Medicare And My Mother

Right on, unfortunately.

Giving themselves perks has been going on forever but not Obamacare! That came with Obama.

Well just imagine the govt. handing her a coupon to buy overpriced health care.

That is exactly why I am not getting a pacemaker. Saw it happen to too many family members.
Like my neurologist says-"one thing medical science has done is given us the ability to prolong the dying process."

Yes.

Hope and Chains.

Sorry for your situation. I can relate.

Took care of my mom (alzheimer's in my home for 5 yrs)after selling hers. She was 88 when she passed this past March.

She did really well with/for us. Ate good, had the run of the house (felt at home) watched tv with us and went out for visits to family and errands with us.

She got a terrible stomach flu and was put in the hospital. At that time, we decided that we were so maxed out emotionally and physically that we'd let her go on to a nursing home from the hospital. I did everything to work with them and to see to it that she would get the help she needed daily...even going up there every day once or twice to feed her.

She was on pain meds as needed (it was tylenol only) but we had also included hospice (seems like it was necessary to actually get her into a home...but I thought it was just to help make sure she was not being abused).

Long story short. She was dead with 2 months. Why? They switched her pain medicine to full strength powerful medicine of some kind without telling us, which stopped her from being able to suck down water or eat. They told us she was just entering the next stage of alzheimer's and was giving up. By the time we figured it out...it was too late.

May Mom forgive me! And God too! My only solace is that she was wanting to go home to be with the Lord.

I believe in God, family and guns and country.

You basically just said you don't care if my family lives or dies. You are now my enemy, I would fight you. Your apathy kills people.

Don't count on Romney protecting your medicare. He wants to cut it.
You're out of luck folks. It doesn't matter who is elected anymore, if you don't have the ability to care for your own, you just die that much sooner. This was your plan for others anyhow, so suck it up.

there are a million stories just like it OP. When my father was in the hospital, the morning nurses pumped him with xanax because he was asking for recuse breathing treatments and he annoyed them. That was the morning of his nuclear stress test. He had a complete loss of memory for hours and was never the same after that. I was there almost every minute, except those few morning hours. He's still with us, but like I said, it did permanent damage. People are not being held accountable for these things. That pisses me off. But we do all we can, God knows it, and so does your mother and father. God Bless and find peace.

your words will come back to you.

I feel for you, Tiger. Very soon I will be in your shoes with my dad who has CHF. He refuses to live with me or go to a nursing home. I've told him he may not have a choice and he looks me in the eye and says "there is always a choice. All I need is one good day." He is planning to take matters into his own hands if you get my drift. So now I live in fear of THAT happening. I am sick to death of Obama's lies and all the Democrats who point out that the cuts to Medicare were cuts to the providers and not the patients. Like we are ignorant enough to believe that cutting reimbursements to the providers would not affect patient care or services! To those who do not see that Obamacare is one giant step to a single payer system in which health care is rationed for all of us,I truly feel sorry for you. Yes, Romney and Ryan are unknowns, but anything is better than the current administration.

Hun, you think I don't know we're all in a bad spot. You think my words aren't real? You can't avoid the truth that your beloved repugs don't really care about you and are about to cut a whole bunch of you off of these programs you don't want to finance but want to be there when it's your turn to collect.

You are a fucking douchebag. Until you experience firsthand what the OP is talking about, shut the fuck up.

Another cocksmoking know it all liberal LIAR. OBAMA raided Medicare for 700 Billion dollars to pay for his bullshit program.
Medicare was funded by our money. It is supposed to be a safety net, but the rules and regulations are so fucked up that people go broke trying to take care of our elders.

Just fuck off... I owe Medicare 20K for nursing home costs for my mother in law...we took care of her until her dementia became so bad that she was a real danger to herself and everyone around her. Then we put her in a nursing home, they took her SS, her pension, and tried to take the house.
She died 9 months later from septicemia. In effect, they killed her to make room for someone less troublesome.

Asshole..

I'm sorry this happened to you. Hopefully, Romney's voucher plan will work better for your family.

you are a piece of crap is what you are. you should be fired for just being the heartless rude *itch you are.

Fuck politics! Fuck Obama, Fuck Bush, Fuck Clinton, Fuck Bush, Fuck Reagan, and FUCK FUCKING CARTER...unless i gotta keep going...

I didn't ask to be born, but neither did my kids. The last damn thing I'd EVER want for them is to feel like I was a political issue. Fuck all this shit.

I hate retarded politics. If "medicare and my mother" is what my life just boiled down to, then I might as well jump off a god damned cliff.

Stupid. And I noticed a fucking excuse with every god damned solution suggested. "Mom and the ultimate political solution, wah wah wah, po pitiful me."

sure glad you dont take care of anyone in my family, noone even talked about entitlements,she PAYS for her health care.

Yes where are all the "concerned" leftards and collectivists now? Where are all the obamatards and the mewing about throwing Grandma off the cliff?


Speak up collectivists. Speak up you lying pieces of garbage. Now is your chance to prove the "compassion and caring" that you bleat so much about.

Where are the obamatards who bleated about how wonderful obongocare will be?

Or is it really that government is a total failure and lies about everything?

Even now you can't understand that statement, right?

I only ask that you make your attacks somewhat in line with reality. But that won't happen will it?

Last Edited by s. d. butler on 08/20/2012 04:14 AM

I recently came back from TX to take care of my 88 year old aunt because she had a ruptured apendix, had surgery just in time and I went to help out.

She's been taking care of her husband my uncle who is the same age, he has dementia and hated the fact that there was a 'stranger' in the house. He wants to continue on with her taking care of him, but she is getting frail and he screams and shouts and loses it a lot. He cusses all the time and is always irritated over something. He was a highly intelligent person and very polite and personable, but now it's as if he's a different person. He also can't remember things and kept forgetting who I was.

They have money so can pay for care themselves so they are very lucky in that regard. My aunt wants to hire full time home health aides or CNAs, but my uncle refuses to have anyone in the house with them so it's a huge problem!

The entire family is in an uproar over this because they both need help and can't go on like this much longer by themselves.

He absolutely does not want to go into a nursing home yet refuses to have another person in that house, and she is determined too that they will stay in that house until death.

That is bad about those cuts in medicare, people paid into that all their working lives and now it's being taken away. I was under the impression they would pay for home health as it's cheaper than nursing home but I guess not.

Good luck to you OP, a lot of us are up against these problems.

That is COMPLETE AND TOTAL BULLSHIT!

Any 'cuts' have been to INCREASES in the future, NOT to current services or reimbursements.

So you're a FUCKING LIAR!!


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First of all, if your mother is 89 years old she has used many years of services so you have no right to cry about 'cuts'. If you totaled the amount she paid in over the course of her life, she used her up her share 15 years ago. Sounds to me like she is a very bitter,stubborn, and spiteful old bitch by refusing to live with anyone. I would not cater to her. If she wants to be on her own than let her be on her own and 100 percent independant. Make it clear that when she falls on her bitch ass and busts a hip that the option to move in is no longer available.

Ah, I see! So your pushing for Romney?..You think he's gonna fix it?

First before i answer i must say that i harbor many, unusual, beliefs and ideas, now with this said i will state one of them, i do not believe that we as Americans and in many places of the world, live in a country run by a government of the people, by the people, and for the people as they say, i believe that the us government is a grand act of theater, on the scale of television. I believe that through many means, ones that i am not fully, and may never be aware of, the true masters of the world control it, the world. I think that one of these ways is the US "government". Now with this said, i can move on. Your story is one of the many that poke holes in President Obama's health care plan, as there are many holes being poked in much of what everyone says, all the time. seeing the deteriorating condition that has been ever present in my life of 17 years, leads me to presume this, that they are just trying to bring it down slowly, they know that shit will hit the fan, in layman's terms, and America i see as the powers that be's power base, and they are trying to gently lay us down into the third world living standard, and throwback to the 1860s, whilst them, the powers, whomever they be can still assert control over the rest of the world while keeping americans just happy enough, but just scared enough, to keep them in lethargic stasis, I'm just a kid, i have no grand plans as to how to stop them,nor do i think its necessary, all i want to give is a little advise, this is the condensation of my life so far, become as self, or tribe sufficient as possible, start trying to learn how to produce your own food especially, but also clothing, basically learn all of these now esoteric traditions, and skills. Learn how to, and then teach your children how to question everything, to think for themselves. I think that this could someday become a game of survival. I see Americans to day, of all ages, as children, sucking from their mothers tit, figuratively. become independent , it wont be easy, since when was the road to independence easy, it took some of you more than 18 years to become independent of your parents. now some people may misconstrue this as revolutionary/terrorist talk. cannot stress how much this is not, they only thing i would ever suggest anyone to do would be the bravest of all things and follow the teachings of Mohandas Gandhi, if need be all of you just sit down and do not fight protect each other, i don't believe that our military will stand for shooting into a crowd of people sitting on the ground and how can they arrest a million people

Paul Ryan want to replace medicare with $2500/year voucher per family! What exactly will this buy?

Sorry about your situation my grandparents where in exactly same position. They wanted to stay at they house, however it was not practical. Current US care system set to consume every tax dollar in few years. It is the system we can not afford. Double digits cost increases for decades, while every other profession saw salary decline broke the system. Absurd abuses, specialists who think it is ok to work 4 - 5 hours three days a week, Medicare part D that pays 100% full asking price for drugs. Your mother needs to understand that staying in the house she can not upkeep may not be an option for much longer. In home care thing of the past.

Medicaid laws have changed. For your Mother to qualify she should have transferred ALL her assets to you and your brother 10 years ago.
My Mother refused to move in with me also. I forced her. She called the police on me. Force, meaning, I took NO for an answer. I would never hurt her or anyone. The police simply told her to listen to me. She must move in with her family to help her!!! She passed at 90. She moved in with me at 88. During the time she lived alone, I checked on her daily. But, then there comes a time...

Tell ya what...her mom can have my moms share. She died three weeks before turning 62, and only drew her share of social security for three months, never drew medicare. Or...I'll give her my dads share. He died at 64, privately insured, never drew his medicare. So...somebody somewhere is welcome to all the years of benefits my parents paid and never collected on. I'd rather see it go to the elderly than to all the teenagers and twentish aged crowd drawing from a pool they never contributed to.

Oh...there are years of retirement or disability benefits there, too. I hope someone older can reap the rewards of my mom and dad's hard work because unlike real pensions, the only beneficiary to the single person's entitlements is the government.

I feel badly for OP, but like many others here I believe we need to take care of our own families. None of the oldies in my family were put in nursing homes, their children took care of them.

STFU