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'LIL ANGEL User ID: 1053878 United States 12/04/2012 11:39 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Re: dating&romance advice - see Don´tBeAfraid´s tips/explanations - edited to have only the useful information for ya! Caution is a good thing. Psychopaths too are extremely charming. It takes time to really know someone. I am the Way, the Truth, and the Life. No one comes to the Father except through me. Jesus Christ Stay small(in ego), stay teachable(in life), stay in the basics(keep it simple) and pay attention(to guidance). me Your beliefs don't make you a better person, your behavior does. anonymous |
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Shoot straight Johnny User ID: 28993465 United Kingdom 12/04/2012 11:41 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Re: dating&romance advice - see Don´tBeAfraid´s tips/explanations - edited to have only the useful information for ya! Don't you think you would be better off asking him about his continued online activities than asking us? You would get better and more instant feedback that way. The chariots of God are tens of thousands, and thousands of thousands. |
SnowLeopard User ID: 21080342 Canada 12/04/2012 11:41 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Re: dating&romance advice - see Don´tBeAfraid´s tips/explanations - edited to have only the useful information for ya! Did you discuss your non-negotiable needs in a relationship (e.g. monogamy, marriage, children)? You should do so ASAP so there are no misunderstandings. He will probably be surprised because most people don't know what they want and just jump into a relationship with no goal in mind. If he is not on the same page as you regarding needs, let him go. |
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Mickeyblue User ID: 9806228 United States 12/04/2012 11:50 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Re: dating&romance advice - see Don´tBeAfraid´s tips/explanations - edited to have only the useful information for ya! No one can know, so take it slow and easy. He has introduced you to a friend(s) and taken you to his home so he apparently is not married nor living with someone. Does he speak of his family? Learn a little more, enjoy the moment and do not jump into bed. Do not get needy nor worry too much, it will be or not. |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 4177522 United States 12/04/2012 11:55 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Re: dating&romance advice - see Don´tBeAfraid´s tips/explanations - edited to have only the useful information for ya! It sounds like this guy is very nice and does like you. I like that he put in that straw so you 2 could share the drink, he sounds thoughtful. I have low self esteem too, and I understand how you might feel. However I feel this guy likes you as much as you like him. |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 706857 United States 12/04/2012 12:03 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Re: dating&romance advice - see Don´tBeAfraid´s tips/explanations - edited to have only the useful information for ya! everything sounds find to me, don't know what your beefin about. just chill, everythings fine. he only checks the single site cause it is an addiction. he should be discouraged from it, but he doesn't need to have busted balls over the whole thing. |
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geminilion User ID: 12895036 United States 12/04/2012 12:17 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Re: dating&romance advice - see Don´tBeAfraid´s tips/explanations - edited to have only the useful information for ya! It seems you are getting along with him so I would continue to date him. It's only been 2 weeks and maybe he is playing the field a bit. I wouldn't ask him why he is still logging on to the dating site, it may turn him off because you are just getting to know each other. See what happens but remain guarded, I wouldn't throw away a potential good match for the reason stated. Good luck..I hope it works out for you. ..."The soul is dyed the color of its thoughts. Think only on those things that are in line with your principles and can bear the light of day. The content of your character is your choice. Day by day, what you choose, what you think, and what you do is who you become. Your integrity is your destiny ... it is the light that guides your way." Heraclitus |
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Anonymous Coward User ID: 21676802 United States 12/04/2012 12:43 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Re: dating&romance advice - see Don´tBeAfraid´s tips/explanations - edited to have only the useful information for ya! It never hurts to be straight forward with men. In fact, I believe they prefer it. They aren't wired for the games we play, or the needs that we infer but never outright present to them. When I met my husband (we've been married 10 years) I was very straight forward with him. Right from the begining of dating...I said "we need to have a talk.....these are my needs, this is what I am looking for....this is where I want to head with this...if you don't see yourself going here, it would be best for both of us to not move forward but keep looking...." and I am so thankful he wanted the same outcome. I have tried to be straight forward with him and direct throughout our dating years/marriage. I always tell him exactly what I want or what I am feeling and he does the same for me...the games and the unspoken needs are what hurts people most of the time. and believe me...if I tell him ANYTHING I need (hold my hand in public, tell me you still think I am beautiful, etc) he jumps at the chance to do it. But I know that if I expected him to know what I wanted he would never meet the mark, and vice versa. He tells me what he needs from me (give him a list, give him his personal time to do what he enjoys, etc) and it works so well. but right from the begining....before I would go out a second time or let him hold my hand I wanted to make sure we were on the same page....not as a promise to eachother so soon but as an agreement that neither of us took dating lightly. Sounds to me like you are future minded and don't want something casual. You might want to be direct and make sure you are both on the same page. And I agree wholeheartedly....if your gut is telling you there's something not quite right, then get out of it now, no matter how good it looks. We have those senses for a reason |
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Anonymous Coward User ID: 28593095 Canada 12/04/2012 01:02 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Re: dating&romance advice - see Don´tBeAfraid´s tips/explanations - edited to have only the useful information for ya! Its sounds to me that he really likes you and trusts you, seeing how he left his cell phone with you. He may be logging in to see if you have logged in, who knows, he may be wondering the same thing you are. Lol I think your just being paranoid because it may seem to good to be true like you said, but have faith, be positive, and enjoy your time together. Just think about this, you cannot completely control how this turns out, if its meant to be, then it will be. I would just keep getting to know him, have fun, ask friendly, non threatening questions, and try and trust your intuition. As soon as you see red flags, end it, because red flags are always a sign of worse things to come. Good luck to you:) |
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Anonymous Coward User ID: 20566260 United States 12/04/2012 01:13 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Re: dating&romance advice - see Don´tBeAfraid´s tips/explanations - edited to have only the useful information for ya! Its sounds to me that he really likes you and trusts you, seeing how he left his cell phone with you. Quoting: *~Ocean~* He may be logging in to see if you have logged in, who knows, he may be wondering the same thing you are. Lol I think your just being paranoid because it may seem to good to be true like you said, but have faith, be positive, and enjoy your time together. Just think about this, you cannot completely control how this turns out, if its meant to be, then it will be. I would just keep getting to know him, have fun, ask friendly, non threatening questions, and try and trust your intuition. As soon as you see red flags, end it, because red flags are always a sign of worse things to come. Good luck to you:) :oceanrage: :bigchuckle: |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 28593095 Canada 12/04/2012 01:20 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Re: dating&romance advice - see Don´tBeAfraid´s tips/explanations - edited to have only the useful information for ya! Its sounds to me that he really likes you and trusts you, seeing how he left his cell phone with you. Quoting: *~Ocean~* He may be logging in to see if you have logged in, who knows, he may be wondering the same thing you are. Lol I think your just being paranoid because it may seem to good to be true like you said, but have faith, be positive, and enjoy your time together. Just think about this, you cannot completely control how this turns out, if its meant to be, then it will be. I would just keep getting to know him, have fun, ask friendly, non threatening questions, and try and trust your intuition. As soon as you see red flags, end it, because red flags are always a sign of worse things to come. Good luck to you:) :oceanrage: :bigchuckle: That's Hilarious! Lolo |
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Maguyver User ID: 26423583 United States 12/06/2012 07:34 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Re: dating&romance advice - see Don´tBeAfraid´s tips/explanations - edited to have only the useful information for ya! Forgot to log on. Adversity is inevitable, misery is optional. Do or do not. There is no try. "The enemy will never attack where you are strongest...He will attack where you are weakest. If you do not know your weakest point, be certain, your enemy will." Sun Tzu |
andawg221 User ID: 29208833 United States 12/06/2012 11:27 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Re: dating&romance advice - see Don´tBeAfraid´s tips/explanations - edited to have only the useful information for ya! Sounds like he has been banging chicks he meets online. If he has gone that far out of his way to make you feel comfortable, he was looking to get in your pants and move on to the next girl. No guys are that aware of how a girl feels around his friends. Or asks over and over again. Sorry about your situation op |