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Anonymous Coward (OP) User ID: 77484200 Germany 06/25/2019 08:45 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | OK, so here is the news. I am out. I moved out. On the last weekend I took all my things, I paid everything I should pay and that's it.. Seriously, I love this girl more than anyone else, she's great girl but she has issues. I know that if we would stay living like this something bad would happen, that's for sure. Her family took care of her, she won't be alone. I know that she signed in for a therapy. That's best news so far. And what's next? God only knows. I love her and if everything would be ok I would marry this girl. But there are many problems which can be fixed. I am optymistic. FOR SURE I won't see her, call her for the next few weeks. I need to take care of my life, find good job, take care of my health, visit some old friends. My life is a mess right now but I was brave enough to move out and try again. I refuse to be a man who argue all the time. I want to be happy, I want to be stronger each and every day. We need a break, we need to be at peace. I don't say that we won't be together - I know that I don't want another girl because I love her. We were together 5 years and they were full of love and joy but some parts were terrible. So I will try to fix all bad things and see what's next. Maybe we will be together, maybe not. For the next few months I want to stay single and take care of myself. This was the hardest thing for me to end this relationship but I wish her all the best, I wish all the best for me. My heart isn't broken that much because when we saw each other last time we hugged ourselves, we kissed, we said to each other we love each other so much and that we will see what happen next. I love her the most and because of this I wish her to recover soon, to have good life. If I would be egoist I would do anything to be together but this would end bad now. We need time, we need therapy, we need to take a breath, pray and see what's next. Thanks all for the support! Seriously... I don't know that if I wouldn't post here I would move out on my own.. I am alone in apartment, I miss her, I love her but if I ever wanna to be with her we need time, we need cure, we need to do good things. And we will!! Thanks |
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Anonymous Coward (OP) User ID: 77484200 Germany 06/25/2019 09:15 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | No problem. I feel very weird without her. I seriously thought that I would be crying all the time, that I would be devasted. But I love her and I know that break would help us. Help us as people. I don't know if we will be together. If suddenly she would be cured of her issues and I would take care of my things then there is nothing that could stop us from being together. But reality is different. I am glad that I know some couples who refused to change bad things and they are staying in the same shit over and over. Police come, police go, alcohol, drugs... I don't want this! I feel like I stopped wicked in the right time! We spent together 5 years but if we ever wanna to try again and be together for the rest of our lives we need to repair our lifes and then maybe... I just wish I had my head clear right now to start building new life but you know that's not easy. I thing about her, I care about her and I wish her all the best. God will help me, I am sure he will! |
Anonymous Coward (OP) User ID: 77484200 Germany 06/25/2019 09:16 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | I was living alone few years, it isn't bad :) I am not a dude who need to be in relationship. I have now time to seek new job, maybe even stary new rock bad (I play guitar). I need to hit a gym and start running again. Many things to do! |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 69952205 United States 06/25/2019 09:38 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | ... Quoting: Anonymous Coward 77484200 Nah, she's about 1.5 week after her last period. How do I know this? I like to know this because we don't want to have children and the more I know about her body the more I am in control Okay....but it does sound like you two need to go your separate ways. Not because she thought about killing herself, but because you guys argue so much and to the point she wants to kill herself. Neither of you need that kind of bullshit in your lives....and you're both responsible, if you don't do something fast. Shitty situation. I really love her. I care about her. Maybe I should take some professional help? Jesus, it drives me insane, I really want to spend my life with her. I wish there were some cure, some fix. She needs help, not you. You're just stupid bc pussy. You'd better walk away if you have any common sense. She's bad news. Her guilt trip seems to be working on you. She appears to be more worried about your revenue stream than you. She must also not have much confidence in you to land another job. Just don't commit to any long term relationship and see if you can work it out since you care about her so much. Be ready to back a way from the relationship. Granted, there is give in take in any relationship but she seems to be over the edge. PS: Hide the knives too. |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 69952205 United States 06/25/2019 09:42 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | ... Quoting: cosmicgypsy Okay....but it does sound like you two need to go your separate ways. Not because she thought about killing herself, but because you guys argue so much and to the point she wants to kill herself. Neither of you need that kind of bullshit in your lives....and you're both responsible, if you don't do something fast. Shitty situation. I really love her. I care about her. Maybe I should take some professional help? Jesus, it drives me insane, I really want to spend my life with her. I wish there were some cure, some fix. She needs help, not you. You're just stupid bc pussy. You'd better walk away if you have any common sense. She's bad news. Her guilt trip seems to be working on you. She appears to be more worried about your revenue stream than you. She must also not have much confidence in you to land another job. Just don't commit to any long term relationship and see if you can work it out since you care about her so much. Be ready to back a way from the relationship. Granted, there is give in take in any relationship but she seems to be over the edge. PS: Hide the knives too. I posted above before reading all of the prior pages. I would delete my post but was not logged in. Glad you moved out. |
cosmicgypsy User ID: 74619032 United States 06/25/2019 09:47 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Not that it should actually matter to you, but human to human, I'm proud of you. You chose the high road - sometimes like right now, not the easiest road - and you are practicing maturity and integrity, and I'm just damn proud of you. Do you realize you're one in a million?.... At least in my eyes you are! As far as the feeling weird without her goes, that will lessen as the days go by. Just stick to your resolve, and you'll see your life blossom right before your eyes.... You never change things by fighting the existing reality. To change something build a new model that makes the existing model obsolete. -Buckminster Fuller ...I adapt to the unknown, under wandering stars I've grown, by myself, but not alone... [link to www.youtube.com (secure)] |
Accidental Stoner User ID: 77022301 Finland 06/25/2019 09:54 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | I was living alone few years, it isn't bad :) I am not a dude who need to be in relationship. I have now time to seek new job, maybe even stary new rock bad (I play guitar). I need to hit a gym and start running again. Many things to do! Well, on the other hand, it's cheap and easy for me to say... I'm hitting the age when testosterone levels quite noticeably drop by the month. I don't mind at all, though. So good to lead a drama-free life. :) Good trade-off, methinks. I like the "start new rock band" part Do it! |
unsung4now User ID: 77759329 Germany 06/25/2019 10:01 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | ... Quoting: cosmicgypsy ....I'm not trying to be callous, but could she be premenstrual and her hormones are running amuck, making her batshit? Nah, she's about 1.5 week after her last period. How do I know this? I like to know this because we don't want to have children and the more I know about her body the more I am in control Okay....but it does sound like you two need to go your separate ways. Not because she thought about killing herself, but because you guys argue so much and to the point she wants to kill herself. Neither of you need that kind of bullshit in your lives....and you're both responsible, if you don't do something fast. Shitty situation. I really love her. I care about her. Maybe I should take some professional help? Jesus, it drives me insane, I really want to spend my life with her. I wish there were some cure, some fix. The right decisions are given by the name you mentioned. Learn that and you won't be asking GLP for relationship advice, unless of course it's the correct path to truth. I was with a girl for 8 years and we fought like cats and dogs. I didn't see the right course of action until I had completely sabotaged muy life and the relationship. Don't make the same mistake I did. Pray about it. Talk to her. Tell her how you really feel. God bless. |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 77754514 United States 06/25/2019 10:04 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Are you retarded? Quoting: Anonymous Coward 75679102 No phone calls. Worse is when you both want to have sex. It is a trap. No Phone Calls!!!! If she wants you back and is manipulative wouldn't be surprised for her to come up pregnant. Then you are tied to her in some form for 18 years at least and would be agony raising a child together as it is now. |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 74275797 United States 06/25/2019 10:08 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | And what's next? God only knows. I love her and if everything would be ok I would marry this girl. But there are many problems which can be fixed. I am optymistic. Quoting: Anonymous Coward 77484200 Stop deluding yourself. This woman is hard-wired for crazy DETACH and don't look back You're just trying to tell yourself you're still a good person for leaving her. YOU DIDN'T DO IT FOR HER! YOU DID IT FOR YOU!! The memories will fade and you will meet someone else you deserve and forget the crazy that almost ruined your life. |
odiecody User ID: 68643560 United States 06/25/2019 10:25 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | I am very impressed by you. First, loving another person is not easy. You BOTH have issues or you wouldn't be human. EVERYONE fights, there is no such thing as happy ever after. You've expressed so much love for this woman, and I don't doubt that you do love her. She's very lucky. So are YOU. The important thing is what happened between I love you to wanting to jump out a window. That's the issue here. What made you fall in love with her is still there. Believe me, you will never find another person exactly like her again. If you're willing to loose her for another new partner with new and perhaps more serious issues. I hope that you put yourself in her shoes just for a while, leaving is so easy now days. There's no security in a relationship anymore. Other woman may show attention to you or men to her. The most important thing to remember is letting your partner know without any doubt that no one could take their place. Not for nothin,stayin out of places where single people are looking to hook up is no place to be if you're devoted to someone that you say that you love like no other.If you can't look at your issues, than maybe a dog would be a nice companion.Yet even a dog will bite if you abuse it. Five years in, don't give up. Listen to your heart and stop lookin for strangers to advise you. This is your relationship, go fix it. |
Anonymous Coward (OP) User ID: 77484200 Germany 06/25/2019 11:32 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | I am very impressed by you. First, loving another person is not easy. You BOTH have issues or you wouldn't be human. EVERYONE fights, there is no such thing as happy ever after. You've expressed so much love for this woman, and I don't doubt that you do love her. She's very lucky. So are YOU. The important thing is what happened between I love you to wanting to jump out a window. That's the issue here. What made you fall in love with her is still there. Believe me, you will never find another person exactly like her again. If you're willing to loose her for another new partner with new and perhaps more serious issues. I hope that you put yourself in her shoes just for a while, leaving is so easy now days. There's no security in a relationship anymore. Other woman may show attention to you or men to her. The most important thing to remember is letting your partner know without any doubt that no one could take their place. Not for nothin,stayin out of places where single people are looking to hook up is no place to be if you're devoted to someone that you say that you love like no other.If you can't look at your issues, than maybe a dog would be a nice companion.Yet even a dog will bite if you abuse it. Five years in, don't give up. Listen to your heart and stop lookin for strangers to advise you. This is your relationship, go fix it. Quoting: odiecody 68643560 Thank you for these words. Now I am drinking beers, watching some tv series, trying to forget about all of this because it isn't easy. But tomorrow I will be stronger, I promised this to myself. I have one life, one opportunity. I don't need to be in mental prison for the rest of my life. I wanna to be happy! |
Polkahonkus User ID: 50035467 United States 06/25/2019 01:33 PM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Come off it OP You cut your financial expenses by picking a fight with a woman you can’t afford now and sending her back to her parents. shed be a fool to take you back. You both sound hysterical. Are you Indian? I’m just curious. |
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Anonymous Coward User ID: 77729402 Canada 06/26/2019 06:50 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Dump her. Manipulative mentally unstable people are hell. You do not want this woman as a mother to your children. Call her parents, get her committed to a psyche ward and DUMP HER ASS. I am serious. When you meet a nice sane woman to settle with you will be thankful. Do not kid yourself. Suicide threats are purely about trying to control you. She would sooner die then let you have agency. Think on that. |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 77729402 Canada 06/26/2019 06:52 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | I am very impressed by you. First, loving another person is not easy. You BOTH have issues or you wouldn't be human. EVERYONE fights, there is no such thing as happy ever after. You've expressed so much love for this woman, and I don't doubt that you do love her. She's very lucky. So are YOU. The important thing is what happened between I love you to wanting to jump out a window. That's the issue here. What made you fall in love with her is still there. Believe me, you will never find another person exactly like her again. If you're willing to loose her for another new partner with new and perhaps more serious issues. I hope that you put yourself in her shoes just for a while, leaving is so easy now days. There's no security in a relationship anymore. Other woman may show attention to you or men to her. The most important thing to remember is letting your partner know without any doubt that no one could take their place. Not for nothin,stayin out of places where single people are looking to hook up is no place to be if you're devoted to someone that you say that you love like no other.If you can't look at your issues, than maybe a dog would be a nice companion.Yet even a dog will bite if you abuse it. Five years in, don't give up. Listen to your heart and stop lookin for strangers to advise you. This is your relationship, go fix it. Quoting: odiecody 68643560 Thank you for these words. Now I am drinking beers, watching some tv series, trying to forget about all of this because it isn't easy. But tomorrow I will be stronger, I promised this to myself. I have one life, one opportunity. I don't need to be in mental prison for the rest of my life. I wanna to be happy! Good for you. Don't listen to that idiot. You owe her nothing. You tried. That drama shit aint worth it. People who are nice and sane deserve a chance. Not the crazies. |
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Anonymous Coward User ID: 77758744 United Kingdom 06/28/2019 07:43 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | I am very impressed by you. First, loving another person is not easy. You BOTH have issues or you wouldn't be human. EVERYONE fights, there is no such thing as happy ever after. You've expressed so much love for this woman, and I don't doubt that you do love her. She's very lucky. So are YOU. The important thing is what happened between I love you to wanting to jump out a window. That's the issue here. What made you fall in love with her is still there. Believe me, you will never find another person exactly like her again. If you're willing to loose her for another new partner with new and perhaps more serious issues. I hope that you put yourself in her shoes just for a while, leaving is so easy now days. There's no security in a relationship anymore. Other woman may show attention to you or men to her. The most important thing to remember is letting your partner know without any doubt that no one could take their place. Not for nothin,stayin out of places where single people are looking to hook up is no place to be if you're devoted to someone that you say that you love like no other.If you can't look at your issues, than maybe a dog would be a nice companion.Yet even a dog will bite if you abuse it. Five years in, don't give up. Listen to your heart and stop lookin for strangers to advise you. This is your relationship, go fix it. Quoting: odiecody 68643560 Thank you for these words. Now I am drinking beers, watching some tv series, trying to forget about all of this because it isn't easy. But tomorrow I will be stronger, I promised this to myself. I have one life, one opportunity. I don't need to be in mental prison for the rest of my life. I wanna to be happy! Good for you. Don't listen to that idiot. You owe her nothing. You tried. That drama shit aint worth it. People who are nice and sane deserve a chance. Not the crazies. where are they? |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 77036860 United States 06/28/2019 08:25 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Great on you man! I am sitting here 18 yrs after my girlfriend at the time threatened to throw herself out of a moving car over something very minimal. Not even a full blown argument. Well, now we are getting divorced with a 6yr old and she is not getting the money she wants. So, long story short it looks like we are going to court and she has been telling everyone that I have abused her and that she will get everything! The crazy only gets worse with time. I like you thought I loved her and took HER abuse, manipulation, and cheating over all the years because I thought I loved her. And I do still in a way especially since we share a child. But I saw the writing on the wall earlier and didn't have the resolve to do what you have done. Stick with it! |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 72925222 India 06/28/2019 10:07 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | Great on you man! I am sitting here 18 yrs after my girlfriend at the time threatened to throw herself out of a moving car over something very minimal. Not even a full blown argument. Quoting: Anonymous Coward 77036860 Well, now we are getting divorced with a 6yr old and she is not getting the money she wants. So, long story short it looks like we are going to court and she has been telling everyone that I have abused her and that she will get everything! The crazy only gets worse with time. I like you thought I loved her and took HER abuse, manipulation, and cheating over all the years because I thought I loved her. And I do still in a way especially since we share a child. But I saw the writing on the wall earlier and didn't have the resolve to do what you have done. Stick with it! Love is a mystery, isn't it? |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 42079668 United States 06/28/2019 10:09 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | My job. I am I.T. guy. I was working really hard last year and I saved a lot of money. On January I quitted my job (not very friendly atmosphere, shitty boss) and started new programing language. She is mad at me that I don't have job right now. I have a lot of money saved, I am taking some programing courses right now and I am getting ready for a new job. But she says that her friend thing it's crazy and she is mad at me though I have money, I pay more than her on our apartment etc. You don't have a job therefore she doesn't have her freedom to get cock on the side and do what she wants. Basically she wants your financial support and distance so she can have her freedoms. |
Anonymous Coward User ID: 42079668 United States 06/28/2019 10:12 AM Report Abusive Post Report Copyright Violation | My job. I am I.T. guy. I was working really hard last year and I saved a lot of money. On January I quitted my job (not very friendly atmosphere, shitty boss) and started new programing language. She is mad at me that I don't have job right now. I have a lot of money saved, I am taking some programing courses right now and I am getting ready for a new job. But she says that her friend thing it's crazy and she is mad at me though I have money, I pay more than her on our apartment etc. She's right. You're a millennial snowflake who quits a job because he doesn't like it. She realized she has no future with someone like you. Real men keep working ... even while looking for a new job. She realized that you're not a real man who can be relied upon and that she just wasted several years of her life in a dead-end relationship. Dumbass he is paying all the bills with money he saved. He's going through a career change idiot. She is selfish and wants to go party with her friends or meet up with Chad while he's at work. That's the bottom line. She wants his financial support without him being there so she can have her freedoms. She's tired of him being around her so much right now. |