X Marks the Spot

Anger is also a product of love, I think, but a way different type of anger than of fear.

Again lovely dance

If there were no fighting then there would be no making up and to me is the best part of a fight. An elderly married couple once told me their secret to a happy long marriage. It was never go to bed upset

What is the difference between fighting and arguing?

So I missed it... but what is the relation with orange today?

i did not notice you grumpy

Depends on ones interpretation i guess seer. Like the examples you gave are more for war inmy opinion and neither fighting or arguing because i likened it to a family and structured it that way...so idk the answer you are looking for with your interpretation

I see this as when we don't know each other, not a family, type of fighting because there is no trust built so fear or jealousy is in place until one chooses to trust, fear, or walk away.
I get what your saying and I agree when it pertains to an unknown person.

Are you saying as you look around at the world that members of families do not experience jealousy among each other?



Take for example a moment in time, you are at a bbq, mutual friends are there are everyone is mingling and having a good time. Ones wife or husband may being to flirt with one of your friends to which you witness.

In a moment you are greeted by two choices.

To either feel jealousy toward that which is viewed, or to let it go.

One is distrust. The other is Trust.

It is choice. In the moment. Every time.

As I said, jealousy is but one example.

I don't talk as much when I am. I had caffeine today ^_^

oh
now i notice

i think this is going to be indra realated


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motive = visible bias

Of course not, everyone has experienced jealousy. My point of view is this as example:

Say someone is attacking you or another, do you walk away or let them attack? Not me, I'd fight. That as the fighter is not about jealousy or fear but as being wronged because their free will and space was invaded or an innocents was.

Now the one attacking or provoking is out of fear or jealousy.

that made me think of this nebula Aether

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Are you speaking of physical violence?

As I was speaking of why couples have emotional arguments, which we also call 'fighting'.

Physical violence occurs when one loses control of themselves. I would hope very few would stand around to watch another be brutalized physically.

Perhaps this entire conversation has been lost in translation somewhere.



Last Edited by Seer777 on 02/04/2013 06:35 PM

It has. You kinda changed it up a bit from its origin

I think so, lol Its hard sometimes to have discussions online and not in person, at least for me it is.

You chose to take the lovely dance of a family and make it a battle of who was right. Again thats just my opinion of it...if it dont suit you lets twist it until it does

Yeah, I do that.

Seen it happen many times growing up...and once to myself. They just stood and watched me get my ass kicked. No help from the guys or my girlfriends...but oh well when it's 9 against one in the projects what are ya gonna do? :P

No, I was attempting to show you the connection between anger and fear.

Simple as that.


It crosses all aspects of humanity in day to day interaction.

What is a 'family'?

Yes. I remember them well in high school. One time I watched a good friend of mine bite part of the ear off another.

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It was later re-attached.


I have only struck someone out of anger once, and it was my younger brother when I young.

I felt badly about it, and have apologized to him several times over the years, as I carry guilt over it. Although, I was quite young, I realized the wrong I had done and have never physically struck another since.

Plus...I am small, and would probably lose.

That's horrible spirit:(

Being the only natives girls in my high school...I had to learn early on to stick up for myself. I never started the fights but I did end them. After freshman year I had no problems whatsoever...I hung with the puerto ricans, blacks, spanish girls...so it was not bad at all after that. I remember one time this cheerleader small girl had some problem with a friend of mine. This cheerleader was so stuck up and mean to my friend but we always got along. One day my she came up to me with almost a black eye swollen lip crying cause they got into it in the bathroom...saying can you please help me? If you can kick her ass for me I will pay you whatever you want. I laughed in her face and said no. Fight your own battles...you are a bitch to her constantly. Anyway my friend heard about that and well she got a worse beating. I didn't see it...heard about it over the phone that night...fact is this is a tough world...everyone's on their own when it comes to that type of stuff...

I would have to think on emotional fighting. Oh, like the yin yang dance-one fear, one react and its like that with all degrees of fighting. I think you, seer, was picking up the fear part/person and I was picking up the react/defensive part/person. There is always two.

oops double post :)

That was weird I only changed one post but it changed both of them...oh well lol



did it again...freaky

I weakened with Monster munch pickled onion flavour, it made me laugh to read a monster on the packet saying...

Pickled Onion. Where have you been? "Living the dream! I've experienced many things, but nothing compares to those early days together as a group of young monsters.

Which made me laugh as I often enjoyed them as a child.


Young at heart the message :)

and the defensive person has the two choices, either action/hope or inaction/fear