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What makes men not want to have sex? | |
Meligrove  User ID: 26604792  Canada11/04/2012 09:09 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Just trying to understand my husbands sex drive. Is it normal that my sex drive is higher than his? What should I do? Quoting: Sparkles 7183572 Either hes fucking weird or he doesn't find you attractive anymore. What you perceive to be is your reality. I contend that we are both atheists. I just believe in one fewer god than you do. When you understand why you dismiss all the other possible gods, you will understand why I dismiss yours. |
| Anonymous Coward User ID: 26967861  United States11/04/2012 09:10 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Get this book: Quoting: Anonymous Coward 26967861 'Super Marital Sex' by Paul P. Pearsall The book explains how to fix EVERYTHING ELSE besides sex in a marriage. The idea is: when the marriage is healthy and strong, great sex naturally follows. [link to www.amazon.com] |
| Scarbedazzles User ID: 26103023 United States11/04/2012 09:10 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | If his wife gets overweight, slovenly, doesn't take care of herself, lazy, loud, obnoxious...any number of things can turn a person off. It could be any of that or one of a thousand other reasons. Maybe he's intereted in someone else. Maybe you've done something that caused him to lose interest in you. Quoting: Anonymous Coward 26994007 Was he previously interested in having as much sex as you wanted? Is this a new attitude? Every situation and every person is unique. And it could be that he's into porno so intensely that no one can measure up to his porno expectations. Nobody can assess the answer to your question without knowing what's going on with both of you. its not her fault ! its the male animal instinctive nature unfortunately stop showing him attention sexually TRUST ME he will want you alot more and wonder why you dont want him as much as you used to. spoken from experience i was a husband like this. sometimes you go long periods without and that becomes your new routine. i really had to see that my wife missed that intimacy and needed it then we really worked at getting the flame back and our sex life is amazing now. about every day of the week. Quoting: Anonymous Coward 26954555 some of these answers are from idiots but some have merit. maybe try something new and interesting. go outdoors or something like that. maybe get some new night things. but dont change yourself just to please him. be confident and that is the sexiest thing of all. my wife and i have been married 13 years and she is still the sexiest woman i know. it is attitude. but most of all let him know how you miss it and not because you are a sex addict, most women seem to desire closeness of being intimate with their partner. it is important. How old are you? Women are most sexually active in their 30's while a man's sex drive begins to decrease in their 30's. How often do you have sex also? Is your husband under a lot of stress? Is he overweight? These things can decrease sex drive. If your only having sex once a week and he's passing it up that can be problematic. If it's every night he may just be tired. Quoting: l3ol3o Men also just get tired after a while. Marriage is not a natural state. Men want to have sex with as many women as they can to spread their genes as much as they can. That is natural. Women are the same way but to a lesser extent. They value loyalty b/c they want someone who can take care of them and their kids. Yet married women will dress sexy when they leave the house but lounge around the house looking like shit for their husbands, the one person they should look sexy for. They still dress sexy in public b/c subconsciously they are still looking for a mate. My point is that marriage or one partner isn't a natural state. B/c of this you need to make things interesting and new. You can be the most beautiful women in the world but after a while you just become stale. Gotta keep things fresh. all idiotic comments aside... most of my quoted comments are somewhat accurate but they lack one element... you must begin to worry about yourself. That does not mean to run out and get some guy for sex. It does, however, mean you might take up sailing, or hiking, or rock climbimg, or a book club....whatever floats your boat. You need to become the distracted one, but it needs to be real. Don't pretend, it will fail epicly. Once he realizes that gal he married is still interesting to others, (not just for sex) he will begin the process of attraction all over again. It can be a little magical during this rediscovery phase. If he does not respond, then you will have created some of what you lost in the marriage as well. New friends, new hobbies, there is no limit. Get out of your comfort zone! much love and luck in your new adventure.  Fool me once, shame on you.....fool me twice shame on me. |
| LydiaE User ID: 26962243 United States11/04/2012 09:10 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | It could be due to a number of things. Porn use, low testosterone levels, drug/alcohol abuse, limerence with another (esp. if one-sided in nature), loss of attraction, boredom, or assholery. Your best bet is to make yourself unavailable. Not because it is a good solution, but because it will allow you to determine whether or not you're involved in some sort of passive-aggressive dynamic. Then act accordingly. You have lots of choices. Discussion. Gettin' some on the side. Divorce. Open marriage. Just be honest and respectful. But, definitely never beg a man for sex or demand it. |
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| Anonymous Coward User ID: 15257059 United States11/04/2012 09:14 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | porn is the problem...better fantasies, without all of the hassle's of pleasing the woman... Quoting: Anonymous Coward 15257059 just being honest. I grew tired of porn, I can't get a boner unless it is with my gf anymore. Porn helped to distract me, it was like a drug for me, sex doesn't do that effect. Now I feel i am going insane, I have anxiety attacks and shit, I need to drink or something to pacify myself. You men really need to be working from early dawn til night, they way it's meant to be. even then, we'd still find time for porn LOL... |
| Anonymous Coward User ID: 15257059 United States11/04/2012 09:17 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Just trying to understand my husbands sex drive. Is it normal that my sex drive is higher than his? What should I do? Quoting: Sparkles 7183572 Either hes fucking weird or he doesn't find you attractive anymore. or he likes FREE PORN!!! Number 1 choice over boring, same every-time sex...why can't women understand it's power of men? |
| Mkguyver User ID: 25800617 United States11/04/2012 09:17 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | |
| Anonymous Coward User ID: 1602900 11/04/2012 09:17 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Any medications or drug habits may do it as well. If you are ttc, try not to be the biggest factor in your sex life. But im pretty sure diet is the main factor. |
| citizenperth User ID: 26121063  Australia11/04/2012 09:18 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | quite seriously, is he closet gay maybe? It's life as we know it, but only just. [link to citizenperth.wordpress.com] sic ut vos es vos should exsisto , denego alius vicis facio vos change , exsisto youself , proprie |
| Soba Master™ User ID: 26895599 United States11/04/2012 09:20 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | |
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| Anonymous Coward User ID: 1395091 Australia11/04/2012 09:21 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | He's either masturbating, or he is stressed & distracted. Guys will still wank even when they have sex on tap - after a while, some guys get lazy & find it easier to get off by just doing it them selves. Usually it's because either you're not there when we're horny, you're on your period, or you're too tired & want to sleep. How to fix it? Nothing but will power. He needs to stop self pleasing him self, & put in a bit more effort in bed. <- this needs to be brought up, because it won't fix its self. & none of this "he's cheating on you" shit. Who ever made this up deserves to be shot "but I know from experience!" no, it's not a safe assumption to make because it's more than likely NOT TRUE. |
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| Anonymous Coward User ID: 2379303 United States11/04/2012 09:25 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | there is nothing more 'unattractive' than a woman that complains or likes to argue. no one likes a negative person...and that negativity totally turns off the sex drive. do something different...like the foot massage follow up suggested....and be positive during the day... if you bitch and complain...that can turn a man off for a full 24 hours afterwards...which will likely turn him to looking at porn.. in other words, the complaining only turns him off TO YOU |
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| Manu-Koelbren User ID: 1312616  Spain11/04/2012 09:26 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Op did another hit and run and the tards are still replying  Banned as usual. “It is far easier to be a weakling than to be a Real Man. Were the Earth less harsh or the circumstances of life less austere, man would destroy himself before the shrine of the languid goddess. Only Real Men can with safety destroy the tangled forests and wilderness of Earth and make from them gardens, but will those who inherit the gardens be Real Men? The law decrees that they must be, or the wilderness will reclaim its own.” |
| Anonymous Coward User ID: 26102818 United States11/04/2012 09:28 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | |
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| Anonymous Coward User ID: 20176142 United States11/04/2012 09:28 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Just trying to understand my husbands sex drive. Is it normal that my sex drive is higher than his? What should I do? Quoting: Sparkles 7183572 Either hes fucking weird or he doesn't find you attractive anymore. Are people like you 14 or what, any relationship that hits "marriage level" of time involves a dip in sexual activity. |
| Anonymous Coward User ID: 14564403 United States11/04/2012 09:31 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | |
| Anonymous Coward User ID: 25777339  New Zealand11/04/2012 09:32 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | when you first meet someone, your pheromones (sex attracting smell) can be quite intoxicating. but after awhile, you sort of become immune to each others pheromones. hopefully by that point tho, you are in love & want to please/make each other happy. maybe try spice up your sex life by getting inventive suggesting new things? i met an amzing chick and we were very in love for about 1 1/2 years. but after awhile we just kinda got bored with each other. still good friends, but we ended it. and now i get to hook up with new people & thats just dandy :D good luck! |
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