How to deal with a CLOSED OFF person...

There's this male person I know and he is very closed off. Doesn't trust people. Workaholic and a perfectionist.

How do you deal with someone like that? I've tried to get close but this person keeps me and everyone else at an arm's distance if he knows you. If you're a stranger, he welcomes you with open arms.

Thoughts/ideas/suggestions?

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People who are naturally better than everyone else do not like to get to know rabble. We interact with people who are on the same path of excellence, but normal people can only let us down. We expect more of ourselves than most and when we see people who do not hold themselves to the same standard it is sickening.

Which is why op' s object of desire seems 'closed off', he knows how to play the field and obviously wants nothing to do with op. Shameful how a woman will throw herself at a man who won't even give her the time of day. I think the op has issues, not the guy.

I know the guy. I'm him. I don't have anything in common with anybody I know. I love to meet new people hoping I'm going to have something in common with someone at long last. As soon as I find out I don't, that's it. Any kind of relationship with that person is an exercise in futility.

I'll sit there with my eyes glazed over listening to you talk about things I don't care about and knowing full well you wouldn't give a shit about anything that interests me. So any kind of relationship with you is just a waste of time for the both of us.

He is a person that is so far away from society, that he might as well be from another planet. In my case I spent far too many years hanging around criminals and radicals and fringe people that nothing you normal people do could possibly be of interest to me. Once you've had a conversation with international smugglers about how to get your smuggled goods through Jordanian customs, nothing you could tell me about your life could possibly hold my interest.

He's a true outsider, hardcore to the max. If you're not an outsider yourself, just forget about him. never make the mistake of straying too far from society. Once you leave, you can't come back.

There's this male person I know and he is very closed off. Doesn't trust people. Workaholic and a perfectionist.

How do you deal with someone like that? I've tried to get close but this person keeps me and everyone else at an arm's distance if he knows you. If you're a stranger, he welcomes you with open arms.

Thoughts/ideas/suggestions?

LEAVE HIM ALONE!!!!!!

Why should everything be up to YOU OP?!!!!!!

LEAVE HIM ALONE!!!!!!

He is none none of your business and certainly not one of your pet projects!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

LEAVE HIM ALONE!!!!!!!!

Exactly......most of the surface layer altruism known as public service.....is nothing more than manipulation and con artist selfishness to manipulate some guy minding his own business.

What is this cunt bringing to the table......that our loner needs?

Sounds like a snitch punk watch group cunt.......enjoying the insider secret voyeurism SIGINT to conjure up a feeling of heroic, righteous, Gestapo power...for her own cunt benefit........no?

Exactly......most of the surface layer altruism known as public service.....is nothing more than manipulation and con artist selfishness to manipulate some guy minding his own business.

What is this cunt bringing to the table......that our loner needs?

Sounds like a snitch punk watch group cunt.......enjoying the insider secret voyeurism SIGINT to conjure up a feeling of heroic, righteous, Gestapo power...for her own cunt benefit........no?

I know the guy. I'm him. I don't have anything in common with anybody I know. I love to meet new people hoping I'm going to have something in common with someone at long last. As soon as I find out I don't, that's it. Any kind of relationship with that person is an exercise in futility.

I'll sit there with my eyes glazed over listening to you talk about things I don't care about and knowing full well you wouldn't give a shit about anything that interests me. So any kind of relationship with you is just a waste of time for the both of us.

He is a person that is so far away from society, that he might as well be from another planet. In my case I spent far too many years hanging around criminals and radicals and fringe people that nothing you normal people do could possibly be of interest to me. Once you've had a conversation with international smugglers about how to get your smuggled goods through Jordanian customs, nothing you could tell me about your life could possibly hold my interest.

He's a true outsider, hardcore to the max. If you're not an outsider yourself, just forget about him. never make the mistake of straying too far from society. Once you leave, you can't come back.

just asking. That is what I do for a living and we tend to be closed off from the rest of the world, workaholics, and perfectionists, among other things. Ive had people in your shoes before trying to get to know me. I find that the ones who dont push the issue are usually successful. If you try to tear down my walls, that will make me rebuild them stronger and faster.