So, my wife is out of town, there's a beautiful neighbor flirting with me. What would you do?

Stop acknowledging it.

It comes down to this -- either you are strong, or weak. If you're too weak to respect your wife and her well-being, then you are only to blame if she leaves you for being weak, or for finding a better man.

If you loved your wife you'd see how much more she could ever do than some young and attractive body.

If you see it is a test, then you withhold the probability of failing it.

It's not a test. It's another girl flirting with you. Either you ignore it and have the strength to see it for what it is,

or you succumb to the weakness of your desires and lose the stability of having someone by your side when you are in need --

just like your wife needs now.

Your wife is getting a medical procedure done, and you are so selfish to think of your own physical desires then to be comforting her and what she is going through?

Very well. But, when a strapping young man tends to HER needs and flirts with her -- would you blame her for faltering, or would you want to honor her for her strength and devotion to you?

You make the choice, man. But, you have to live with it...

Do you love your wife and care for HER? Or do you just care about yourself and that "idea" that you love her?


The fact that you're having trouble stifling this desire is a showcase of your weakness and probability to fail.

However, you are dealing with the first steps of doing it or not -- do yourself a favor and put it out of your head. The more you drone on the possibility of cheating, the more likely it is you will do it.

If you must think about it -- then think about it as a test of your love and you're willingness to withhold the sanctity of your vows.

However -- it is your weakness that allows you to falter. Now is the choice to man up, or wimp out.

have you ever met a family that had mo idea that their father had offspring by another woman and then he dies, the family is devastated and now they have to deal with the loss of the dad's early passing and split ALL the hard earned money and real estate (or at least it gets contested in court...)that BOTH the married people worked so hard for?

No way... if a child is made out of an affair and the woman takes off, they should not come back years later looking to cash in.

Get real.

Well, hell...That doesn't solve anything. Should I confront her or what?

it's a trap , you're getting bald dude!! You surely dont think your neighbor has a thing for baldies!You are in denial , days over

Not bald at ALL. Got nice blonde hair & no balding.. Lol

I'm a 41 year old male. My wife is out of town. This young 22-26 year old woman moved in while my wife is gone getting a medical procedure done.

I love my wife forever, then this thing comes along... She flirts constantly! Wth? Is it a test? What should I do about this? The neighbor, is fully aware I am married, yet keeps flirting. What to do?

I'm not sure why these illegitimate kids should not have a share in their sperm donor's loot. Why punish the children? I am so sick of that "our family" bullshit attitude within so many families today. I am as much my sperm donor's daughter as the one he chose to love. And I am not a product of an affair. My dad was single when my mother had my sister and I. He was just too young to give a shit, but then in his 30s he grew up, had a baby with another woman, then that woman divorced him, and now he is alone but only really acknowledges the latest child, and my sister and I never knew what it was to have a father. And if I can, I will sue his ass i court for money he never gave us. Give me ONE reason why I should not have that right???

I'm a 41 year old male. My wife is out of town. This young 22-26 year old woman moved in while my wife is gone getting a medical procedure done.

I love my wife forever, then this thing comes along... She flirts constantly! Wth? Is it a test? What should I do about this? The neighbor, is fully aware I am married, yet keeps flirting. What to do?

Oh one more question, and its quite serious. Did your father have an affair on your mother?

There are always consequences, some are far reaching and leave scars. Imagine a scale; put all the good things you now have on one side. Put the strange woman and what you think you will get from her on the other side, see how things weigh out.

No, keep cool and keep faithful.

You have kids?

Yes consequences.

Not really,

take this scenario....wife doesn't fuck 20 years.

whoah....21 years.

Consequence.....No warmth, connection, care.

I would be very descrete and play with it.

Make sure your finances are in order. Women are vicious and cruel when you do not play there sexless, shopping games.

Well, hell...That doesn't solve anything. Should I confront her or what?

I'm a 41 year old male. My wife is out of town. This young 22-26 year old woman moved in while my wife is gone getting a medical procedure done.

I love my wife forever, then this thing comes along... She flirts constantly! Wth? Is it a test? What should I do about this? The neighbor, is fully aware I am married, yet keeps flirting. What to do?

Man, while I'm typing this she just brought her 2 yr. old daughter over to my door & her baby just tipped over the outside catfood bowl!!! Wtf?!

I'm serious, this lady is nutso on the flirting etc.!!!!

I'm a 41 year old male. My wife is out of town. This young 22-26 year old woman moved in while my wife is gone getting a medical procedure done.

I love my wife forever, then this thing comes along... She flirts constantly! Wth? Is it a test? What should I do about this? The neighbor, is fully aware I am married, yet keeps flirting. What to do?

Go for it !!
It is just casual sex not love !!

Good one... geez. Yep' I'll attempt it. Not... Lol..

I'm a 41 year old male. My wife is out of town. This young 22-26 year old woman moved in while my wife is gone getting a medical procedure done.

I love my wife forever, then this thing comes along... She flirts constantly! Wth? Is it a test? What should I do about this? The neighbor, is fully aware I am married, yet keeps flirting. What to do?