offer him praise and put a marble in a jar. When the jar is full, recognize his positive efforts with a fun activity. Make the activities no- or low-cost and make sure they are unique, not everyday, opportunities. Fun ideas are going for a bike ride, having a 10-minute dance party, eating a picnic dinner (even if it's just on the kitchen floor), playing a game together, or going for a walk. Brainstorm a list of fun activities with your child to help him become invested in the effort.

(50% rule observed, more at link)

Second, children's minds are less mature.

Their brains do not regulate behavior the same as adults.

Therefore they will have less self-control.

Therefore he will likely engage in behaviors that are not right.

Unless he is molesting his sister, why force him to lie, when you know very well he probably will engage in behavior that is off limits.

If he is not hurting anyone, you don't need to prove him all the time.

As one parent to another, let me tell you something.

And YOU get this straight.

Your son didn't get that way out of the blue.

Do you get what I mean?

YOU and your husband are your son's parents.
YOU two have the MOST influence on him.

If he is this way, this is problem/behaviour that probably originated with you and your husband somehow.

Maybe it was a lack of attention while he was growing up, when he was younger or it was because you let him get away with it so much now it has become a programming in his head to think this way.

In either case, YOU have time to fix it.
Do what a parent should.

Take the time to spend with him.
If you spend time with him and YOU and your husband show that you care, I am sure he will come around once you reinforce the RIGHT WAY to behave.

Each child is too different and I'm not going to get to know your kid by any amount of typing you do on here.

1. I raged because, well, when you come back from the doc's and your kid has been rubber-stamped as one of the 100 flavours of autism or A.D.D., maybe you'll feel the same way.

2. Agree with spending time with your kid, but make it more fun/play time. Not srs bsns. If he casually lies during whatever you're doing (and don't set him up - just if it happens) act disappointed in a slightly childish kind of way. Like your game has been ruined and now you don't want to play anymore. SLIGHTLY childish. Don't have a tanty. Still be the parent, but you need to convey "well that WAS fun. fuck this."

See how he responds to that.

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He might have a personality disorder. He might be a sociopath, as the above poster mentioned. You might need some help to deal with him effectively and positively. Good luck!

My son did the same thing around 6-7-8 it will come and go.
Cancel the appt you can do almost everything a doctor can do only go if u need an antibiotic. First talk to him about lieIng tell him why its bad and what you expect out of him. Then the next x he lies call him out on. You can't give up it some times will take an hour or two to finally get him to tell the truth don't give up. Every time he lies u call him on it ask him questions over and over call him out when he changes the story then show him how much time he wasted by lieIng. You then reward him for telling the truth
Learn reverse psychology. Also you need to be honest with your kid tell him the truth and start treating him older ,

We have a similar problem with our 6 year old...actually it's quite normal for the age. I'm sure he can't tell you why...it's just a developmental stage he's going through. We explained to our son that honesty is very important and that we needed to be able to trust him. It's a slow process to get such a complicated subject to sink in with a 6 or 7 year old...you need the patience of a saint. I do know that once we explained to our son that if he did something wrong that its far better to man up and tell the truth than to lie and get in deep doo doo he has been more honest in that respect.

^ This

Children will do things that are out of lines. Unless he is seriously hurting someone else, then proving him all the time will lead him to more secrecy.

Or make him think he is defective.

It probably shouldn't have, but that made me laugh quite a bit.