HELP!!! I'm Starting to HATE my Step Kids!!!!!

tell them to buy plastic plates and cups

Never, ever, get involved with someone with kids.

Ever.

Never.

It's a no win situation. You will always be the bad guy.

Unless you tell us his take on the situation, you are just telling one side of the issue.

The last 5 days have been very stressful for me. I need to vent.

I have been extremely ill for the past 9 months and my step kids (2 boys ages 11 and 15) know it. I even left my accounting practice 3 months ago.

Anyway, the youngest one never shuts up...honestly his mouth never stops! He complains and whines about EVERYTHING. Most weekends I feel like crying because his voice literally makes my ears want to bleed.

For over a year now they have been told to put their dishes in the dishwasher after they eat. Those fucking assholes have to be TOLD G'DAMNED MEAL to put the dishes in the sink or they won't do it. They supposedly are very bright kids. They do no pick up after themselves WHAT SO EVER ANY TIME. If they do manage to do something helpful around the house they do it soooooooooo fucking half assed it wasn't even worth the effort they put into it.

The oldest only comes out of his room and off his computer for meals. Then he stays up all nights on the weekend. He'll come downstairs and make himself all these elobrate things to eat and then leave ME the fucking dishes!

I love my husband more than anything, I've tried to talk to him, he tries to make changes, but the kids never do. I feel sooooooooooooooo frustrated and angry I don't know what to do.

They are allowed to live like total and utter pigs at their mom's house because she does not cook or clean.

Talking, taking money out of their allowance and punishing doesn't seem to matter. What can I do!?! I can't take it anymore.

Should I start giving them half asssed meals? Should I feed them on their half assed washed plates? I do their laundry and they throw them all over their room and then complain to their Dad they have no clean clothes.

HELP!!! I have been very ill as well.

Kids today are soooo lazy and so entitled. I feel like running down the street screaming! I'd like to smack the living Hell out of the youngest one, but know I can't.

Arrrrrrrrrrrgggggggggggghhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh!

Davis in Economic Development and Cultural Change says that an effective strategy in lowering the birth rate is to "lessen ... the identity of children with parents, or lessen... the likelihood that this identity will be satisfying," ..This "flouting of parental authority" is a familiar theme in education

I think you resent the $5000 a month that hubby has to send for child support.

It is a Man's job to teach boys how to become a man......

Your husband need to spend more quality time one on one time with his boys so they can grow up to be men.

you hounding them will not help the situation only make it a lifelong issue with woman.

Encourage your husband to do things with his sons.. fishing, hiking, camping, sports, games....

and enjoy the break-time from them throughly.

I think you resent the $5000 a month that hubby has to send for child support. You hate them for it don't you!

someone got ditched for the new step mommy....

OP, you still haven't told us what your husband said when you expressed your outrage over the kids with him. Unless you tell us his take on the situation, you are just telling one side of the issue.

<sigh> I'm sorry you're having a hard time. You're not alone. I hear you. I know what it feels like. I've been there.

The last 5 days have been very stressful for me. I need to vent.

I have been extremely ill for the past 9 months and my step kids (2 boys ages 11 and 15) know it. I even left my accounting practice 3 months ago.
Vent away. Feel free to scream at me if you need to. Please feel free to PM or send email. Tell me if you can't.

You say you're ill. How? Please give detail. Are you sure it's just how you feel that's making you ill? Or could it be that you're really sick?
Anyway, the youngest one never shuts up...honestly his mouth never stops! He complains and whines about EVERYTHING. Most weekends I feel like crying because his voice literally makes my ears want to bleed.You feel used don't you? Like you're just an object they use and have no respect for and don't care about. I know what that feels like.

For over a year now they have been told to put their dishes in the dishwasher after they eat. Those fucking assholes have to be TOLD G'DAMNED MEAL to put the dishes in the sink or they won't do it. They supposedly are very bright kids. They do no pick up after themselves WHAT SO EVER ANY TIME. If they do manage to do something helpful around the house they do it soooooooooo fucking half assed it wasn't even worth the effort they put into it.That sucks. You don't deserve that. Perhaps you could try not warning them anymore. Find some consequence you can dispense. Then stop talking about it. Start doing it. Like - time out. Or yanking the plug to the computer, and carrying the power line away.

The oldest only comes out of his room and off his computer for meals. Then he stays up all nights on the weekend. He'll come downstairs and make himself all these elobrate things to eat and then leave ME the fucking dishes!So you get all the work with no actual relationship. That sucks.

I love my husband more than anything, I've tried to talk to him, he tries to make changes, but the kids never do. I feel sooooooooooooooo frustrated and angry I don't know what to do.Well, responsibility with no authority is abuse in action. So until you're given some authority they won't listen. You should have rights just like everyone else in the house. And I know what it's like to live in that. You get a little bit more hurt and angry every day don't you?

They are allowed to live like total and utter pigs at their mom's house because she does not cook or clean.

Talking, taking money out of their allowance and punishing doesn't seem to matter. What can I do!?! I can't take it anymore.Ah. You are doing things to punish it. Sorry I assumed. Well, there is a reason why it's not working - the kids are being trained to do that. Please see "The Deliberate Dumbing Down of America" at [link to www.deliberatedumbingdown.com]
You can download the entire book free of charge.

Should I start giving them half asssed meals? Should I feed them on their half assed washed plates? I do their laundry and they throw them all over their room and then complain to their Dad they have no clean clothes.Yeah. You're like a slave aren't you? I know what that's like! It's your job to be used. I know how you feel!

HELP!!! I have been very ill as well.!!! That's the second time you said your ill! What's wrong?! Explain. Give me detail. I might be able to help! It sounds like you're going through what I did once.


Kids today are soooo lazy and so entitled. I feel like running down the street screaming! I'd like to smack the living Hell out of the youngest one, but know I can't.Aren't they lazy and entitled though! Yeah. It's been years for me and I STILL feel like running down the road screaming. Tell me about it. And then when you explain it to someone they tell you you're being a b!tch. Clueless experts in other people's lives. And then when it happens to them, they're shocked. If you did beat the little one, they would just use it to prove you're a controlling b!tch, wouldn't they? It's a toxic situation. And it's happening to a lot of people.
Arrrrrrrrrrrgggggggggggghhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh!
Me too!

Now what if I told you it was all deliberate? That it's all well documented to do this to kids and families? Well, it is. It's half chemical. And it's half brainwashing. They're treating you like it's your job and you're an object because that's exactly what they're being told at school.
Heres a little bit on the chemical side by Dr Mercola: [link to www.youtube.com]
And here's a little bit on the brainwashing side: [link to www.youtube.com]

Kids are being told things in classrooms like "It's their job" and "Do yourself a favor and just ignore them." They're dropping all pretense. The Earth Charter contains junk to make it illegal for you to ask them to do any work at all. To quote the article at [link to www.conspiracyarchive.com]
Davis in Economic Development and Cultural Change says that an effective strategy in lowering the birth rate is to "lessen ... the identity of children with parents, or lessen... the likelihood that this identity will be satisfying," ..This "flouting of parental authority" is a familiar theme in education

OP, you still haven't told us what your husband said when you expressed your outrage over the kids with him. Unless you tell us his take on the situation, you are just telling one side of the issue.


I have talked with my Husband about this several times. He tries very hard to make them pick up after themselves. But like I said earlier THEY HAVE TO BE TOLD EVERY FLIPPING TIME THEY EAT ANYTHINGmeals, snacks, drinks...etc to put the dishes in the dishwasher. EVERY SINGLE TIME!!!! Seriously! I just can't believe that after all this time they cannot get up and do it on thier own.

I don't bitch and complain all the time. Some weekends I don't let it bother me, but this weekend was particularly brutal, mainly because of the youngest one who didn't do a report and my husband spent a good deal of his time trying to help him with the assignment only to hear the young one whine, complain, try to sneak on his computer game, lay down and throw fits, scream, cry and so on and so on. When he would get sent to his room (by hubby) to be quiet he would come down 2 minutes later whinning about something or other.

My Husband tries to keep us all happy. I know it is hard for him because basically at Mom's house there really are no rules, they live like wild animals and at our house I will not permit it. He does try to stand by me. We are all learning as we go.

But COME ON! Are they really that stupid they have to be told every time they use a dish to take it to the dishwasher?

When they come inside they throw their shoes off where ever they want and will drop their back packs off in a middle of a room and just leave them there. One time I left a pair of the youngest sneakers smack dab in the middle of a busy walk way in the family room to see how long they would stay there. I gave up after 3 days and moved them.

I don't always hate them, but this weekend it sure felt like I did. I even went up to my room and just stayed there for hours to get some peace from youngest. I've never done that before. It didn't help much because I could still here him lying, whinning and complaining about wanting to play on the computer.

fuckin weak asses come crying to GLP.

you finding help on GLP yet?

I don't understand why you have to use the word...HATE...its such a awful word to use towards children. Also the comment "Are they really that stupid"...... They are an age where you set them down and give them a heart to heart... I do realize they are boys, but seriously its seems like you all are so disconnected...

fuckin weak asses come crying to GLP.

you finding help on GLP yet?

beat them like unwanted step children and maybe they will get the message ( a real thick leather belt works best)..

fuckin weak asses come crying to GLP.

you finding help on GLP yet?

the kids are normal

the mother needs medication

if they were her kids she wouldn't even notice